tubal ligation - regrets

It's certainly a pretty permanent decision to have to come to grips with... I reckon I would find it hard, even if it was a well-thought-out decision!! But then I think whenever we decide that we have had enough kids, whether I get the same procedure as you or whether DH gets "the snip", I think I will still feel a bit down that it's finally definitely the end of baby days. There is just something, hmmm maybe comforting, about knowing that you always have the option.

I'm sorry I don't truly know how you feel but I think it would be a tough thing to go through anyways My sister had to have a hysterectomy when she was only 24 before she had kids, and I know it's a very different situation, but she felt sort of like her womanly-ness had been curbed somehow by not having the option to bear children (if that makes sense). I don't know if that's how you feel I hope not.

I think the decision to not have any more kids is probably what makes all mother's really look forward to Grandchildren

Man this is a rambley post and I'm not sure it's helpful at all, sorry

Once I have my 3rd I am having everything removed. I know this is happening already (I have done for about 12 years already) and for me and my health it is the best thing to do. I know that I will after it is done think why the hell did I do this. But for my health I know it has to be done.

I hope it does pass for you.

I have had the same debate with myself over and over again with this pregnancy, and also when I was preg with the gremlins. When I was preg with them I would probably have had a tubal ligation had I needed a c-sect but my OB refused due to my age and ultimately I didn't end up with a c-sect anyway.

In hindsight, I'm glad I didn't have it done, I would have regretted it enormously coz within days of the gremlins being born I felt a huge need to have another child at some stage.

Now, towards the end of a difficult pregnancy, I am 99% sure that I don't want any more children. But that 1% is enough to make me hold off on getting my tubes tied (that and the fact that I apparently STILL too young ) in favour of getting a MIrena put in. All going well it will mean 5 years of not having to worry about contraception and in 5 years time I will know for certain that I am in fact done with having babies and get my tubes tied.

Mum always wanted 6 kids but due to medical problems was told to stop after #4 nearly killed her and she said she did go thru a huge period of grieving which peaked when my youngest brother was around 18 months but after that she was totally at peace with things and she knew she'd made the right decision.

Just before I fell pregnant this last time we had decided that we didn't think we wanted anymore kids but we were waiting till our DS2 was 2 to make sure then DH would get a vasectomy. When I fell pregnant within about a month of this decision I'd just started studying Interior Design and we'd put our house on the market to go building out on a lifestyle block and were generally getting on with life so having another baby felt like a huge halt ahd been put in place. I was soo sick during the first trimester that I gave up my studies and will take them back up once DD is 3 and boys at school. We couldn't go building as I wouldn't be able to spare DH to enable him to build our house and we suddenly couldn't afford a lifestyle block anyway as I was soo far off going back to work. With all this in mind we made the decision that definately no more kids after #3. So I guess same as you, during pregnancy there's no way I wanted to go through it all again, but now..........I can't imagine not!

Hmmm, perhaps should have gone for something like the mirena?? Even sillier thing is when I was about 28 weeks pregnant I said to my DH that I think I do want that #4 and he just said absolutely no way and laughed so I disregarded this thought as nostalgia (? spelling).

MrsMojo wrote: but the decision has been made and implemented now, it does suck that the option is now gone but when you made the decision you must have had good reasons to go for such a permanent procedure.

Agreed

Wow! My OB said no way, no how when I was preg with the gremlins (I was 25) and even now my m/w reckons I'd be pushing it to find a GYN who would do it. Southern Cross will cover the cost, but she says they don't like doing them under 30.

Yeah and Janine's sister had hers done recently too and she's younger than me.
Maybe it's a secret conspiracy coz they secretly like seeing how crappy pregnancy makes me