Kinda Weird and Creepy....

I think that is terribly rude.

Maybe if they had gotten into a discussion with her whereby she expressed an intention to adopt out her child. But otherwise... potentially traumatic for the pregnant woman.

How creepy... why can't they just go through adopting a kid the right way???

You should read australian cosmo then cos they pretty much promote abortion as a form of contraceptive, its totally disgusting and the reason I stopped by their mag.

But back to the topic, its a bit presumptious to assume that just because someone is a waitress they are having a baby they didn't plan or want.

I did use abortion instead of adoption so I TOTALLY get that. I didn't think I could deal with the thought that my "baby" was out there and I had abandoned her. I felt that terminating when I did was more of an elimination of the "what if"

Family planning's official line is not to encourage one over the other but to present options. I have talked with the Chief Exec on this quite a bit.

MrrsMojo wrote: p.s. no need to apologise, I still love you (but disagree with me again and it's over )

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And yes, I agree that sometimes the company line doesn't filter down.

Excuse me for jumping to FP's defence... I'm just never gonna let go of that place

Hmm, I think that is a really risky thing to do, to assume that a young pregnant woman would be interested in adopting her child to you. So many women could be really offended by that. It is really heartbreaking that the couple are that desperate though.


RE: Abortion promotion
When I was first pregnant with Ella I went to an A&E to get the pregnancy confirmed and was given a long talk about the process of termination because I said that the pregnancy was unplanned.
Then when I went for the dating scan a few days later the sonographer took me aside on my way to the toilet afterward and gave me a similar talk.
I think both people were just trying to make me feel unjudged if I were thinking about it, which is great IMO (although not so great when I was absolutely bursting for a wee after the scan!), but it is a little sad that no one said a word to me about the possibility of adoption as an alternative at all because I imagine that it is just as scary to come to terms with the idea of that as it is to be considering termination.

I had the opposite.

When I was pregnant with Hannah I considered termination my first option and was given more information on adoption and keeping the kiddo than the other way around.

20 seems awfully low but I do know that the number of adoptions has definitely been decreasing.

As the article has said, the increase in social welfare and ease of access to terminations.

I consider the access to terminations a good thing but not the increase in number. I would prefer it if there were no unplanned pregnancies in the first place! I know that I would have suffered a whoooole lot less trauma if I had been able to choose the timing of my pregnancy. That'll teach me for having sex huh?.... or not.

ETA "the timing of"

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Woah really? That low??

How come from the article linked above there is a quote saying 87?

    

wrote: Christchurch GP Dr Hilary Cleland said women with crisis pregnancies were stressed and termination seemed like a quick solution to their situation at the time. "With only 87 (adoptions) happening in 2006, there's going to be a huge surplus of potential adoptive families out there. A lot of them would be great parents."

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