I need your help with DS

Can't remember Becks, have the info at home.

Jack had a good night last night after completely melting down at daycare yesterday. I've sent some pictures along with him, and they're going to give him cuddles every half hour at least and talk to him about dad. We'll see how we go.

WE had issues with Charlotte when Mum moved down to invercargill. She was only weeks off three, but was still to little to understand much about it apart from some she has seen almost every day of her short wee life had dissapeared. At first, the phone calls were horriffic, she would get hysterical and it would take me hours and ours to calm her down, those wee sobs wracking her tiny frame. Every night at bed time, "I miss my hiya, I miss my gramma). I started to avoid ringing mum becasue I dreaded the drama that went along with it and hated seeing Charly so upset, howver quickly learnt that that was the wrong thing to do. I started sending pics of mum (Hiya or gamma) in her pocket and bag to pre school and had a pic by her bed. I cuddled her lots and let her know its ok to miss her hiya because mama misses her too. Regular phone calls were a must and I told her any time she wanted to talk to hiya we would ring, even if all she did was cry. I know that made it hard on mum, but after a while it really helped Charly. She stillg ts upset for mum and still nightly says how much she misses her but they hysterics don't happen as much anymore. I hope things settle down soon, Emz, I know its hard on all of you and this makes it feel worse.
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I wondered that too, but like Tishy said, it's a fairly normal part of our lives so it would be unfair to the kids and to DH to pretend like he doesn't exist. We generally talk about Dad a lot during the day.

Fats, thanks so much yet again for your wise words. That goes to all of you that have suggested something or just said something to make me smile He had a slightly better day today until another army guy came and picked up his son (which he never does so it was just my luck) plus I was stressed out cos my dad got rushed to hospital this morning and is still there and they don't know what's wrong with him. Just waiting for the 3rd thing to go wrong...