Blindsided

I had assumed, when TTC wasn't working and I had my surgery and learned that things weren't so good for us, that the next step would be fertility treatment. Last night though, with my period looming *again*, I raised 'the next step' and when we'd take it - and it turns out, DH and I not on the same page.

We've talked about infertility and treatment, and I knew that, at this stage, he doesn't want to look at IVF. I was quite surprised that he is against first stage fertility treatment as well, and he's obviously been giving it some thought.

It's a development I wasn't expecting, and it's given me a lot to think about. I'm really not entirely sure how I feel about it at *all*. To be honest, I'm probably a bit shocked. I think that with time he may come to terms with fertility treatment, but it will take time.

Wow!

wow, that would be a...surprise. Why is he againest? is it a reason that may cahnge once he's had more time to get used to it, or a reason that will never change (e.g. religious reasons)? We are here for you though, if you need to vent!

Hey Ginger. Im sorry to hear of the situation you and your Dh are finding yourselves in. A friend of mine is trying this treatment

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Apparently its worked for lots of women and its relativly cheap too.

all the best

Pardon the terrible joke, but you're quite right Lou ...it's very much 'baby' steps with these DH's of ours!!

Whatever happens though, damned if I'm going to give up yet

Hiya Ginger,

My DH and I spent 2 years TTC my now 7 month old, the 2 longest years of my life!  I dont know much about endo, I have PCOS and wasnt ovulating at all.  We did 7 rounds of clomid which was ok for DH as it didnt *really* involve him, only doing his bit at the right time lol!  We spent alot of money seeing a specialist from wellington and our next step was injectables, which scared the crap outta me, and definelty DH!  Personally I think it was easier for him to say throw in the towel than to go through (and watch me go through) any more heartache!  What are your options for fertility treatment?  I know my DH wouldnt even discuss IVF at the time, it seemed like such a big thing, although I would have done ANYTHING!  Good luck to you, if I can answer any clomid or injectable questions for you I would be happy to help!

Sounds like a typical male to me! One day out of the blue he will start talking about it after he's mulled it all over - thats what mine is like anyway. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you guys soon

Aww chicka i hope he comes round it just sounds like he needs to be educated on what happens. I would think that IVF would be a last resort. Let him know that if u go on clomid it has a good rate of success! I was successful first round and some people after 3 rounds.

That's great to know Lou ...thank you!

Having given this quite a bit of thought, I actually think the problem for DH is that he hasn't acknowledged yet that we may not be able to do this by ourselves, and so until it becomes an issue, it's not an issue for him. Do you know what I mean? But, I'll collect all my ammo and see how he's feeling in a few months if we're still unsuccessful.

Just quietly, I hve a little hope for this month. Well, hope in the sense that it's not *impossible*.

I don't have a triphasic chart, but I also have barely any period symptoms. I know that the surgery may well have kicked in and that's why, but I'm am just storing up a wee bit of hope because it's different. I also have an increasing amount of CM (TMI I'm sorry...) and my body is producing extra mucus all round at the moment. Of course, it's more likely that it's just a cold trying to come on Also on the TMI front, I've had some cramping, but not a lot, and also what seems a lot like vaginal aching. It's the only way to describe it.

When I woke up this morning (well, at 4.30am) my first thought was "I'm going to be sick" and managed to hold it off by deep breathing and lying *really* still ...and it wasn't so bad when I got up properly at 6am, and then passed over the next half hour or so. I thought to myself "If I'm going to get morning sickness, I could at *least* be pregnant!!". Ha! *Sigh*

I'll keep y'all posted. And I'm not kidding myself - I have my period-emergency kit in my handbag

Ha! Hehe I'd no sooner posted the above crappola and I started getting this rather odd feeling downstairs ...sort of like cramps, but it doesn't hurt.

*Gasp*

I wonder .....

Maybe ......

Just maybe .....

..........

I'm finally having a *normal* period!

Hehe