What would u do ?

It's my birthday soon, and valentines day is also coming up, so as a gift for my DP on valentines day i was going to take him away with me and DS for the night 2 hours away from where we live and also as a nice break away for my birthday. I mentioned this to DP tonight and as he plays cricket on a saturday untill about 8pm at night he said he wouldnt be missing out on his cricket game for anything as he hasn't missed a game all season. ! He cant get any days off work just yet so it means a sat night is the only night we can get away somewhere and i wanted to go somewhere different, im quite upset and abit annoyed about it all, i thought he wouldnt mind missing only 1 game for something like this ...

Am i over reacting and what would u do ?

drop a rock on his foot accidentally, can't play cricket injured

Haha like the rock idea, but he seems to play weather he is sick or injured, unless he was in a cast of course and was in utter pain lol

hahaha at the rock idea!

Is he the kind of guy who may have secretly organised a surprise for you already?

ah yes the cricket widow - been there done that - it has taken nearly 10 years but this year he will drop a game o cricket for us - mind you was one of the conditions if we had #4 (which we did)

I feel for you and I don't have much advise - although Cricket doesn't play till 8pm- only thing I can say is - can he leave a little bit early if you were keen - or a day out instead?

I would suggest you go out to dinner for your birthday, and go away another weekend - this way you get two birthday treats!

If it were something like a wedding or funeral I'm sure your DP would skip cricket, but a weekend away is more flexible. Personally, I respect him honoring his commitment to his team.

When's your bday? Can you go the weekend before or after? We don't celebrate valentine's as our wedding anniversary is a week after. It's just a date...make your own special day

Also, I'd brainstorm with him and see if he's interested, why/why not, what he'd prefer. If it was my DH he'd say, I have time with you guys all the time. Can I just have you? And can we do something fun instead of just talk and eat? LOL

i'd be pissed off, cricket more important than me? hell no.

However, I am lucky to be married to the most adoring husband in the world, he would drop anything if it meant my happiness.....so I dont actually know what to do in your situation,but I definitely think you should talk to him about it, and let him know how his words (which he probably didn't really think about,cos,well guys are simple creatures ) hurt your feelings

Out of curiosity, was he playing cricket when you guys met?? If so, then you cant really expect him to drop something he has a long-term commitment to just because its what you want... DP has been into speedway since he was in nappies (started going at 6 months old!) so when something comes up that I want to go to, I either go alone, or try and work around the speedway calendar... its just a part of who he is, and its not up to me to change that.

However, he knows that I compromise a LOT in our relationship as its not just speedway I have to work around (hell, he even went out of town for the weekend while I was in hospital having my gallbladder removed, and had to get a friend to stay the night with me to help with Jae the night I came out), but League as well (no budging him from the couch if the SoO is on, Broncos are playing, or during the semis, or grand final!) so when something really important comes up (birthdays dont count as they come every year lol), he will do his best to juggle his stuff around to accomodate me, and on the weekends that nothing is on, he will spend that time with us doing what I want to do (makes a change lol)

We had this problem with some of DH's mates for our wedding. They all tried to say they'd rock up after the game. We told them they came for the whole thing or not at all (so they came for it all). So I can understand your annoyance that he can't skip one day out of the whole season for your birthday and really after a big year with having a baby surely you deserve a nice treat?   

If you were asking him to skip it regularly then fair enough if he's committed to it, but a oncer in the season I think maybe he needs to bend his rules, as he's getting that massive amount of time out to spend with his mates every weekend. Surely when it's your birthday you deserve a bit of pampering too?