Etiqutte Q - takjing baby to baby shower

A question... I have been invited to a baby shower and am not sure whether to take my 8 week old son. I can't get hold of the host to ask, and the location is the pregnant friend's house. I am sure they would say its fine to bring DS, but I wonder if it could take some of the attention away from the mummy-to-be and it is more appropriate to leave DS with his daddy.

I would not even think about it...I would take the baby.

My DD was about 8 weeks old when I went to a friends...well it wasnt a normal baby shower, more a girls afternoon with pampering for the mother to be! I didnt think twice about taking her along and she slept in the cot there.
If you want to be sure, try and get hold of the host again but im sure if it was a no-go, they would have mentioned it to you

I would see what they say... My friend allowed me to bring my 12 week old girl but I felt that she would be fine with her dad and MIL for a couple of hours so I didn't bring her in the end as I wanted to enjoy myself.

Some people seem to be fine with it, other's not...

I would ask first, I personally wouldn't have a problem with having a baby or babies come to mine, simply because it'd be nice to be able to cluck over the baby, etc!

I wouldn't even think twice, i'd just take baby with meet, and like someone else said, in a very short while she will understand exactly what its like.


ETA - he'll probably just sleep the whole time anyway

Edited by MamaT

I invited a friend to my baby shower with older kids 5 & 2 and I didn't even once think she wouldn't bring them. And she did, and it was fine. I'm sure your friend knows you have a baby and would probably expect you to have him with you.
I wouldn't even think about it, I'd just take him lol.

ive been invited to 4 baby showers since DS was born
1st - i was asked to bring him, but was still recovering from CS so didnt go.
2nd - i asked and they said yes - he was about 3/4 months old.
3rd one i missed coz i felt gross, but he was welcome there too.
4th (upcoming) - ive been asked to bring him.

but i wouldnt hesitate to leave him with DP if they didnt want focus moved.


tbh - ive never noticed the focus being on DS instead of mum to be. sure when you turn up everyone is like 'baby!' and loose their minds (lol!) but you might get a few questions - the usual 'how are they sleeping/feeding/rolling/walking/crawling/talking etc' and a few 'oh they are so cute' comments - but then focus goes back to mum 2 be. especially at present time.



if it were me and DS was 8 weeks old i would take him. especially if he was BF. but if you are worried then keep trying to contact the host (even through mutual friends) to double check

I guess if it was no kids they would say on the invite.

I had one that strictly said no children. DD was 1 at the time so much older. It was a someone elses very flash non child proof house and we were all drinking booze so i guess thats the reason.

Thanks so much for all your replies. They've been really helpful.

I figure it could be about 3 hours away from home with travel etc taken into account, so will take him with me, and see how it goes. DS will probably squawk the whole time (since it in the afternoon and he tends to) so I probably won't hang around for long anyway

I went to a close friends baby shower and I didnt take DD (DH looked after for me) she was very welecome! Also there were two other babies there as well! But I guess it depends on the hostess but I am pretty sure she wouldnt mind as soon enough she will understand!

GL