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Karena 
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Posted: 15 September 2007 at 8:35am |
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Hi,
My brother & SIL are expecting their #2 in October, possibly by c-section & DH & I will be looking after #1 (2yrs) while SIL is in hospital.
I've got enough annual leave to take some time off either side of the birth and I've been wondering what else I could do to help them out. As we are still TTC for our #1, I'm not sure what will be the most help to them. Hopefully there'll be plenty of suggestions here!
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Two Blondinis
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Posted: 15 September 2007 at 9:45am |
I had a C-section and this is what I would have appreciated (didn't get though BOO!  )
cook them lots of casseroles to put in the freezer and help with housework.
I think you're doing a really lovely job by looking after their #1 
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Posted: 15 September 2007 at 9:51am |
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That's so cool. You might want to ask her. Calling in for short periods every now and then helps (if she's the type that likes a call first, do that). Just breeze in, ask if she wants a coffee and look around for any dishes/washing that could do with a help. Calling up a week later and asking if the 2yo might like to go to the park with you etc will give her a huge break as well, but it's especially nice to let her know what time to expect you guys back. Then she knows if she has time for a lie-down and not to worry about her 'other' baby.
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Andie
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Posted: 15 September 2007 at 10:25pm |
Since she's already a parent, she'll probably have a good idea of what she'd find helpful or not. But I second the putting meals in their freezer idea... cooking just doesn't happen with a newborn, but dag nab it she'll still need to eat!
Housework help is a great idea too, if she's OK about someone else doing that. If she does have that C/S, running errands for her could be a big help. Good on you for saving up your leave for this - what an awesome thing to do!
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Posted: 16 September 2007 at 5:41pm |
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i found the thing i looked forward to the most was a shower or a bath, so its good to watch the kids while she has one
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Karena
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Posted: 18 September 2007 at 6:24am |
Hi everyone, thanks so much for your ideas. It gives me a good starting point to talk to her about.
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MILF
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Posted: 18 September 2007 at 8:36am |
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as well as cooking meals, one thing i found hard to organise was a decent lunch for me - if she is breastfeeding it is really important to have healthy food regularly, but it was nearly impossible to find the time to make that! so dropping off a salad roll and some drink would be a great idea as well.
you are a lovely sil to be wanting to help out here. i hope it is not much longer before your sil can repay the favour to you.
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Supporting SIL when #2 arrives
