ugh..unwanted advice

anyone else get unwanted advice? particularly from family members (my sister for me). I co-sleep at night with DS and everytime she comes round its the same thing "is he still sleeping in your bed?" "how long is he gonna do that for?" "is he there every night and all night?" "you know its gonna be sooo hard to get him to sleep in his own bed, you need to let him 'learn' to go to sleep by himself" grrrr its everytime she comes over now and ive tried telling her that i dont believe in crying it out personally, and co-sleeping for us at night is great, DS sleeps from 7pm till 7am everynight (still night snacks which is good for me as i dont have to get out of bed ) it really bothers me and because she had a son (6 years ago) she seems to think she knows everything... oh another thing is friggin tummy time, DS is not crawling yet, which i told her isnt a problem yet, ive had friends whos bubs didnt crawl till 11 months, and she constantly tells me "he needs more time on his tummy" ugh ugh is all i can think, what does everyone do in this situation, just telll her to back off and i dont want her advice?
(sorry for long post..woops!)

just smile, nod, maybe go hmmm and then do what you want anyway...    sometimes saying things like oh, thats interesting or good point .. is enough to shut them up - makes them think you actually give a damn about what they saying!

Yeah same lines as Bizzy but then continue what I am doing or I just continue doing what I am doing and say something like why fix what isn't broken, it's working for us.

ETA: Or we'll cross that bridge when we get to it!

Edited by Lil_Nic9

i'd do the opposite to Bizzy, but probably cos i'm argumentative!

No really she's your sis and you're going to see and hear a lot from her so i'd just set her straight in the nicest possible way. "I love you and appreciate you raised your boy and he turned out great BUT i love sleeping with Tyler, we are happy as a family doing this and it hurts me when you question my parenting all the time. By all means think what you like but please stop going on at me about it" If she brings stuff up again just tell her that this is one of those things you'll have to agree to disagree about.

If you do it nicely and slip in some compliments about her boy she can't get her back up but you've made it clear where you stand and she should stop hassling you, otherwise she'll just keep going on and on.

If it was someone i hardly saw then i'd do what Bizzy said.

Not really commenting on the unwanted advice as such....but we co-slept for a while and at the time it was exactly what we all needed to get some sleep. I was starting to get a bit defensive about it as people can be sooooo negative about it and sooooo opinionated. And one day my 90 year old grandmother who is a mother of 9 herself said to me "good on you girl, you don't see baby animals sleeping on one side of the hedge with the parents on the other" and I loved that so much I started quoting it to any critics to shut them up and it did too.

Gardengirl wrote: Not really commenting on the unwanted advice as such....but we co-slept for a while and at the time it was exactly what we all needed to get some sleep. I was starting to get a bit defensive about it as people can be sooooo negative about it and sooooo opinionated. And one day my 90 year old grandmother who is a mother of 9 herself said to me "good on you girl, you don't see baby animals sleeping on one side of the hedge with the parents on the other" and I loved that so much I started quoting it to any critics to shut them up and it did too.

I really like that analogy I might use it too .

I tend to smile and nod as well and say mmmmmm a lot.   A lot of the negative opinions are from uninformed people IMO.   

One of my favourite lines (when I want to shut them up rather than be polite/nice) is "you know I've met your kids, right?"
In the right tone it'll stop nearly anyone from giving parenting advice, but it is a bit mean