Etiqutte Q - takjing baby to baby shower
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Topic: Etiqutte Q - takjing baby to baby shower
Posted By: shesmiles
Subject: Etiqutte Q - takjing baby to baby shower
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 11:35pm
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A question... I have been invited to a baby shower and am not sure whether to take my 8 week old son. I can't get hold of the host to ask, and the location is the pregnant friend's house. I am sure they would say its fine to bring DS, but I wonder if it could take some of the attention away from the mummy-to-be and it is more appropriate to leave DS with his daddy. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: julz85
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 11:40pm
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I guess it probably helps to find out if there are going to be other babies/children at the baby shower . I dont think she would mind , It is after all a 8 week old baby , for alot of reasons ( for example if you are breastfeeding) people understand that a 8 week old baby is hard to not have with you , but if you are happy with leaving him for an hour or so then go and have a wee break to yourself :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 7:20am
| I would not even think about it...I would take the baby. |
Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 7:25am
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Its a hard one.
Some i have been to allow kids some dont. He is only 8 weeks old though so id take him, i would if my child was 8 weeks old. -------------  
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Posted By: Keleho
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 7:35am
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My DD was about 8 weeks old when I went to a friends...well it wasnt a normal baby shower, more a girls afternoon with pampering for the mother to be! I didnt think twice about taking her along and she slept in the cot there.
If you want to be sure, try and get hold of the host again but im sure if it was a no-go, they would have mentioned it to you  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 7:55am
And lets face it, even if she gets grumpy now, in a few weeks time she'll have her own baby and realise what she was asking you to do by leaving him behind and all will be forgiven  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 8:13am
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I would see what they say... My friend allowed me to bring my 12 week old girl but I felt that she would be fine with her dad and MIL for a couple of hours so I didn't bring her in the end as I wanted to enjoy myself.
Some people seem to be fine with it, other's not... I would ask first, I personally wouldn't have a problem with having a baby or babies come to mine, simply because it'd be nice to be able to cluck over the baby, etc! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 9:31am
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I am the same as Jazzy. I always took my babies everywhere with me ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 9:31am
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I wouldn't even think twice, i'd just take baby with meet, and like someone else said, in a very short while she will understand exactly what its like.
ETA - he'll probably just sleep the whole time anyway -------------  
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Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 11:16am
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I wouldn't even ask to be honest! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Whateversville
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 1:57pm
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I invited a friend to my baby shower with older kids 5 & 2 and I didn't even once think she wouldn't bring them. And she did, and it was fine. I'm sure your friend knows you have a baby and would probably expect you to have him with you.
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 2:00pm
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Babies - wouldn't think twice about taking them
Toddlers - nope ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 3:04pm
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ive been invited to 4 baby showers since DS was born
1st - i was asked to bring him, but was still recovering from CS so didnt go. 2nd - i asked and they said yes - he was about 3/4 months old. 3rd one i missed coz i felt gross, but he was welcome there too. 4th (upcoming) - ive been asked to bring him. but i wouldnt hesitate to leave him with DP if they didnt want focus moved. tbh - ive never noticed the focus being on DS instead of mum to be. sure when you turn up everyone is like 'baby!' and loose their minds (lol!) but you might get a few questions - the usual 'how are they sleeping/feeding/rolling/walking/crawling/talking etc' and a few 'oh they are so cute' comments - but then focus goes back to mum 2 be. especially at present time. if it were me and DS was 8 weeks old i would take him. especially if he was BF. but if you are worried then keep trying to contact the host (even through mutual friends) to double check 
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 3:59pm
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I didn't even think to ask when I went to a baby shower when DD was 8wks old - I just took her with me and she slept in her pram most of the time, or was feeding.
I didn't take her to the one when she was 8months though. It probably would have been ok (I didn't ask though) but I just left her at home with DH. ETA my cousin brought her then 12wk old baby to my baby shower and I didn't think anything of it, was great to see a tiny baby and know I'd be having one of those soon ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 4:24pm
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I guess if it was no kids they would say on the invite.
I had one that strictly said no children. DD was 1 at the time so much older. It was a someone elses very flash non child proof house and we were all drinking booze so i guess thats the reason.
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 5:27pm
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I know Lisa, one of the feb 10 mums had an issue where she was asked not to bring her wee girl! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: shesmiles
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 9:04pm
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Thanks so much for all your replies. They've been really helpful.
I figure it could be about 3 hours away from home with travel etc taken into account, so will take him with me, and see how it goes. DS will probably squawk the whole time (since it in the afternoon and he tends to) so I probably won't hang around for long anyway ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kazper
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 9:11pm
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I took DD to a baby shower when she was 6 months old without thinking about it. She got some cuddles from other ladies and people clucking, but the main focus was still the mother to be and she loved having DD there and got plenty of cuddles in herself and asked me lots of questions about what to expect since she was still young. ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/545141" rel="nofollow">  |
Posted By: Flossie
Date Posted: 23 January 2011 at 4:30pm
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I went to a close friends baby shower and I didnt take DD (DH looked after for me) she was very welecome! Also there were two other babies there as well! But I guess it depends on the hostess but I am pretty sure she wouldnt mind as soon enough she will understand! GL ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 23 January 2011 at 6:24pm
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If it was my baby shower, I'd be hoping for cute little babies to be there I had two 3 month old babies at mine and was happy they were there.
I took DS to one when he was about 6/7 months old, but probably wouldn't now unless I knew there were going to be other kids the same age there. I definitely find whenever I get asked to bring DS places it's as MyLilSquishy says - 5 min focus on him then back to the party ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 23 January 2011 at 7:14pm
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i would take him..and I'm sure she would be fine with it..i made it clear no children at mine..i even said so but i got three children there.. i wanted to only have breastfeeding children there ... ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 23 January 2011 at 7:16pm
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might i clarify the kids who came were toddlers so yeah it was awkward:(! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Manda08
Date Posted: 23 January 2011 at 7:20pm
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I held a baby shower for a friend end of last year and had a guest ask if she could bring her 5 week old baby and i said if she didnt i would send her home to get her and then she could come back! The rest of us with toddlers didnt take ours as we all wanted a relaxing afternoon. ------------- 
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 23 January 2011 at 7:22pm
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I think it depends on the mum to be , some prefer the attention solely on them, so love to have babies there so long as you know what sort of person your friend is, just go with that.
I had my baby shower yesterday and had no problem having kids of any age there, I don't think I ever would have cared for one of my baby showers, I tend to like to be accomadating and I know that for some mums taking their children is easier, but I went to my friend's baby shower the week before and there would have been no way Id feel comfortable taking Tyler to that. ...Actually , that was worse imo, cos my friend and I are due the same day so im just as big as her and it wasn't just her that the pregnancy focus was on ------------- 
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Posted By: AbzandH
Date Posted: 23 January 2011 at 7:51pm
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I'd definitely take a bub so little! Just be prepared that your wee babe may be pass the parcel.
I told friends with "babies" as in not moving they were welcome, but not older as my sister held it at her house and was definitely not mobile baby proof. Non bought them, but a friend bought her 8 year old who ate like a pig, drank about a litre of coke and made a complete pain of herself! Grrrr it really annoyed me because I would've put on the invite other kids names if I knew she would bring her anyway. |