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fattartsrock 
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 Posted: 20 June 2011 at 10:50am |
I find this whole "labelling" amusing...part of me thinks maybe the good ol' keyboard warrior feels she needs to "qualify" herself to have an opinion on stuff and part of me thinks that the "recognition" of being a bit different" is something that floats their boats.
To me all those wee acronymns are just "normal"...except back in the dark ages when mine we little they didn't have "labels" (BF MCN etc) it's just what you did - and to be truthful I only "wore" my baby *shock horror in a front pack shoot me now!* and fed her finger food and BF her for 2 years etc out of sheer laziness, not because of any "concious" parenting decision..in fact when I got "labeled" an "attachment parent" I felt kinda "dirty". I was just doing what worked for ME...
I don't think I know any parent, in real life or on the forums who dosen't put some degree of thought into the way they parent their children and just cos you choose to be all "alternatve" and in my face about it dosen't mean that 1. you are a better parent that everyone else who chooses a different path or 2. YOur children are more loved or better off than mine.
Now that I have a child at school, there is no way in hell I can tell WHO was AP'd, ERF'ed, BF'd etc etc and to be honest, no one actually CARES.
The most important thing in my book is that I am raising my children to be thoughtful kind human beings, and that is something that "lasts" through the whole parenting expereince not just the early years.
Just an endnote here...those of you that "label" yourselves with your wee blinkes and signatures..I kind of think of that as passive agressive "bullying".... 
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escadachic
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Posted: 20 June 2011 at 12:07pm |
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Yeah, the labelling didn't exist when I had my 1st DD. Only option I had, that seems to lack in many prams now, is to have a pram with a reversible handle or not. And slings and all the other babywearing options didn't exist, just a really simple frontpack, which was only suitable for a few months.
And I have to laugh at how many people strongly hate Elite frontpacks. To me, an Elite was comfy as and a luxury compared to the frontpacks back when older DD was a baby. Tbh, I didn't know, until I came on this website, there were other options. I only knew there were the usual frontpacks, like the Elite, but different brands at K-mart and Farmers and such and that the other brands were Comfy and Baby Bjorn and my other option was a sling. Found out, by coming on here, there's Manduca's, Ergo's, Mei Tai's, and some others I can't spell. And at the end of the day, I didn't care about the other options and if I ever have another baby, I'm happy with my cheap Elite.
Just like, I didn't know there was such things as, ERF and EBF. I just thought I was BFing for as long as I could manage, had no idea there was a name for it.
I don't label myself anything, except a SAHM. And I have to agree with what someone else said, about school. No-one's cares how your children were brought up and with what parenting styles, once you get to Kindy or School. They only care that you're good to your children and that they are happy.
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Posted: 20 June 2011 at 12:25pm |
 escadachic wrote:
Yeah, the labelling didn't exist when I had my 1st DD. Only option I had, that seems to lack in many prams now, is to have a pram with a reversible handle or not. And slings and all the other babywearing options didn't exist, just a really simple frontpack, which was only suitable for a few months.
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I use to carry my DD1, and she's 14 now... infact I NEVER used my pram with her, and carried her until 2ish... I can't for the life of me remember what kinda carrier I had but it definitely wasn't an elite - I think it was more like a Mei Tai. I also had a sling all the way back then ... I totally think it's worth buying a good carrier now that I tried them though!
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mum to 3 lovely girls :D
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escadachic
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Posted: 20 June 2011 at 1:26pm |
It was exactly like this my first carrier: old style carrier
And it was way easier to use actually!
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escadachic
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Posted: 20 June 2011 at 1:28pm |
If I had the money, the only other I'd buy would be a Baby Bjorn and in Pink 
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mummy_becks
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Posted: 20 June 2011 at 6:59pm |
I had a front pack as well. It was approved by Australian Physio's for your back and it was great. My boys survived being in that when we went out.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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AandCsmum
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Posted: 20 June 2011 at 8:20pm |
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Mum & I made a baby carrier...it killed my back lol so I bought the moby for #2
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MrsJMcD
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Posted: 20 June 2011 at 8:22pm |
caliandjack wrote:
As a first time Mum sometimes I do care what people think of how I parent as I need the reassurance that I'm doing ok.
Especially atm with DH away and having to manage on my own half the time I've no idea what I'm doing I find that unsettling.
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I really identify with this. DH is self employed and travels overseas a lot for work, starting when DS was 4 weeks old. i am inclined to doubt myself at the best of times, but the pressure of being a new mum and having a 10 year old step son to also look after while DH was away has had me in pieces on more than one ocassion. I've found these forums especially helpful during some of those times, totally intimidating at others....the more strung out I was the more intimidated I was, mostly because of the pressure I put myself under. Not only was there more to do without DH around, but he wasn't there to be the voice of reason and tell me DS was fine, I was fine, and I was doing a great job.
In terms of labels, I can remember having a conversation with my dad when DS was very little and I said oh you guys didn't know about swaddling when we were kids, did you? To which he replied that I was wrapped tight all the time when I was a baby, they just didn't call it swaddling or need a fancy piece of fabric to do it!
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Posted: 21 June 2011 at 8:25am |
MrsJMcD wrote:
In terms of labels, I can remember having a conversation with my dad when DS was very little and I said oh you guys didn't know about swaddling when we were kids, did you? To which he replied that I was wrapped tight all the time when I was a baby, they just didn't call it swaddling or need a fancy piece of fabric to do it! |
Haha, babies have been swaddled since the begining of time - the Bible mentions that the shepherds were told they would find Jesus swaddled lying in a manger; even if you just see the Bible as an ancient storybook that suggests they were doing it then
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Posted: 21 June 2011 at 10:32am |
Hopes wrote:
Haha, babies have been swaddled since the begining of time - the Bible mentions that the shepherds were told they would find Jesus swaddled lying in a manger; even if you just see the Bible as an ancient storybook that suggests they were doing it then |
Yup it's amazing what you forget when you're lacking in sleep with a new baby...I think back now and realise I said some really dumb things when DS was first around!
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Posted: 21 June 2011 at 10:43am |
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Swaddling has been around forever thankfully swaddling bands and strapping babies to a board are no longer in vogue.
If it weren't for OB I wouldn't know about ERF and I'm glad I do as chances are I would have FF DD at 1 year if I didn't know any better.
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