Life Beyond - Positive ways to get through

Hi ladies,
I thought I would start a new topic and I hope you will join me. Here is a place to post the lovely, positive things we do for ourselves that help us to get through the sad times, the lonely times, the empty times, the disappointments and the hard times that come up now and again when trying for a baby.

Sharing the things we do will help us to stay positive, and give each other ideas too!

So, today I bought the most amazingly flattering dress. I got it from Millers for $20! I don't even usually look in there but it caught my eye. It is black and white with horizontal stripes on the top and skirt. The stripes meet in a 'v' in the middle. It is the most flattering thing I have ever worn! It skims over all my lumps and bumps and draws the eye inwards - huge bonus for my wide hips and thick ankles! I can't wait to wear it on my wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks.

Also today, I painted my nails. Something I haven't done for a very long time. It's funny how a coat of colour on your nails can make you feel ever more so lovely.

What have you done lately for yourself?

Babycrazy - I totally agree with getting on with life! It is easy to put life on hold and just wait - but much better to live life! DH and I have committed to doing the Otago Rail Trail next March so have been doing some cycling together in preparation. It has been a great thing to do together and exercise is so good for releasing those feel good endorphins. Plus we are both getting fitter and I am going to do something that's on my bucket list! I always said to DH that if we can't have kids I want to live an extraordinary life and do things we wouldn't necessarily do if we had kids. I am glad we are doing that. It makes me feel like there's life beyond having a baby and stops me from obsessing.

What a great idea Tan! It is lovely to hear what others are doing for self-care.

For me:
Ever since 1st of Feb this year I have been doing gratitude journal. I write three things I am grateful for each day before going to bed. Even when I'm having a sh*t day I can always think of three things e.g a roof over my head, I don't live in a war zone, DH & DD etc...

I breathe. I know that sounds silly, but I lie down, get comfy and breathe deeply, trying to make each exhalation last longer than my inhalation, then I count to 50 breaths. I try and clear my mind and just concentrating on breathing and feeling the oxygen flood through my body.

I go for a walk to the park down the road and play on the swings - I act like a big kid. It feels so good!

Can't wait to read more of what you ladies do.

Big hugs to all,

n00b

Nice RachFizz - me too. Just feel so much stronger and healthier - not to mention in a better mood! Yesterday morning I went for a walk on the beach. The focus was on relaxation, not exercise so if I stopped and just closed my eyes and listened to the ocean, that was fine too. It was incredibly uplifting.

[QUOTE=tan73] Hi ladies,

So, today I bought the most amazingly flattering dress. I got it from Millers for $20! I don't even usually look in there but it caught my eye. It is black and white with horizontal stripes on the top and skirt. The stripes meet in a 'v' in the middle. It is the most flattering thing I have ever worn! It skims over all my lumps and bumps and draws the eye inwards - huge bonus for my wide hips and thick ankles! I can't wait to wear it on my wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks.

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Your dress sounds beautiful! Is it full length?

I got my haircut last week and next week I've got a pedicure and a manicure looking forward to it!

May sound silly, but,literally just going outside in fresh air gives me a boost, playing I'm the garden with DD, going out for a walk, going to the beach, it's the little things

Great idea Tan

Sounds like some nice things over Xmas Tan!
Well I scored a foot spa during our family present game so that has been lovely to test out today! A trip to the races yesterday was nice too.

IVFGirl111 - the dress was knee length but the diagonal stripes were enough to draw the eye away into the centre. I wore it for Christmas day and got heaps of compliments!

Love that idea BC! I too am a keen vege gardener. So satisfying gathering the harvest and tastes so good too!

That would be a neat project to take on. Good way to keep your mind off things!