Life Beyond - Positive ways to get through
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Topic: Life Beyond - Positive ways to get through
Posted By: tan73
Subject: Life Beyond - Positive ways to get through
Date Posted: 09 December 2012 at 2:33pm
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Hi ladies, I thought I would start a new topic and I hope you will join me. Here is a place to post the lovely, positive things we do for ourselves that help us to get through the sad times, the lonely times, the empty times, the disappointments and the hard times that come up now and again when trying for a baby. Sharing the things we do will help us to stay positive, and give each other ideas too! So, today I bought the most amazingly flattering dress. I got it from Millers for $20! I don't even usually look in there but it caught my eye. It is black and white with horizontal stripes on the top and skirt. The stripes meet in a 'v' in the middle. It is the most flattering thing I have ever worn! It skims over all my lumps and bumps and draws the eye inwards - huge bonus for my wide hips and thick ankles! I can't wait to wear it on my wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks. Also today, I painted my nails. Something I haven't done for a very long time. It's funny how a coat of colour on your nails can make you feel ever more so lovely. What have you done lately for yourself? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 09 December 2012 at 3:27pm
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What a great idea Tan! I'll jump in and join you for sure. Some positive things of late that have helped me deal with the wait for a sperm donor have been to just start living my life...booking that overseas holiday, moving forward in my career etc rather than holding off hoping for baby. And I've booked myself a pedicure just in time for Xmas - a treat for lugging around this god awful leg brace for 6wks lol(had knee surgery a mth ago). Looking forward to hearing other positives. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 09 December 2012 at 5:05pm
Babycrazy - I totally agree with getting on with life! It is easy to put life on hold and just wait - but much better to live life! DH and I have committed to doing the Otago Rail Trail next March so have been doing some cycling together in preparation. It has been a great thing to do together and exercise is so good for releasing those feel good endorphins. Plus we are both getting fitter and I am going to do something that's on my bucket list! I always said to DH that if we can't have kids I want to live an extraordinary life and do things we wouldn't necessarily do if we had kids. I am glad we are doing that. It makes me feel like there's life beyond having a baby and stops me from obsessing.  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: Pepi-bebe
Date Posted: 10 December 2012 at 9:34am
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When I'm really down my DW puts on music and gets me to dance with her. It's always great as it never fails to cheer me up. Slow dancing is so sweet and loving, and then she makes me crack up laughing as she's an amazing dancer (from the Caribbean) so can pull out THE MOVES that have me both splitting my sides and in awe, depending on what she pulls out if the bag haha. Laughter is the best medicine, especially combined with movement and love. I always want her to cook for me too, and often cooking together is very therapeutic. Nurturing your body when you have been feeling let down by it is a good thing to do. Anyway, those are my stand-bys, and luckily both always possible and cheap! -------------   Oct 11 & Mar 12
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Posted By: n00b_mum
Date Posted: 10 December 2012 at 10:23am
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What a great idea Tan! It is lovely to hear what others are doing for self-care. For me: Ever since 1st of Feb this year I have been doing gratitude journal. I write three things I am grateful for each day before going to bed. Even when I'm having a sh*t day I can always think of three things e.g a roof over my head, I don't live in a war zone, DH & DD etc... I breathe. I know that sounds silly, but I lie down, get comfy and breathe deeply, trying to make each exhalation last longer than my inhalation, then I count to 50 breaths. I try and clear my mind and just concentrating on breathing and feeling the oxygen flood through my body. I go for a walk to the park down the road and play on the swings - I act like a big kid. It feels so good! Can't wait to read more of what you ladies do. Big hugs to all, n00b ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3872c1" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: RachFizz
Date Posted: 12 December 2012 at 9:41pm
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Have joined the gym. Been going pretty regularly for a month now and feel a lot better about myself ------------- TTC#1 since Apr11 On hold for study! |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 12 December 2012 at 10:16pm
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Nice RachFizz - me too. Just feel so much stronger and healthier - not to mention in a better mood! Yesterday morning I went for a walk on the beach. The focus was on relaxation, not exercise so if I stopped and just closed my eyes and listened to the ocean, that was fine too. It was incredibly uplifting. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 12 December 2012 at 10:18pm
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Pepi - I love dancing with DH too - we met while doing ceroc dance classes so it's not unusual for us to start dancing in the middle of the lounge or kitchen. n00b - what great commitment writing a gratitude journal! Love the idea! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 13 December 2012 at 9:55am
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[QUOTE=tan73] Hi ladies, So, today I bought the most amazingly flattering dress. I got it from Millers for $20! I don't even usually look in there but it caught my eye. It is black and white with horizontal stripes on the top and skirt. The stripes meet in a 'v' in the middle. It is the most flattering thing I have ever worn! It skims over all my lumps and bumps and draws the eye inwards - huge bonus for my wide hips and thick ankles! I can't wait to wear it on my wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks. QUOTE] Your dress sounds beautiful! Is it full length? I got my haircut last week and next week I've got a pedicure and a manicure looking forward to it! ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 13 December 2012 at 12:53pm
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Ooh I've got a pedi booked next week too. Really looking forward to having a treat :) ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Séraphine
Date Posted: 14 December 2012 at 7:40pm
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May sound silly, but,literally just going outside in fresh air gives me a boost, playing I'm the garden with DD, going out for a walk, going to the beach, it's the little things Great idea Tan  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 27 December 2012 at 6:34pm
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How did everyone's Christmas go? I found it hard, on and off. I love Christmas but it really hit home how much Christmas is about family and children. To get through: I bought myself some lovely things while shopping for other people (hehe) AND, of course I asked for them all to be gift wrapped! They went under the tree until Christmas Day. I made sure I had my favourite wines in the house, and some lovely cheeses, pate etc. I have had my fill of lovely ham cooked on the BBQ. To top it all off, yesterday, DH and I stayed in bed until 1pm, then we watched 3 episodes of Downton Abbey, Season 3, in our PJ's, eating leftovers and not answering the phone. We are really trying to do all those things you don't get to do so much with kids. I hope you all found some joy in this time of the year and did some lovely things for yourselves. Bring on 2013!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 27 December 2012 at 6:50pm
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Sounds like some nice things over Xmas Tan! Well I scored a foot spa during our family present game so that has been lovely to test out today! A trip to the races yesterday was nice too. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 27 December 2012 at 7:47pm
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Sounds great Babycrazy! Mmmmm a foot spa! It's like having a pedi soak when ever you want! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 27 December 2012 at 7:48pm
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IVFGirl111 - the dress was knee length but the diagonal stripes were enough to draw the eye away into the centre. I wore it for Christmas day and got heaps of compliments! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 29 December 2012 at 5:26pm
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Gardening - a great way to get away from it all. I garden and think of nothing but what's in front of me. What's even better is gathering the fruits of my labour - harvested strawberries, raspberries and black currants today and made black current cordial and raspberry cordial. Have got loads more to pick so next I might make jam. And just because I'm not technically ttc right now I popped some of the black current cordial with some ice, lemonade and vodka for a refreshing drink. Yummo xx ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 29 December 2012 at 7:15pm
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Love that idea BC! I too am a keen vege gardener. So satisfying gathering the harvest and tastes so good too! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 29 December 2012 at 7:34pm
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It always blows me away how nicer home fruit and vege are. Trying to get my guy to build a greenhouse so we can have vege all year round. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 29 December 2012 at 7:55pm
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That would be a neat project to take on. Good way to keep your mind off things! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 29 December 2012 at 7:58pm
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Have I mentioned gong to the gym? I love having a good workout. It's a nice treat because I have the time to go whenever I want - love that! Working out also makes me feel positive about my body and appreciate what it can do well. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 29 December 2012 at 9:34pm
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Lol I just thought if another thing.... Geordie shore !!! Total trash but a laugh nonetheless haha. I just love the accents and their quirky little sayings. Kinda reminds me that there is life outside of ttc. Ooh and tonight I discovered the Welsh equivalent The Valleys - omg trash with a capital T lol. Stupid huh? ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 29 December 2012 at 10:21pm
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What channels? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 29 December 2012 at 10:53pm
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MTV channel 14? I think. Like I said totally trash but great to lose yourself in the lives of ridiculous people haha. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Rachie123
Date Posted: 14 January 2013 at 2:41pm
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Aww you guys are so cute, loving the positive vibe! I just bought a little flowing blue skirt and singlet that look perky and fun. Looking forward to wearing them in the weekend if it's sunny. Curling up in bed with a book, pottering in my greenhouse, playing silly computer games -- all good fun and nice distractions. Getting a cut and colour at the hairdresser works wonders too... ------------- TCC since December 2011 Angel Baby Sept 2012 http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 14 January 2013 at 4:32pm
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Mmm yes I think a cut and colour is in store for me soon! I usually go to a lady who is super cheap and does it from home, but after my mc I got a cut and colour at a proper hairdressers and it's such a treat! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 19 January 2013 at 11:15pm
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I have really been enjoying baking and cooking. I like to challenge myself and try new things. It has been really nice to have the time and energy to pursue something I love. I have been really getting into salads lately and have been experimenting with some tasty results! Might even drop a few kilos as a bonus. Also, I bought some lovely new mugs and donated the old chipped ones to our work staffroom. My cupboard looks very styley now! Hope you all are doing lovely things to keep positive and feeling great. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 19 January 2013 at 11:17pm
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Oh I forgot to say the other thing I am doing to keep positive is taking a charting break for a bit. I must say it has done wonders to keep me relaxed and positive. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 03 February 2013 at 9:14pm
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Went out with DH and a couple of friends to play cricket at the park today. Sooo good to be having a really good laugh and be out in the sunshine! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 16 June 2013 at 7:12pm
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So I thought I'd resurrect this goodie. I believe it's a really positive thing to share the ways we get through the waiting. After my second m/c in May, I have taken up a couple of new hobbies. I am now doing a bit of sewing. I attended a course and have started making these really funky cushions. I have also started singing lessons and I am loving it. These are things that I wouldn't be doing if we were having a baby as they cost a bit of money that I think I would be saving otherwise. It's been a great way to add to my quality of life and I definitely found it easier to get through the second m/c because I had some things in my life to look forward too. What are you doing to take care of yourself and 'get through' while you await conceiving that baby who will tell you they are yours? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: Charly28
Date Posted: 16 June 2013 at 11:45pm
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Nice thread :) I've been trying to focus on doing nice things for myself, especially when AF arrives... I had a pedicure with a friend on Friday then dinner and a good girly catch up. I have been having nice long baths. And painting my nails. ------------- April 2013, December 2013 http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/43bc43" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: Jessaroo
Date Posted: 17 June 2013 at 7:35am
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I haven't been through anything as heartbreaking as you ladies - I couldn't imagine how that must be for you :( But to take my mind off my obsession with needing to be pregnant I'm getting a lot more into exercise and fitness and focusing on the kids we already have :)Pedicures a good idea! My friends sister is a nail tech so I'm getting my acrylics put back on now that I'm not working! YAY to feel a bit girly again! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 17 June 2013 at 7:49am
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Oooh love painting my nails. I have a huge collection and haven't done it in a long time. Must get those colours out again! Jess - I also love fitness and, having no children, I do appreciate being able to get out any time I want for exercise. Not having to organise anyone else is a huge factor! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |