https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 01 Sep 2026 02:28:54 +0000 Sat, 10 Oct 2009 20:27:46 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=29225 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=802241&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#802241 Author: Babe
Subject: 29225
Posted: 10 October 2009 at 8:27pm

Glad it went well Pants ]]> Sat, 10 Oct 2009 20:27:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=802241&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#802241 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=801767&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#801767 Author: Pants
Subject: 29225
Posted: 10 October 2009 at 10:03am

Hard to say really, everyones different.

My work place is very very relaxed and we don't really have formal announcements for anything and everyone has a say in every decision that is made. If it was more formal environment perhaps an team meeting / announcement might have worked but as we are all quite close knit and have regular weekly 1on1 catch up's it seems to suit better to tell her in person.

I'm sure it's not easy either way but she was just brilliant. Just want to get on with it now and not have my pregnancy being a the big elephant in the office moving forwards ]]> Sat, 10 Oct 2009 10:03:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=801767&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#801767 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=801635&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#801635 Author: High9
Subject: 29225
Posted: 09 October 2009 at 10:21pm

Thats good, so do you think she appreciated being told in private then?]]> Fri, 09 Oct 2009 22:21:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=801635&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#801635 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=801379&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#801379 Author: Pants
Subject: 29225
Posted: 09 October 2009 at 6:42pm

Update:

Well I told the girl I work with this afternoon and was a bit overwhelmed at how touching her reaction was - she was so happy and excited and it felt like the more I tried to play it down the more she wanted to congratulate me.

It can't be easy and she was a real trooper, I really admire her.

Right, feel much better that's out of the way!]]> Fri, 09 Oct 2009 18:42:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=801379&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#801379 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=800632&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#800632 Author: Paws
Subject: 29225
Posted: 09 October 2009 at 9:01am

I agree, I think that sounds like the best way to handle it.

I know from when we had problems falling pregnant with Miss M (nowhere near as serious as hers mind you) that I appreciated when I was given a heads up so I could react in private. I'm sure she will be happy for you though.]]> Fri, 09 Oct 2009 09:01:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=800632&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#800632 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=800449&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#800449 Author: luvmylittlies
Subject: 29225
Posted: 08 October 2009 at 9:25pm

I think your plans are spot on. I was that person trying to conceive and failing and watching others fall pregnant around me. Nothing makes it easier but telling her on her own will let her deal with it a bit in private before having to face it in a group. And in reality, she'll be happy for you in a painful way.]]> Thu, 08 Oct 2009 21:25:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=800449&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#800449 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=800421&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#800421 Author: Pants
Subject: 29225
Posted: 08 October 2009 at 9:04pm

Thanks everyone

I wasn't going to make an announcement but as I manage team of 4 I need to tell them rather than sending an email or letting them find out via someone else.

Think I'll tell her quietly alone tomorrow when we have our usual weekly catch up, with no fuss but i wont bring up that she is having difficulties. She told me after a few wines months and months ago and hasn't mentioned since so not sure I feel comfortable mentioning.

Ek, not easy. Will let you know how goes and thanks again ]]> Thu, 08 Oct 2009 21:04:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=800421&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#800421 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799794&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799794 Author: didi99
Subject: 29225
Posted: 08 October 2009 at 12:36pm

I'ld just tell a few workmates that I'm closest to and let the gossip mill do the rest.
In fact I've already told my closest workmates as my rushing to the loo to puke was getting a little obvious and needed some cover.]]> Thu, 08 Oct 2009 12:36:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799794&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799794 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799742&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799742 Author: Febgirl
Subject: 29225
Posted: 08 October 2009 at 11:53am

I just sent an email (after I'd told my boss in person) to the team I work with saying something along the lines of no I haven't been eating too many pies, I'm actually having a baby - pretty low key and casual. ]]> Thu, 08 Oct 2009 11:53:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799742&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799742 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799612&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799612 Author: kebakat
Subject: 29225
Posted: 08 October 2009 at 9:54am

I can't believe doing it as a big annoucement either, or if I was having problems being taken aside to be told

All I did was tell a couple of people and let it get around everyone else like Babe did. It was great]]> Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:54:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799612&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799612 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799583&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799583 Author: Babe
Subject: 29225
Posted: 08 October 2009 at 9:30am

Yeeks I couldn't imagine making an announcement about being pregnant lol I just told a couple of workmates and let it get around by itself. That way nobody feels on the spot if they're having TTC issues too. Thats the way I'd do it anyway ]]> Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:30:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799583&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799583 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799578&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799578 Author: tiptoes
Subject: 29225
Posted: 08 October 2009 at 9:27am

If you do it as a big group I'd do it at a time that she can congratulate you but then slip off easily if necessary, so not at the beginning of a meeting or something like that - if you know what you mean?

It's a nice idea telling her first if she knows everyone knows about her trouble, but personally if it had been me you were telling (we had some problems conceiving too), I think I'd prefer it in an email so I didn't have to have an immediate happy reaction face to face. I could feel a little sad for myself for a bit, then compose and congratulate you. It's definitely a hard one and so dependent on the person, but it's nice that you're wanting to consider her feelings.

]]> Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:27:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799578&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799578 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799456&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799456 Author: T_Rex
Subject: 29225
Posted: 08 October 2009 at 7:23am

I'm with Jelly. I had a list of 4-5 people that I wanted to hear it from me (my immediate supervisors and a couple of good mates) so I went and told each of them individually and left it at that. It didn't take long to spread around the whole building! But I'm not one for making a big deal out of things anyway.]]> Thu, 08 Oct 2009 07:23:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799456&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799456 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799436&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799436 Author: Jelly
Subject: 29225
Posted: 07 October 2009 at 11:39pm

Oh if it was me I'd hate to think that the intimate details of my reproductive system was public knowledge

I think just don't make it a party with balloons and cake, just slip it into the gossip mill. "Oh by the way I'm pregnant! Yeah it's great, so when you see me getting fat don't panic." Tell a few work mates and everyone will know by lunch time ]]> Wed, 07 Oct 2009 23:39:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799436&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799436 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799402&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799402 Author: Inlove28
Subject: 29225
Posted: 07 October 2009 at 10:01pm

Yeap I agree tell her in private first. If it was me I would be greatful, but at the same time dont make too big a deal of it.... Good luck hun]]> Wed, 07 Oct 2009 22:01:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799402&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799402 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799378&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799378 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 29225
Posted: 07 October 2009 at 9:44pm

I have to say that I don't totally agree with what the others have said. If you take her aside first it may make a bigger deal about i and make her feel worse. If she is close to you then this may work but if you aren't close or she hasn't necessarily spoken to you about her TTC problems then it may not be a good idea. Maybe just try and keep the announcement a bit low key. It can be hard when you are so happy.

When I announced that I was pg with #2 I didn't know that one of the other girls was having trouble TTC at the time and apparently she looked quite down for a moment (according to someone else) but she then quickly congratulated me. If I had taken her aside then I think it may have hurt her more]]> Wed, 07 Oct 2009 21:44:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799378&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799378 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799353&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799353 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 29225
Posted: 07 October 2009 at 9:26pm

Makes me think how lucky I am to be the only woman in my workplace!

I sent an email lol]]> Wed, 07 Oct 2009 21:26:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799353&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799353 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799298&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799298 Author: Emmi_
Subject: 29225
Posted: 07 October 2009 at 8:56pm

I was going to suggest Nkap's post and say maybe tell her an hour before in private, then if she needs to go have a wee moment then she can with out everyone else watching.. I think I would appreciate it if it was me... GL!]]> Wed, 07 Oct 2009 20:56:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799298&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799298 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799295&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799295 Author: Paws
Subject: 29225
Posted: 07 October 2009 at 8:55pm

I would actually find the opportunity to tell her in private to prepare her so to speak, give her time if she needs it to compose herself before you make the big main announcement. Let her know that you can appreciate how she might be feeling.]]> Wed, 07 Oct 2009 20:55:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799295&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799295 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799294&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799294 Author: High9
Subject: 29225
Posted: 07 October 2009 at 8:55pm

I think maybe if you tell her first in private and explain that you've heard she is having difficulty TTC and that you didn't want her to find out with everyone else incase it makes her uncomfortable or whatever... She might feel a little better about it that way?

Then you can tell everyone else!

GL with everything! ]]> Wed, 07 Oct 2009 20:55:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799294&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799294 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799257&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799257 Author: Berg19
Subject: 29225
Posted: 07 October 2009 at 8:37pm

You do have every right to be happy. Maybe when you tell them try not to make it seem like your gloating about it. Im sure she would understand your not trying to make her feel uncomfortable, maybe she will just need some time. Hope it goes well for you and good luck with your pregnancy.]]> Wed, 07 Oct 2009 20:37:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799257&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799257 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799224&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799224 Author: Pants
Subject: 29225
Posted: 07 October 2009 at 8:18pm

This Friday I am telling my team at work that I am pregnant.

I told my boss last week and he was great, but I am nervous about telling my team, particularly as one woman I work with has been struggling to get pregnant and was recently told there's a 95% chance she can't conceive.

While I know I have every right to be happy, I can't help but worry that she is going to resent me, even though I would never try to make her uncomfortable ...

Does anyone have any advice or tips?
]]> Wed, 07 Oct 2009 20:18:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29225&PID=799224&title=tips-on-telling-work-mates#799224