Nursery School issue
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Topic: Nursery School issue
Posted By: Jennz
Subject: Nursery School issue
Date Posted: 31 January 2007 at 10:39pm
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Charlotte started at her Nursery School in Sept last year when she was 2 1/2. We were interviewed to get her in (its a pretty exclusive and sodding expensive private one) and they assesed her development and said she was well and truly ready to start that term. The first term was fine. She was enrolled to go for 2 mornings a week (Mon and Fri)- she seemed to really enjoy it and seemed excited about going. This term started earlier this month and shes been funny ever since going back.
She tells me she doesn't want to go every morning she has to and then says its because everyone is mean to her. She comes home afterwards and says that the teachers have pushed and hit her, have ignored her and told her off and the other kids too. Shes a really sensitive wee thing and I can see her being looked over because she is quite happy and independent where as some of the other kids are quite 'high maintenence'. Theres a high teacher/child ratio with about 1 teacher per 3-4 kids. Shes been moved up to 3 mornings a week, she is the second youngest and the classes have got bigger so I don't know if that has got anything to do with it. I had a word with the head teacher a couple of weeks ago as she was saying she didn't like her school and wanted to go to different one. She said she couldn't think of anything that would be causing it but would keep and eye on things. It seems to have improved a little since then but shes still not happy. I'm not quite sure what to do. I don't know if shes just coming home and telling tales- but I also don't want to not listen to her if she really is unhappy. What do you guys think I should do? I used to love going to school at her age and shes so easy to please it seems like things would have to be pretty bad to make her so unhappy. ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 01 February 2007 at 7:10am
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Gosh thats a hard one. Is there anyway you can just drop in unexpectedly and see whats going on? Have the teachers changed or anything? Or are you able to get in touch with any other parents and see if there children are experiencing the same thing?
Sorry not much help. OTT where in London are you? |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 01 February 2007 at 8:31am
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Drop in for an unexpected visit and see what is up. Try not to let your daughter see you (yip easier said than done) and see if she is playing with anyone or just sit at the one side or play with herself.
Talk to the teachers after that again and see what is up. Otherwise perhaps stay one day and see how she interacts while you are there. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: sparkle
Date Posted: 01 February 2007 at 10:54am
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In my experience as a new entrant teacher, some kids do go thru stages like this, especially after school holidays where they become used to being at home again. She also may be wanting your reaction to what she's saying (eg hugs, cuddles etc)
Speaking to the teachers is a good idea, that way they know that you have some concerns. I personally wouldn't recommend visiting, as you may find that it upsets Charlotte more. If things continue I guess you'll have to look at other options, whether that be moving her or not I guess? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 3:03am
Thanks for the suggestions ladies 
The teachers are the same but there are more kids than there were orginally. I have talked to some of the other parents and none of them are having any extra problems. Unfotunately its not the kind of place you can just drop in or sit in for a day- as much as I'd love to! I think it is just that shes sensitive and prefers to be at home where she gets all my attention. I can also see her getting overlooked since she is so independant and happy. Its just the stories that I'm worried about- I might talk to the teacher again, maybe try to see her properly in a meeting to talk about it. my2angels- we are in Epsom so a wee way out of London, about 30 mins by train, lovely area though. ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 8:12am
Hmm, that's tough Jen.. I have the same problems with Ella and creche, I'm actually dreading taking her back next week  She hates it and doesn't want to stay, but I know she's fine there and she just really misses me.
Ella makes up stories now - not saying Charlotte is - but I know she's a great talker like Ella so she would be well capable of it. She might be trying anything she can to get you to come back. Was she fine at the beginning and then just recently brought these things up? That's what happened to us. Do you think it could be anything to do with the baby? Has she talked about how she feels? Just pulling at straws here, but there must be a reason for her feeling a bit anxious. Hope you can find an answer soon! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 8:27am
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Yeah it has just started- some of the stories are pretty far fetched (the teacher threw a microphone into her ear or she was sleeping and they woke her up by yelling at her). I don't know if shes just elaborating, or if something along those lines has happened and being so sensitive shes been really hurt by it or if shes just totally making it up. She never cries or anything when I take her- its just that every morning she says she doesn't want to go and then comes home with these stories. Some of the things I think are true- she gets really upset if other kids hit her, push her or tell her off and that kind of thing is bound to happen but its just that I don't know if its anything over and above the normal stuff.
Not really sure if it is baby related- it could be. She seems fine about it but I'm not sure if she completely grasps that a baby is going to come along in a few months time! ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3
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