Nursery School issue

Charlotte started at her Nursery School in Sept last year when she was 2 1/2. We were interviewed to get her in (its a pretty exclusive and sodding expensive private one) and they assesed her development and said she was well and truly ready to start that term. The first term was fine. She was enrolled to go for 2 mornings a week (Mon and Fri)- she seemed to really enjoy it and seemed excited about going. This term started earlier this month and shes been funny ever since going back.

She tells me she doesn't want to go every morning she has to and then says its because everyone is mean to her. She comes home afterwards and says that the teachers have pushed and hit her, have ignored her and told her off and the other kids too. Shes a really sensitive wee thing and I can see her being looked over because she is quite happy and independent where as some of the other kids are quite 'high maintenence'. Theres a high teacher/child ratio with about 1 teacher per 3-4 kids. Shes been moved up to 3 mornings a week, she is the second youngest and the classes have got bigger so I don't know if that has got anything to do with it.

I had a word with the head teacher a couple of weeks ago as she was saying she didn't like her school and wanted to go to different one. She said she couldn't think of anything that would be causing it but would keep and eye on things. It seems to have improved a little since then but shes still not happy. I'm not quite sure what to do. I don't know if shes just coming home and telling tales- but I also don't want to not listen to her if she really is unhappy. What do you guys think I should do? I used to love going to school at her age and shes so easy to please it seems like things would have to be pretty bad to make her so unhappy.

Drop in for an unexpected visit and see what is up. Try not to let your daughter see you (yip easier said than done) and see if she is playing with anyone or just sit at the one side or play with herself.

Talk to the teachers after that again and see what is up. Otherwise perhaps stay one day and see how she interacts while you are there.

Thanks for the suggestions ladies

The teachers are the same but there are more kids than there were orginally. I have talked to some of the other parents and none of them are having any extra problems. Unfotunately its not the kind of place you can just drop in or sit in for a day- as much as I'd love to!

I think it is just that shes sensitive and prefers to be at home where she gets all my attention. I can also see her getting overlooked since she is so independant and happy. Its just the stories that I'm worried about- I might talk to the teacher again, maybe try to see her properly in a meeting to talk about it.

my2angels- we are in Epsom so a wee way out of London, about 30 mins by train, lovely area though.

Yeah it has just started- some of the stories are pretty far fetched (the teacher threw a microphone into her ear or she was sleeping and they woke her up by yelling at her). I don't know if shes just elaborating, or if something along those lines has happened and being so sensitive shes been really hurt by it or if shes just totally making it up. She never cries or anything when I take her- its just that every morning she says she doesn't want to go and then comes home with these stories. Some of the things I think are true- she gets really upset if other kids hit her, push her or tell her off and that kind of thing is bound to happen but its just that I don't know if its anything over and above the normal stuff.

Not really sure if it is baby related- it could be. She seems fine about it but I'm not sure if she completely grasps that a baby is going to come along in a few months time!