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Subject: 4640
Posted: 02 December 2006 at 2:38pm

awww ginger heres hoping there a bean for xmas ]]> Sat, 02 Dec 2006 14:38:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90957&title=blindsided#90957 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Thanks everyone ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90696&title=blindsided#90696 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 01 December 2006 at 11:06am

Thanks everyone ]]> Fri, 01 Dec 2006 11:06:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90696&title=blindsided#90696 <![CDATA[Blindsided : I bet if you plan a big ragey...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90553&title=blindsided#90553 Author: my2angels
Subject: 4640
Posted: 30 November 2006 at 8:30pm

I bet if you plan a big ragey new years you will get pregnant and wont be able to drink therefor ruining all your plans although you will be so over the moon it wont matter anyway.
Good luck everyone TTC!]]> Thu, 30 Nov 2006 20:30:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90553&title=blindsided#90553 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Ginger I think that&#039;s a good...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90539&title=blindsided#90539 Author: busymum
Subject: 4640
Posted: 30 November 2006 at 8:06pm

Ginger I think that's a good idea because it gives you guys a chance to go home and talk about it and no pressure to go back to the Doc until you're ready. As opposed to going off to see the Doc with a semi-agenda in mind.

Sorry about the drop but have a nice Christmas/New Years break.]]> Thu, 30 Nov 2006 20:06:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90539&title=blindsided#90539 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Ginger you are very sweet! I&#039;m...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90472&title=blindsided#90472 Author: Lulu
Subject: 4640
Posted: 30 November 2006 at 4:31pm

Ginger you are very sweet!
I'm sorry you've had a temp drop I think your plan for waiting until next feb/mar is a good one. It takes the short term pressure off DH and gives you some time over Christmas to hopefully relax. My thoughts are always with you ]]> Thu, 30 Nov 2006 16:31:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90472&title=blindsided#90472 <![CDATA[Blindsided : I think that is a great idea Ginger....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90289&title=blindsided#90289 Author: Sarah Beth
Subject: 4640
Posted: 30 November 2006 at 8:32am

I think that is a great idea Ginger. baby steps with these men is often best.

Shame about the temp drop, but great news no cramps have been present!]]> Thu, 30 Nov 2006 08:32:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90289&title=blindsided#90289 <![CDATA[Blindsided : My temp took a *huge* dive this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90279&title=blindsided#90279 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 30 November 2006 at 8:21am

My temp took a *huge* dive this morning, so my period will be here some time today. And I'm OK, honestly. I didn't expect any different. Not really. The hope gets a little less every cycle, but so does the heartbreak, so it evens itself out a bit.

I've been thinking about all your wonderful suggestions vis a vis fertility treatment, and what I'm going to do is wait for the end of my 6th cycle after the surgery (so end Feb/beginning March) and rather than jump into suggesting fertility treatment, for DH's sake, I'll suggest just seeing a specialist and finding out what's *involved* in fertility treatment so we can research and think about it, and DH can see if he is comfortable with it. Do you guys think that'll work?

Thank you all so much for your ongoing support. You've all been there for me for a long time now, and it means a lot. I really appreciate it

And now, please focus *all* your energy on Lou so we can kick her out of the TTC thread this month!! ]]> Thu, 30 Nov 2006 08:21:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90279&title=blindsided#90279 <![CDATA[Blindsided : yay ginger thats great news ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90247&title=blindsided#90247 Author: james
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 10:38pm

yay ginger thats great news ]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 22:38:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90247&title=blindsided#90247 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Normal periods are a godsend i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90100&title=blindsided#90100 Author: Guests
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 7:31pm

Normal periods are a godsend i didnt believe they existed till i had Ella i dont need ANY pain relief now WOOHOO!!! Its heavy but not painful and its over in a matter of a couple of days YER! OMPH!

I really hope you gets ur normally if u get it at all that is ]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 19:31:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90100&title=blindsided#90100 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Just remember it&#039;s not over...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90075&title=blindsided#90075 Author: Paws
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 4:27pm

Just remember it's not over until the fat lady sings!! But hey I'm guessing a normal period would be good news too would it?]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 16:27:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90075&title=blindsided#90075 <![CDATA[Blindsided : OH Yay!!! That is so great, no...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90051&title=blindsided#90051 Author: Sarah Beth
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 2:58pm

OH Yay!!! That is so great, no Pain!!!]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 14:58:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90051&title=blindsided#90051 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Ha! Hehe I&#039;d no sooner...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90050&title=blindsided#90050 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 2:57pm

Ha! Hehe I'd no sooner posted the above crappola and I started getting this rather odd feeling downstairs ...sort of like cramps, but it doesn't hurt.

*Gasp*

I wonder .....

Maybe ......

Just maybe .....

..........

I'm finally having a *normal* period!

Hehe ]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 14:57:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90050&title=blindsided#90050 <![CDATA[Blindsided : I will be honest Ginger, that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90047&title=blindsided#90047 Author: Sarah Beth
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 2:51pm

I will be honest Ginger, that thought has gone through my mind this montha bout you too...]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 14:51:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90047&title=blindsided#90047 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Just quietly, I hve a little hope...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90044&title=blindsided#90044 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 2:44pm

Just quietly, I hve a little hope for this month. Well, hope in the sense that it's not *impossible*.

I don't have a triphasic chart, but I also have barely any period symptoms. I know that the surgery may well have kicked in and that's why, but I'm am just storing up a wee bit of hope because it's different. I also have an increasing amount of CM (TMI I'm sorry...) and my body is producing extra mucus all round at the moment. Of course, it's more likely that it's just a cold trying to come on Also on the TMI front, I've had some cramping, but not a lot, and also what seems a lot like vaginal aching. It's the only way to describe it.

When I woke up this morning (well, at 4.30am) my first thought was "I'm going to be sick" and managed to hold it off by deep breathing and lying *really* still ...and it wasn't so bad when I got up properly at 6am, and then passed over the next half hour or so. I thought to myself "If I'm going to get morning sickness, I could at *least* be pregnant!!". Ha! *Sigh*

I'll keep y'all posted. And I'm not kidding myself - I have my period-emergency kit in my handbag ]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 14:44:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90044&title=blindsided#90044 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Yup, totally know what you mean....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90003&title=blindsided#90003 Author: Lulu
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 1:46pm

Yup, totally know what you mean. My DH kept saying 'it will happen' and I know that he was trying to be supportive. However once we found out it was a male fertility issue then there was no barriers in the way to proceeding with fertility treatment. There was no argument.]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 13:46:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=90003&title=blindsided#90003 <![CDATA[Blindsided : That&#039;s great to know Lou...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89993&title=blindsided#89993 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 1:24pm

That's great to know Lou ...thank you!

Having given this quite a bit of thought, I actually think the problem for DH is that he hasn't acknowledged yet that we may not be able to do this by ourselves, and so until it becomes an issue, it's not an issue for him. Do you know what I mean? But, I'll collect all my ammo and see how he's feeling in a few months if we're still unsuccessful.]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 13:24:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89993&title=blindsided#89993 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Also I just thought I&#039;d add...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89933&title=blindsided#89933 Author: Lulu
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 10:27am

Also I just thought I'd add some more ammo for you when you are talking to DH... If you do end up considering the IVF route, in our case DH hasn't really had to be involved too much at all. I was lucky enough to have next to no side effects from the drugs, so I was not irritable or anything. The only time that DH had to turn up was once when we signed the consent forms and yesterday he had to provide his 'sample' and hold my hand during egg collection. That was it! ]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 10:27:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89933&title=blindsided#89933 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Aww chicka i hope he comes round...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89877&title=blindsided#89877 Author: Guests
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 8:38am

Aww chicka i hope he comes round it just sounds like he needs to be educated on what happens. I would think that IVF would be a last resort. Let him know that if u go on clomid it has a good rate of success! I was successful first round and some people after 3 rounds.]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 08:38:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89877&title=blindsided#89877 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Hey I just wanted to send big...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89871&title=blindsided#89871 Author: Paws
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 8:34am

Hey I just wanted to send big hugs to you!

I hope you DH does come around soon, just remember....keep communicating!! Arming yourself with plenty of info is a good idea...he may be more freaked out about the process than anything else. ]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 08:34:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89871&title=blindsided#89871 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Sounds like a typical male to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89864&title=blindsided#89864 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 8:24am

Sounds like a typical male to me! One day out of the blue he will start talking about it after he's mulled it all over - thats what mine is like anyway. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you guys soon ]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 08:24:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89864&title=blindsided#89864 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Thanks for that KiwiMummy ...Basically,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89861&title=blindsided#89861 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 29 November 2006 at 8:21am

Thanks for that KiwiMummy ...Basically, my (endo) specialist said that if we're not pg by the new year she would refer me to Fertility Associates for the next stage. I'm not too sure what *their* first step would be though. I had assumed fertility medication. I think you hit the nail on the head though - DH would rather say stop than see me break every cycle. Plus, I think it is easier to cope with saying 'enough' yourself, than for it to be out of your control, and having to acknowledge that you just cannot conceive.

Funny story - I gently reminded DH that with endo, I couldn't really *do* the waiting game ...and bless him, he said to me "You could just have the surgery again, and then we can do it." I said "Do what?" and he said "Can't they do the IVF while they're in there?" What can you do? ]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2006 08:21:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89861&title=blindsided#89861 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Hiya Ginger, My DH and I spent...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89701&title=blindsided#89701 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 4640
Posted: 28 November 2006 at 3:38pm

Hiya Ginger,

My DH and I spent 2 years TTC my now 7 month old, the 2 longest years of my life!  I dont know much about endo, I have PCOS and wasnt ovulating at all.  We did 7 rounds of clomid which was ok for DH as it didnt *really* involve him, only doing his bit at the right time lol!  We spent alot of money seeing a specialist from wellington and our next step was injectables, which scared the crap outta me, and definelty DH!  Personally I think it was easier for him to say throw in the towel than to go through (and watch me go through) any more heartache!  What are your options for fertility treatment?  I know my DH wouldnt even discuss IVF at the time, it seemed like such a big thing, although I would have done ANYTHING!  Good luck to you, if I can answer any clomid or injectable questions for you I would be happy to help!

]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2006 15:38:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89701&title=blindsided#89701 <![CDATA[Blindsided : And thank you Angelnz - I really...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89698&title=blindsided#89698 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 28 November 2006 at 3:32pm

And thank you Angelnz - I really appreciate the link! I think I'm going to have to arm myself with information for DH in the coming months!]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2006 15:32:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89698&title=blindsided#89698 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Pardon the terrible joke, but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89696&title=blindsided#89696 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 28 November 2006 at 3:30pm

Pardon the terrible joke, but you're quite right Lou ...it's very much 'baby' steps with these DH's of ours!!

Whatever happens though, damned if I'm going to give up yet
]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2006 15:30:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89696&title=blindsided#89696 <![CDATA[Blindsided : big hugs Ginger, that would be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89687&title=blindsided#89687 Author: Lulu
Subject: 4640
Posted: 28 November 2006 at 3:05pm

big hugs Ginger, that would be a difficult situation to swallow, but from my experience (of course it can be different for all of us), my DH came around and in the end totally supported fertility treatment. When your DH sees how much this means to you, he may be able to swallow his fears and move on. You can only take these things day by day. ]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2006 15:05:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89687&title=blindsided#89687 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Hey Ginger. Im sorry to hear...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89669&title=blindsided#89669 Author: AlyAyde
Subject: 4640
Posted: 28 November 2006 at 1:31pm

Hey Ginger. Im sorry to hear of the situation you and your Dh are finding yourselves in. A friend of mine is trying this treatment

(link to discussion)neurolink

Apparently its worked for lots of women and its relativly cheap too.

all the best
]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2006 13:31:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89669&title=blindsided#89669 <![CDATA[Blindsided : Thanks both of you I don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89659&title=blindsided#89659 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 28 November 2006 at 12:48pm

Thanks both of you

I don't know that *he* knows entirely, which is probably why *I* don't know either! He likes to think through every aspect of something before talking about it - especially so that he can talk about it in a way that I'll understand his position, and not just think "AARRGGGHHH!!!" ...and I think I raised fertility treatment before he'd finished mulling it over every which way. I think he is thinking about what we've been through so far, and what we still may have to go through, and how hard it's been, and I think that he just wants to have our lives back - you know, move forward and plan for things that *will* happen. Hopefully he'll talk some more when he's ready.]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2006 12:48:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89659&title=blindsided#89659 <![CDATA[Blindsided : wow, that would be a...surprise....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89650&title=blindsided#89650 Author: lizzle
Subject: 4640
Posted: 28 November 2006 at 12:28pm

wow, that would be a...surprise. Why is he againest? is it a reason that may cahnge once he's had more time to get used to it, or a reason that will never change (e.g. religious reasons)? We are here for you though, if you need to vent!]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2006 12:28:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89650&title=blindsided#89650 <![CDATA[Blindsided : How do you guys feel about fostering/adoption...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89642&title=blindsided#89642 Author: busymum
Subject: 4640
Posted: 28 November 2006 at 11:27am

How do you guys feel about fostering/adoption instead? I think people are either 100% happy or 100% unhappy with those ideas but just another thing to throw in. Hope you do get your wish someday though, the emotional rollercoaster must be really hard for you.]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2006 11:27:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89642&title=blindsided#89642 <![CDATA[Blindsided : I had assumed, when TTC wasn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89622&title=blindsided#89622 Author: ginger
Subject: 4640
Posted: 28 November 2006 at 9:27am

I had assumed, when TTC wasn't working and I had my surgery and learned that things weren't so good for us, that the next step would be fertility treatment. Last night though, with my period looming *again*, I raised 'the next step' and when we'd take it - and it turns out, DH and I not on the same page.

We've talked about infertility and treatment, and I knew that, at this stage, he doesn't want to look at IVF. I was quite surprised that he is against first stage fertility treatment as well, and he's obviously been giving it some thought.

It's a development I wasn't expecting, and it's given me a lot to think about. I'm really not entirely sure how I feel about it at *all*. To be honest, I'm probably a bit shocked. I think that with time he may come to terms with fertility treatment, but it will take time.

Wow! ]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2006 09:27:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=4640&PID=89622&title=blindsided#89622