TTC while BF
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Topic: TTC while BF
Posted By: thetravelbugtribe
Subject: TTC while BF
Date Posted: 19 October 2011 at 1:44pm
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DD is 13 months old and we want #2 on the way! We were hoping for less time between them (I know, hard work at first) but perhaps due to DD being a very booby baby, my AF took ages to come back. Have now had 3, not as regular as before but not what anyone would call irregular either I expect. I am still BF but only once or twice a day and sometimes in the middle of the night. There's not a lot left in there for her any more.
Basically I thought I'd introduce myself as anonymously as possible (we aren't announcing we are TTC but I wanted someone to talk to) and hopefully meet some of you in a "due in " forum soon! #1 was conceived quickly so we are hoping for the same again - fingers very crossed. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 19 October 2011 at 3:43pm
Hi there. Mine is coming up on 16 months and my AF is still not back. We'd meant to be TTC #2 well before now, but oh well. I've cut her down to just bedtime and overnight and after this week I'm going to be trying very hard to get rid of the over nights. So I guess I'm more on the way out of BF  but still nominally TTC. I hope ovulation will resume quickly after stopping. I think I almost ovulated this week, but had an increase in BF at the last minute, so while everything looked go my temperature did not go up. ------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 19 October 2011 at 4:15pm
| Im bf my 21 month old, have been ttc for 5 months now. #1 took 1 month, #2 took 2 months, so this is the longest its ever taking up. DS feeds every 12 hrs, right before bed and first thing in the morning. 2 kids were hard enough when #2 was little, so we not worried about a small age gap and I wont be weaning DS any time soon as BF is still great for him even at this age the benefits arent any less than they were when he was younger. |
Posted By: thetravelbugtribe
Date Posted: 19 October 2011 at 8:10pm
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I dont know how long I was planning to bf, possibly not this long, but I would like to wean her before #2 arrives. Though as we are only ttc at the moment, I have a little while. I certainly didnt miss AF. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: phantom_1
Date Posted: 20 October 2011 at 9:34am
Hey, this sounds very similar to me :) though my DD will be 1 on sunday. 
She is very into BF and we are wanting ttc #2. No AF here yet. Bf about 3 times a day then overnight also, hoping she will cut down soon. Good luck! |
Posted By: thetravelbugtribe
Date Posted: 20 October 2011 at 10:27am
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Happy Birthday phantom_1's little girl!
I alternate between being jealous at the other mums in coffee group who are now formula feeding and have freedom from their babies, and loving the closeness I have with DD when I'm feeding her. I know I can still get closeness if she formula fed, but she isnt interested in bottles! She will at times (becoming more frequent as I run out of milk) take a formula / cows milk mix from a sippy cup, but she has to feed her self! Oh well. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 20 October 2011 at 11:18am
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Yeah, I think they have to be ok with bottles from mum before around 9 months or it's just not going to happen that way. Mine was taking a bottle at daycare, but never from me. And then she hated any kind of other milk. I was thinking the other day that I've been working on weaning for too long. I'd intended to cut her off at 1 year if AF hadn't returned, but then with one thing and another it just wasn't right. Plus we just can't beat BF when she gets sick and won't eat or drink anything. I'd not mind continuing at all, but I'd like my fertility back now! ------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |
Posted By: Jaune
Date Posted: 20 October 2011 at 1:03pm
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I'm the same! Desperate to conceive #2 but no AF and still BF...
Have cut out all day feeds except for 1 before bed and in the process of overnight weaning (day 2 - so far so good) in an effort to get my fertility back! If I already had AF or was pregnant I'd happily continue to feed DS but it hasn't worked out that way. I also have PCOS so don't really have much on my side! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: phantom_1
Date Posted: 23 October 2011 at 9:44pm
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Well we had a good party today & shes got her first tooth finally.
Still no AF for me though. Been getting cramps so hopefully its on its way???? |
Posted By: ArielAngel
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 8:01pm
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Gosh, we haven't been "trying", but not preventing either, since this one was born and you guys don't give me much hope for it happening while I'm still breastfeeding!
Since, like Jaune, I have PCOS, I did assume that it probably wouldn't happen while I was still BF but dang! Might get DD used to drinking milk/formula from her sippy cup so that I can look at weaning when she is one - I do feel a little bad that I am putting my desire for another baby ahead of the potential health benefits of BF for longer, but I'm getting older and don't have time to spare! ------------- After 16 months TTC, surprise BFP July 10 DD1 Mar 11 After 9 months TTC, BFP on 4th Clomid cycle Feb 13 DD2 Oct 13 |
Posted By: Jaune
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 11:03pm
I felt exactly the same way...but I'm trying to make myself feel better - a year of BF is awesome! And, I'm sure my current baby will LOVE having a sibling so I'm not really doing him any harm... We have managed to wean (very gradually, he's practically weaned himself) down to 1 BF before bed...and I'm taking vitex, so fingers crossed something happens soon...although I'm not holding my breath! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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ArielAngel wrote:Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 10:07am
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You're all saying how I felt as well. I was 39 and at 8 months the Dr told me that I needed to give up BF'g if I wanted "any chance" of falling pregnant again. I considered this but felt incredibly guilty about it so decided I'd wait until 12 months then think about it again. But AF returned at 12 months and I fell pregnant the 2nd month after that (after taking 3 1/2 years the for our first baby!) and I was still BF'g morning and evening. So I think it's very individual as to how fertile or not you'd be BF'g that amount. Good luck! ------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |
Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 11:04am
I feel much the same way. We're hoping that a sibling would hopefully be of more long term benefit than continued breastfeeding. Our age is a factor here as well. Stopping has proved to be fairly difficult as I have a non-bottle taking, non-milk drinking child.  I've been scaling back BF since around 10 months (and off birth control since 6) with the idea that I could cut back to some point and get my fertility come back. Alas, now nearly at 16 months, down to twice a day (now that night weaning is sort of figured out. Now losing even more sleep, great. ) and still a whole lot of nothing. So as of right now ovulation has 2 more weeks to show up before we're all the way done. Next week is no more morning feed, and the week after the bedtime one.
Since I've been trying to get AF to come back for so long I've read about every method and theory on getting fertility back (and tried most everything, just because it didn't work for me doesn't mean they won't work for you), so here's some statistics: 6-7% of EBF women have AF return before 6 months. 38% of BF women have AF return between 6 and 12 months. 48% of BF women have AF return between 12-24 months 7-8% have AF return after 24 months. For those not using bottles, dummies, working or otherwise separate from the baby, and feeding on demand through night and day (which is not me!) the average age of AF return is 14.6 months. One upside to later fertility return is that the later your fertility returns the more likely it is to be full fertility right away. ------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |
Posted By: Jaune
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 1:14pm
Thanks for that post! I like numbers! And nice to see that my chances of getting AF back in the next 11 months are high!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 1:21pm
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AF returned at 7 months for me, it hasn't been as regular as before DD and have finally finished the mini-pill and waiting for normal cycles to return.
Is everyone taking FA? Does this have any impact on bf? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: ArielAngel
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 8:09pm
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I like numbers too but, dangit, I don't want to wait until DD is two before I get my fertility back! (and knowing my screwy body I would be one of those 7-8%).
Two pregnancy announcements today from people who have babies the same age as my DD has me a bit sad - I love the BF snuggles, but honestly, if DD took a bottle I would be seriously considering cutting down to one or two BF a day right now.
caliandjack - I'm taking FA, didn't think it would have any impact on BF but TBH, didn't check *rushes off to google* ------------- After 16 months TTC, surprise BFP July 10 DD1 Mar 11 After 9 months TTC, BFP on 4th Clomid cycle Feb 13 DD2 Oct 13 |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 8:11pm
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I was wondering if it effected the taste? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: ArielAngel
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 8:15pm
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Apparently folic acid is GOOD to take when you are breastfeeding - yay! ------------- After 16 months TTC, surprise BFP July 10 DD1 Mar 11 After 9 months TTC, BFP on 4th Clomid cycle Feb 13 DD2 Oct 13 |
Posted By: thetravelbugtribe
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 8:31pm
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Well, I'm in that 38% band. Still another week or so till AF is due, so keeping these fingers crossed. I'm also taking folic acid.
Not sure where (maybe on here) but I heard/read that BFing when TTC increases the chance of twins. Gulp. They also run in the family. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: ArielAngel
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 9:16pm
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FX for you twotravelbugs!
I've heard that about BFing too and they run in my family - both on my mothers and fathers side of the family - so I have two of the "risk factors". I totally would love twins though - I've wanted them since I was little and we moved a lot - I always thought how awesome it would be always have that playmate! ------------- After 16 months TTC, surprise BFP July 10 DD1 Mar 11 After 9 months TTC, BFP on 4th Clomid cycle Feb 13 DD2 Oct 13 |
Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 02 November 2011 at 3:29pm
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Hi Ladies, I would like to come and join this thread, we like you Ariel have not be trying or preventing since dd was born. I got my AF back at 6 months even though fully breastfeeding - what I was wondering is as I have my AF back does that mean I am fully fertile or does BFeeding still reduce the chance of getting pregnant? I really want number 2 but really dont want to stop feeding until 12 months. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 02 November 2011 at 4:05pm
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Hi Candybear. Short answer is, it can.
Long answer is some women find that they have short luteal phases if they are breastfeeding which can affect things. There's also the chance that you'd be transitioning to full fertility. So you may have had an anovulatory cycle. Chances are your fertility is probably back, though your cycles might be irregular. Best way to check is probably to temperature chart. I finally got mine back too. So now really TTC and still BF. ------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |
Posted By: ereynolds
Date Posted: 03 November 2011 at 9:58am
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Thanks for the info Bky. We are TTC #2 while still BF (AF been back 7 months and we have been trying ever since) so are trying to cut our night feed and just have an evening one. I had been hoping to tandem feed, though so far no BFP. When AF arrives I am going to start charting (day 34 and a neg test yesterday, so I'm assuming my body is being a pain) ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 04 November 2011 at 1:22pm
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Thank Bky, got my af today only 4 days late (dam getting me excited!) ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 07 November 2011 at 10:47pm
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Im getting a bit grumpy about this whole thing now. Im am breastfeeding and Im pretty sure its stopping number three from being made. I cant take my booby babe off the breast for something that may or may not happen - its her favourite thing in the whole world - but grrr stupid body for being so touchy about it!
I want to tandem feed too, but the longer it takes the less likely, although I do like the possibility of concieving twins while breastfeeding, being older and subsequent pregnancy, and lots of twins in my family :) ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 08 November 2011 at 7:02am
| I could have written that post myself!! Im bf #2 who is now 22 months, and am taking a lot longer to concieve #3 than the other 2 took. Dont wanna stop bf as we both love it, and I would feel terrible if I weaned DS to get preg, and it was actually another reason why we not getting preg instead of just being the bf. I wouldnt even be thinking about weaning if I was already preg, and would be happy to tandam feed too. |
Posted By: phantom_1
Date Posted: 08 November 2011 at 12:23pm
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Still no AF here either, I have tried getting my girl to take formual at night (I think it may help improve her sleeping also) but no luck!
Teething doesn't help matters either, she had no teeth then turned 1 and BAM we're onto to the third in 3 weeks! Lack of sleep + grumpy baby = no BD'ing either lol. 
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Posted By: thetravelbugtribe
Date Posted: 08 November 2011 at 7:34pm
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It does work, I am still BF #1 and have just had a BPF for #2. Not that DD is getting a lot, I think we are down to a mouthful or two and some comfort sucking. I however dont want to tandem feed. I only had two real AFs and one miserly thing before getting UTD.
Good luck to everyone, I hope its your month soon! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Jaune
Date Posted: 08 November 2011 at 9:05pm
Congrats TTB! I'd been lurking and saw that already!!
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Posted By: thetravelbugtribe
Date Posted: 08 November 2011 at 9:07pm
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Thanks Jaune, baby brain has set in already and I'd forgotten what forums I'd posted it in!
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 08 November 2011 at 11:30pm
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congrats!!!
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Posted By: SpringMum
Date Posted: 09 November 2011 at 3:31am
| Hi, I'm still bfing DD 3 times a day and she turns one this month. No sign of AF and no plans to wean any time soon. I've loved not having AF, BUT it's a pain as we'd love to TTC #2 - by that I mean I'd love to track and not just randomly BD in the hope that we'll be succesful! |
Posted By: phantom_1
Date Posted: 09 November 2011 at 7:40am
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I've never done any tracking or anything, where would I start? Any tips?
We're still doing 3 BF's per day plus a bit of comfort at night. |
Posted By: Jaune
Date Posted: 09 November 2011 at 8:44am
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Go to fertilityfriend.com and sign up - they send you all the tutorial emails to teach you what you need to know and you just need to get a BBT thermometer. You take your temperature every morning before you get up and that's about it. Very straight forward. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 09 November 2011 at 3:46pm
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I second the fertility friend recommendation. The other thing you can do is keep an eye on your cervical mucus. In short wet= more fertile. There's a fantastic book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It's not specifically about TTC while BF, more TTC and fertility awareness, but it does have really helpful information if you are curious.
I temped for a long time when I was anovulatory and breastfeeding (versus now where I have ovulated and I'm waiting to do so again) and I can definitely tell the difference. For one, when I was anovulatory my temperatures were erratic. They never stayed in the same range (either high or low) for more than 3-4 days. By range I mean within 0.1-0.2 degrees C of each other. Now (pre ovulation) they are consistently low. Other tips, well the guidelines for doing BBT say that you should have gotten 2-3+ hours of uninterrupted sleep before taking your temperature. However, when you're dealing with a small person who wakes through the night the realities of that are tricky. I find personally that if I don't actually get up and walk around my temperature doesn't change, and that getting up makes your temperature go up. ------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |
Posted By: frankie
Date Posted: 09 November 2011 at 5:18pm
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Hey girls, interesting forum!
My DD is 1 next week and still BF's 4 times a day. I don't want to wean her to conceive but we'd really like to have another (well, most days we feel that way!). We had a hard time conceiving DD and eventually I got a BFP after doing IUI. So since she was 6 mths old we've been "not trying not preventing". I had a light bleed for 2 days last week, but it was mostly just brown clots and the odd smear of brown blood (sorry TMI!) so I'm not sure if it was AF making her return or not. Has anyone charted before AF returned to work out if they are ovulating or not? I haven't charted before and I don't want to get too hung up on the whole TTC thing again, so I'm not sure yet whether I'll try charting, but just interested to hear others stories. Congrats TTB! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: phantom_1
Date Posted: 11 November 2011 at 1:28pm
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Hi Ladies
Thanks for the info re tracking temps. I may look into that a bit more. Frankie: Has anyone charted before AF returned to work out if they are ovulating or not? I haven't charted before and I don't want to get too hung up on the whole TTC thing again, so I'm not sure yet whether I'll try charting, but just interested to hear others stories. This is exactly what I was wondering. Any answers re this would be helpful
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Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 11 November 2011 at 5:18pm
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I did chart before my AF came back. I found that I could tell within a few days (at least 3-4) what was up, but then I had charted before. Everyone's temps will be slightly different, but for me anything under 36.4C for 3-4 days in a row meant ovulation was coming. Anything over 36.6 for more than 3-4 days in a row meant ovulation had happened. When I was not ovulating my temp would bounce around in both ranges, never staying on one side for more than 3 days in a row. ------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |
Posted By: Jaune
Date Posted: 11 November 2011 at 7:16pm
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Same as Bky here...
I've been charting for 115 days (!) and while I've had fertility signs, such as EWCM and sore nipples, an actual ovulation only occurred recently which happened to coincide with almost weaning DS. BF makes your temperatures really rocky, (up and down all the time and no consistency) as does waking up at all times of the night...but it has been good to see when/if I'm actually fertile. Unfortunately I think we might've missed this egg, but only time will tell... (and the really annoying thing is that with PCOS I have no idea if it'll happen again next month!! )------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 11 November 2011 at 8:28pm
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I'm still BF my little fellow, but I was sooo lucky (not) and got AF back when he was 3 months and trust me, there was a LOT of night feeding going on so dunno why I was such a lucky ducky. Kinda glad tho as have not been using any birth control since he was born (he is 23 months) and tho my cycles are regular as anything with all the signs of fertility, nothing happened until last month which ended in a miscarriage.
So I do wonder sometimes if it affected fertilty but also have to wonder if it will always take us ages since it was 18 months to conceive DS. Our bodies are all so different huh. ------------- 
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Posted By: ArielAngel
Date Posted: 13 November 2011 at 1:59pm
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Wow, don’t come in here for a week and there are heaps of posts!
Firstly. Congrats to twotravelbugs on your BFP! I tried charting, but as I was often anovulatory (sp?) I never really got to see a pattern and just gave up. I think I did it for three/four months. Took us 18 months to conceive our bubs too Nutella. Although I fully expect it to take at least that long this time around I really do wish that it wouldn’t take that long. There is already one girl in my coffee group who is pregnant and everyone is wondering/asking who will be next – wish it could be me and kinda sucks that I quite possibly will watch them all get pregnant before me. But on a positive note, I was watching DH with DD today at her swimming lesson, and my heart was just bursting and I think she is just so wonderful and I am blessed to even have just one baby so I think, if we couldn’t have any more, that I would be ok. ------------- After 16 months TTC, surprise BFP July 10 DD1 Mar 11 After 9 months TTC, BFP on 4th Clomid cycle Feb 13 DD2 Oct 13 |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 13 November 2011 at 10:53pm
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Yeah, in my due in group, there has been lots of pregnancies and I can't wait for my turn darn it!
I have moments when I think that if our little guy is our only child we will be so lucky coz he is so wonderful. But would still love another or two haha! I often think I am glad I didn't get pregnant earlier as it has been so lovely having this time with him, I was hoping to get pregnant when he was about 6 months old coz I ain't a spring chicken but now I am SO glad that I didn't. -------------
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Posted By: notenufchaos
Date Posted: 14 November 2011 at 12:01pm
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Hi all i got pregnant with DD2 while still BF DD1 however after ttc number 3 for five months and not getting pregnant (first two conceived first month of no BC)i decided to wean and see if that helped DD2 was 20 months so i didnt feel too bad especially now as i got pregnant first cycle after she weaned. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 1-25/05/2008 DD 2-2/2/2010 |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 14 November 2011 at 7:32pm
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Congrats! Thats awesome news!
AFM, Im off to the natural health dude for accupuncture tomorow to hopefully help me concieve. Not wanting to stop bf yet, but definatly impatient taht it hasnt happened yet! |
Posted By: notenufchaos
Date Posted: 15 November 2011 at 10:31am
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good luck Kellz i conceived cycle 6 so fingers crossed you do as well. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD 1-25/05/2008 DD 2-2/2/2010 |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 15 November 2011 at 6:18pm
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I don't even know how to wean..the little fellow still loves his booby. -------------
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 15 November 2011 at 6:46pm
| I have that same problem too Nutella! I was talking about it at playgroup today, saying I have no idea how- one (non-bf) friend said- "just dont feed him- go cold turkey",...um yeah thahts the only thing Im definatly NOT going to do- not good for mum or baby. |
Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 16 November 2011 at 7:43am
It's not easy to wean. There's some people that can just give their kid a cup or bottle of milk and that's it, and others who fight for the boob (mine's like that). I cut it down to once a day very gradually by setting 'rules' about where bf happened (on the couch, at bedtime, in bed) then gradually changing them. It certainly took a few months to get from don't offer don't refuse to where we are now. I think I dropped a feed a week. The daytime ones were the easiest (if you want to call it that) to drop since when mine asked I could just distract her. The night ones took a few weeks of back rubbing, drinks of water and crying while I hugged her (usually not crying for more than 5 minutes), but after those few weeks she started sleeping through!  I was totally convinced she needed the night time feeds because she was hungry, but after taking them away she got over it. We're still at once a day (AF came back a few weeks after I got rid of the 1,3,5am feeds) before bed.------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |
Posted By: Jaune
Date Posted: 16 November 2011 at 9:42am
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We're the same here Bky! Sleeping through now that I'm not feeding overnight...and I thought he really needed the overnight feed too. And the funny thing is, even if he doesn't have a massive dinner (like last night, hardly ate anything) he still sleeps through. My sister said their digestive systems change, they're not little babies anymore than need regular feeding overnight, and they're not growing as quickly.
We still have 1 feed before bed but I don't think there is actually much in there anymore, I think it's more about comfort. With the day ones I did don't offer, don't refuse but found that he was always asking, so I used a method suggested by someone in my due in thread. 1st time he asked I offered water, second time he asked I offered milk in a cup, 3rd time he got the boob...but he was usually happy with the other options and we never got to the boob. Overnight was a bit harder - I had DP go in for all night wake-ups for a week and that was enough to break the habit. He doesn't even ask for milk now on the odd time he does wake up in the night. I have heard that it's harder to wean after 15/16mths because their memory is more developed. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 17 November 2011 at 7:17am
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Yep I definatly agree about it being harder after 16months- DD was no trouble to wean gradually and was fully ff by 10months- I had wanted to bf her for at least a year tho, but cos of her and my health problems it was better to stop. DS is 22 months and bf first thing in the morning-like 5.30am *yawn*, and last thing before bed at night-6.30pm. We night weaned him just before his first birthday, and thats when I got AF back. HE gradually dropped the day feeds, but now if he wants it I distract him cos I was sick of him wanting to latch on and off all day and not really feed.
So its only twice a day, but dont know how to drop them, and dont want to stop either- if I was preg I wouldnt even be thinking about weaning. |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 17 November 2011 at 10:49am
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Same here, tho since I did get pregnant then I suppose it is not affecting my fertility. DS is only having maybe 2 BF a day, in the morning and then the dreaded night feed haha, which I should really stop as I need to get more sleep...
I still like feeding him...so not sure I am ready let alone him being ready. -------------
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 18 November 2011 at 7:50am
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We have decided to drop the morning feed cos we think that one will be easier than the before bed at night feed, as see if that helps the ttc. Plus Im really not enjoying that first feed of the day because of all the pulling/twisting/pinching my other nipple gets while hes feeding.
Today was Day 1, and DH got Aiden up, but instead of putting him in bed with me to feed he took him out for a walk. DS ate a banana on the way and was happy as. Had breaskfast when they got back and woke me up at 7am, yay for a sleep in, lol. Dont know what we can do about the early rising, our day starts at 5.15am, and usually DS feeds in bed with me til 6am then we get up, but I spend that hole time trying to stop his hand from grabbing at my nipple and its not fun at all. Now we gonna have to get up at that time tho instead of being in bed! I had a shower as soon as I got, and got dressed, cos if I stayed in my pj's I know DS would have been wanting to feed, but now hes not even asked, since Im dressed and he doesnt usually ever feed or hardly ever ask for bf in the day now. |
Posted By: ArielAngel
Date Posted: 29 December 2011 at 5:27pm
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How is everyone here doing? I hope you all had a great Christmas and are looking forward to the New Year.
I've FINALLY got AF back - it was nice to get the first one so now I feel like we are officially TTC, but I only had a 25 day cycle which was a bit odd. Am working on night weaning DD by the end of January which I'm hoping will increase my fertility, and if not pregnant by the end of March I will look at weaning altogether. Kellz, how has the cutting out the morning feed gone? Am also thinking of taking Vitex - anyone in here have experience with it? I'm working my way through a few threads I've found on here about it. ------------- After 16 months TTC, surprise BFP July 10 DD1 Mar 11 After 9 months TTC, BFP on 4th Clomid cycle Feb 13 DD2 Oct 13 |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 January 2012 at 8:17am
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Hi!
Well I think Aiden is weaned- Got him down to just the before bed feed from mid-Nov when I last posted in here- he will still stick his hand down my top and ask for it when Im in my pj's in the morning, but is easily distracted by breakfast. Have been seroiusly considering trying to stop the last feed too, have talked about it lots with DH but we had no idea how to do it since he loves that last feed and always wants it,....then 3 nights ago DH was dressing DS after his bath and I was helping DD, both in DS's bedroom- then he picked up books and DH was sitting on the bed with him so he just started reading to him- where normlaly I sit on the bed while Im dressing him then bf him straight away,....but I was standing and he wasnt interested, so DH said to give it a go, so I kissed him goodnight and went out with DD,...and he went to sleep for DH without a bf! Been the same for 3 nights now. So, no feeds for over 80hrs,...my boobs are not in the slightest bit full or sore either- I guess cos the weaning was sooo gradual. Feel happier about it that it hasnt been hard on him, cos we didnt wanna wean cos we thought he would be screaming for it and we didnt want that, but hes been fine. Yay- bring on bfp for us now please! |
Posted By: ArielAngel
Date Posted: 14 January 2012 at 6:05pm
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I'm glad the weaning went well Kellz! Although I think it would be nice to not be "tied" to DD so much, I know I'll be sad when I won't have that one special thing any more.
I'm working on night weaning but it's not going so well - it was easy enough to cut down to just one night feed (with just cuddles at any other wake-ups) but trying to cut out that last feed is resulting in numerous wake-ups, each of which requires feeding to go back to sleep (and I'm not so keen on being awake 2-3hours a night while I try to just settle her back to sleep when I know with feeding she'll be back asleep within ten minutes (and so will I!)). ------------- After 16 months TTC, surprise BFP July 10 DD1 Mar 11 After 9 months TTC, BFP on 4th Clomid cycle Feb 13 DD2 Oct 13 |
Posted By: Jaune
Date Posted: 15 January 2012 at 11:29am
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She is still little though ArielAngel. I tried to wean overnight at 6mths in an effort to get my fertility back and because Plunket told me he didn't need feeding overnight at that age, but it didn't work... We did it at 1yr and it was relatively easy then. I found that DS always wanted a feed when I went in and it was really difficult to settle him without it because he knew it was there! DP did the night settling for a week and that was enough to break the habit. It wasn't much fun listening to him try to settle him but it did the trick and after that week DS wouldn't even ask for a feed when I'd go in to settle him. Settling does take longer than just feeding back to sleep but we mostly have him sleeping through the night now (except for illness, teeth, etc etc!).
ETA: The feed before bed was the last to go, we weaned overnight (and during the day) at about 1yr old and continued to feed before bed at night for another 3-4 weeks, then dropped that one and it wasn't even missed! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 15 January 2012 at 11:39am
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We night weaned just before his first birthday with daddy doing the night settling instead of me too- I had to feed him once in the night the first night and then it was done.
So glad we did 2 years total tho- that was my goal 
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Posted By: ArielAngel
Date Posted: 16 January 2012 at 10:11am
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It actually hadn't occured to me to night wean until a friend said to me she'd night weaned both her daughters by nine months old. And I know, I shouldn't necessarily go by what others have done, but it got me thinking and so I've given it a try.
I'm not sure my DH is keen on settling Abby in the night instead of me - he already snipes I bit when I ask him to do it in the evenings if DD isn't going to sleep well and I've already been in a few times. ------------- After 16 months TTC, surprise BFP July 10 DD1 Mar 11 After 9 months TTC, BFP on 4th Clomid cycle Feb 13 DD2 Oct 13 |
Posted By: phantom_1
Date Posted: 21 January 2012 at 12:15pm
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Hi Ladies, not much been happening in here... I'm just posting coz I'm very excited! Got AF back today (never thought I'd be so happy about it lol). Still BFing but I knew something was going on this week, thought I was UTD but next best thing really. First one in 15 months (after having my daughter).
What do I do now? |
Posted By: ArielAngel
Date Posted: 21 January 2012 at 2:14pm
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Hi phantom! I was really excited about getting AF back too and never thought I'd be that excited either! Am on second cycle now - will be interesting to see what my cycles do as they were pretty random for the 18 months before we got pregnant.
I have found it weird to be back TTC - but it's definitely been made easier by already having one as she helps me keep my mind off it. ------------- After 16 months TTC, surprise BFP July 10 DD1 Mar 11 After 9 months TTC, BFP on 4th Clomid cycle Feb 13 DD2 Oct 13 |