Tips on telling work mates ...

This Friday I am telling my team at work that I am pregnant.

I told my boss last week and he was great, but I am nervous about telling my team, particularly as one woman I work with has been struggling to get pregnant and was recently told there's a 95% chance she can't conceive.

While I know I have every right to be happy, I can't help but worry that she is going to resent me, even though I would never try to make her uncomfortable ...

Does anyone have any advice or tips?

I think maybe if you tell her first in private and explain that you've heard she is having difficulty TTC and that you didn't want her to find out with everyone else incase it makes her uncomfortable or whatever... She might feel a little better about it that way?

Then you can tell everyone else!

GL with everything!

I was going to suggest Nkap's post and say maybe tell her an hour before in private, then if she needs to go have a wee moment then she can with out everyone else watching.. I think I would appreciate it if it was me... GL!

I have to say that I don't totally agree with what the others have said. If you take her aside first it may make a bigger deal about i and make her feel worse. If she is close to you then this may work but if you aren't close or she hasn't necessarily spoken to you about her TTC problems then it may not be a good idea. Maybe just try and keep the announcement a bit low key. It can be hard when you are so happy.

When I announced that I was pg with #2 I didn't know that one of the other girls was having trouble TTC at the time and apparently she looked quite down for a moment (according to someone else) but she then quickly congratulated me. If I had taken her aside then I think it may have hurt her more

Oh if it was me I'd hate to think that the intimate details of my reproductive system was public knowledge

I think just don't make it a party with balloons and cake, just slip it into the gossip mill. "Oh by the way I'm pregnant! Yeah it's great, so when you see me getting fat don't panic." Tell a few work mates and everyone will know by lunch time

If you do it as a big group I'd do it at a time that she can congratulate you but then slip off easily if necessary, so not at the beginning of a meeting or something like that - if you know what you mean?

It's a nice idea telling her first if she knows everyone knows about her trouble, but personally if it had been me you were telling (we had some problems conceiving too), I think I'd prefer it in an email so I didn't have to have an immediate happy reaction face to face. I could feel a little sad for myself for a bit, then compose and congratulate you. It's definitely a hard one and so dependent on the person, but it's nice that you're wanting to consider her feelings.

I can't believe doing it as a big annoucement either, or if I was having problems being taken aside to be told

All I did was tell a couple of people and let it get around everyone else like Babe did. It was great

I'ld just tell a few workmates that I'm closest to and let the gossip mill do the rest.
In fact I've already told my closest workmates as my rushing to the loo to puke was getting a little obvious and needed some cover.

I think your plans are spot on. I was that person trying to conceive and failing and watching others fall pregnant around me. Nothing makes it easier but telling her on her own will let her deal with it a bit in private before having to face it in a group. And in reality, she'll be happy for you in a painful way.

Update:

Well I told the girl I work with this afternoon and was a bit overwhelmed at how touching her reaction was - she was so happy and excited and it felt like the more I tried to play it down the more she wanted to congratulate me.

It can't be easy and she was a real trooper, I really admire her.

Right, feel much better that's out of the way!