HippyMama I said that because of their lack of concern not because she is small. They don't care that Plunket are literally in a panic over the babys weight (the mother told me her plunket nurse was panicking at one of their meetings). All of the 'professionals' from early on have been concerned and the parents don't give a damn - and i can say that easily because I have seen their attitude.
my girl was 5.3 kg at 3 months. That is a good weight but still 15th percentile for girls at her age. So on the light side of average 12 week weight. So does that put it in perspective for you. ?
A baby at 5 months should be well up above 5kg. ?
I guess it can sometimes be hard to see how things might be if we were in another parents' shoes. I wonder how much your friend knows of how you see their parenting? If someone in my life thought *I* was ignorant and abusing my daughter just because I was unconcerned about what Plunket have to say (and this could be true, given that I chose not to register with them so I didn't have to hear their "advice" and could go about doing what works best for us under the least amount of stress), I'd be having some very frank discussions with them about the state of our friendship.
I think you owe it to them, and yourself, to be upfront and honest about your concerns - ask some more questions to get a fuller picture of what's going on. If it's a thing they have about Plunket, you could always suggest the mum gets in touch with an organisation like La Leche League or Breastfeeding NZ (run by Ministry of Health), who generally aren't as rigid with their guidelines and advice.
I often don't "give a damn" about what people think of my parenting or choices, especially so because some of them are quite alternative, but generally my instincts are pretty spot on and if I were worried about either of my children I would seek the support I need, simple.
A quick mention too, that this is all just my opinion and experience as a mother of two, take it as you will.
Mama to two earth walkers & two angels.
Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience; You are raising a human being. ~ Kittie Franz
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