What made you decide to TTC...

The fact that I was told as I get older it will be harder for me to get pregnant and that once I hit 30 i'm going to have the baby oven bits removed so no chance after they've gone to have children.

I am very overweight and thought I'd have trouble trying to conceive so this made me want to start trying early. It never happened though because DP didn't feel ready. As soon as he felt ready we started - 12 years down the track!

If he had've been like your DP and wanted kids straight away we would've gone for it. When there are fertility issues and a higher risk of miscarriage I think I would've definitely started trying as soon as we could. As it was we got pregnant the 2nd month but we were very lucky there.

One of my friends has extremely nasty endo that just seems to go totally nuts. She's single and 28 (almost) and has been told by her doc that her time is running out that her bits need to be removed in the next couple of years. She so wants to be a mum but it's a bit hard when she is single.

LOL wishin - we've known each other around 8 years, and flirted around with the idea for a few years before we actually got together...been 7 months now, and bought a house together 6 weeks ago. So I'm not worried about not knowing each other. He is the best, I love him to bits, and I know he does me as well I also know he worries as well, we have discussed it, especially as we both dearly want children.

minik8e - Yup we are the same, both really want children/family. So in our eyes we just couldn't see why DP & I should hold off a decision that felt 'right' now.

Only 2 of my friends, one of my brothers and my mum know we have been trying, I didn't want the questioning from people everytime we bumped into them... 'oh, still not pregnant?!' kinda thing.
DP chose not to tell any of his family/friends as they are quite old school in thinking you SHOULD be married first etc.

Yeah my thing was, as you put it so well NeoshasMummy, 'get the baby thing over now' haha. I don't want to start teaching (graduated when I was 38 weeks pg) and then have to stop, I think its better for us anyway to struggle on one income than to get used to 2 and then drop. I was told by my doc to have all babies by my mid to late twenties as I may have my bits removed too. And plus I like the fact that sometimes your woman problems can get better, not worse, after having kids.

We STILL cant make the decision and we have been talking about it for over 2 years on and off!

Lol, you know what Im like so I am NO advice!

All I'll say is please dont be like me and do actually make a decision and stick to it soon! haha.

So excited for you though chick, sounds like things in your life are going so great YAH    

We didn't try for Ashlee and I don't have Endo/PCOS, but it's a really hard decision to try and make, this whole TTC thing. In our case, it's when do we decide to TTC #2. It depends on so many factors, too many to list! You've just got to weigh up the pros and cons that are specific to your situation and what your priorities are in life.

We chopped and changed our minds with #2, not knowing if we wanted a small or larger age gap between our 2, pros and cons for each, and me being undecided and feeling unhappy with what I'm doing (or not doing) work-wise. Originally we were going to TTC end of this year, but I've been feeling like it's not really 100% what I want to do, so we've decided to wait it out until I've done the things that I want to do. In saying that, I'm young enough to do so with no apparent health factors.

This hasn't given you any advice, sorry! But I just wanted to let you know that I can see where you're coming from and it's not a decision that's taken lightly. All the best!

It's quite funny, because I'm not at all concerned about my career. My employer has a fantastic parental leave scheme, and pride themselves on their family friendly conditions. I know that I will be welcomed back with open arms, and it won't hurt my career by taking parental leave because they truly value their staff and reward loyalty. Gosh that sounds OTT LOL

We are only planning on having 2, possibly 3, children with around 2 years between them, so yeah. Who knows whether that will happen however!

Hehe - I have said this in the few threads lately - cos I have one of the lucky stories!

DH and I decided that we would start trying in January last year, we discussed it and thought it would take a while to happen. So I stopped the pill and got pregnant that first month! It was very exicitng and we were sure it would take longer...

So take heart that for some people it is easy! (a few October 07 mums would agree I am sure!)

and we are starting our journey again - I stopped taking the pill 2 weeks ago...