TTC while BF

Yeah, in my due in group, there has been lots of pregnancies and I can't wait for my turn darn it!

I have moments when I think that if our little guy is our only child we will be so lucky coz he is so wonderful. But would still love another or two haha! I often think I am glad I didn't get pregnant earlier as it has been so lovely having this time with him, I was hoping to get pregnant when he was about 6 months old coz I ain't a spring chicken but now I am SO glad that I didn't.

Congrats! Thats awesome news!

AFM, Im off to the natural health dude for accupuncture tomorow to hopefully help me concieve. Not wanting to stop bf yet, but definatly impatient taht it hasnt happened yet!

I don't even know how to wean..the little fellow still loves his booby.

It's not easy to wean. There's some people that can just give their kid a cup or bottle of milk and that's it, and others who fight for the boob (mine's like that). I cut it down to once a day very gradually by setting 'rules' about where bf happened (on the couch, at bedtime, in bed) then gradually changing them. It certainly took a few months to get from don't offer don't refuse to where we are now. I think I dropped a feed a week. The daytime ones were the easiest (if you want to call it that) to drop since when mine asked I could just distract her. The night ones took a few weeks of back rubbing, drinks of water and crying while I hugged her (usually not crying for more than 5 minutes), but after those few weeks she started sleeping through! I was totally convinced she needed the night time feeds because she was hungry, but after taking them away she got over it. We're still at once a day (AF came back a few weeks after I got rid of the 1,3,5am feeds) before bed.

Edited by Bky

Yep I definatly agree about it being harder after 16months- DD was no trouble to wean gradually and was fully ff by 10months- I had wanted to bf her for at least a year tho, but cos of her and my health problems it was better to stop. DS is 22 months and bf first thing in the morning-like 5.30am *yawn*, and last thing before bed at night-6.30pm. We night weaned him just before his first birthday, and thats when I got AF back. HE gradually dropped the day feeds, but now if he wants it I distract him cos I was sick of him wanting to latch on and off all day and not really feed.
So its only twice a day, but dont know how to drop them, and dont want to stop either- if I was preg I wouldnt even be thinking about weaning.

We have decided to drop the morning feed cos we think that one will be easier than the before bed at night feed, as see if that helps the ttc. Plus Im really not enjoying that first feed of the day because of all the pulling/twisting/pinching my other nipple gets while hes feeding.
Today was Day 1, and DH got Aiden up, but instead of putting him in bed with me to feed he took him out for a walk. DS ate a banana on the way and was happy as. Had breaskfast when they got back and woke me up at 7am, yay for a sleep in, lol. Dont know what we can do about the early rising, our day starts at 5.15am, and usually DS feeds in bed with me til 6am then we get up, but I spend that hole time trying to stop his hand from grabbing at my nipple and its not fun at all. Now we gonna have to get up at that time tho instead of being in bed! I had a shower as soon as I got, and got dressed, cos if I stayed in my pj's I know DS would have been wanting to feed, but now hes not even asked, since Im dressed and he doesnt usually ever feed or hardly ever ask for bf in the day now.

Hi!
Well I think Aiden is weaned- Got him down to just the before bed feed from mid-Nov when I last posted in here- he will still stick his hand down my top and ask for it when Im in my pj's in the morning, but is easily distracted by breakfast.
Have been seroiusly considering trying to stop the last feed too, have talked about it lots with DH but we had no idea how to do it since he loves that last feed and always wants it,....then 3 nights ago DH was dressing DS after his bath and I was helping DD, both in DS's bedroom- then he picked up books and DH was sitting on the bed with him so he just started reading to him- where normlaly I sit on the bed while Im dressing him then bf him straight away,....but I was standing and he wasnt interested, so DH said to give it a go, so I kissed him goodnight and went out with DD,...and he went to sleep for DH without a bf! Been the same for 3 nights now. So, no feeds for over 80hrs,...my boobs are not in the slightest bit full or sore either- I guess cos the weaning was sooo gradual.
Feel happier about it that it hasnt been hard on him, cos we didnt wanna wean cos we thought he would be screaming for it and we didnt want that, but hes been fine. Yay- bring on bfp for us now please!

She is still little though ArielAngel. I tried to wean overnight at 6mths in an effort to get my fertility back and because Plunket told me he didn't need feeding overnight at that age, but it didn't work... We did it at 1yr and it was relatively easy then. I found that DS always wanted a feed when I went in and it was really difficult to settle him without it because he knew it was there! DP did the night settling for a week and that was enough to break the habit. It wasn't much fun listening to him try to settle him but it did the trick and after that week DS wouldn't even ask for a feed when I'd go in to settle him. Settling does take longer than just feeding back to sleep but we mostly have him sleeping through the night now (except for illness, teeth, etc etc!).

ETA: The feed before bed was the last to go, we weaned overnight (and during the day) at about 1yr old and continued to feed before bed at night for another 3-4 weeks, then dropped that one and it wasn't even missed!

Edited by Jaune

It actually hadn't occured to me to night wean until a friend said to me she'd night weaned both her daughters by nine months old. And I know, I shouldn't necessarily go by what others have done, but it got me thinking and so I've given it a try.

I'm not sure my DH is keen on settling Abby in the night instead of me - he already snipes I bit when I ask him to do it in the evenings if DD isn't going to sleep well and I've already been in a few times.

Hi phantom! I was really excited about getting AF back too and never thought I'd be that excited either! Am on second cycle now - will be interesting to see what my cycles do as they were pretty random for the 18 months before we got pregnant.

I have found it weird to be back TTC - but it's definitely been made easier by already having one as she helps me keep my mind off it.