How did you decide to have another?

Nikki wrote: Also one thing my mum pointed out recently - if theres 3 kids then one always seems to be left out or not get on as well as the other two. I was actually going to post and see if people from 3 kid familys felt that?!?

My Dh is the youngest of three and he said he felt left out, he has two older sisters though.

I always wanted..and hopefully will have in a few weeks.. 2 boys. Now I have them even though family are bleating about 'trying for a girl' as i am the only childbearing one on one side and on the other they are all boys except the one that was adopted out, we are done.

I know because I hate being pregnant, pregnancy is hard on our relationship and while I love babies I dont think i will be wishing I had another:) it helps DH feels the same and if he could be pregnant well maybe then;) but anyway I agree with Julia ...i think if you aren't sure...you probably want another:) but that doesnt make the process any easier esp with other little ones!

This whole "3rd child" thing being uneven etc scares me the way you're talking about it LOL

I KNOW our family isn't complete. We originally planned on 2 children, that was it, but having got two in one go, DH is very happy to try again. And neither of us would have a problem with another set of twins (in fact, I would love it). DH wants to get the snip after the next one/s but I think I'll ask him to wait a bit, just in case. He does want to wait until the girls are 3 or so though, and I don't want to wait that long - mainly for the reasons that you say nzpiper. I would rather get all the pregnancies over and done with (I'm not good at pregnancy) so then we can focus on the children and I can sort out my career etc when the kids are at school, instead of getting a brief glimpse of freedom (with kindy) and then having to start at the beginning all over again.

We had a talk last night and it hasnt been ruled out. We are looking at contraception options and have been looking at the Billings Method (looking for signs of Ov etc) and I think it needs a big leap of faith. I believe I know my cycle well enough to do it but I think we need to be totally ok with the option of an oopsy before we start that..( because secretly I have a fear that whenever DH's sperm get near me they create a baby......we've had NO trouble TTCing)

We have just decided to try for number 3. I have wanted another since the day the girls came home lol but the timing just has never felt completely right, until now that is :)

I think there are always going to be reasons not to have a baby you just have to go with your gut. For me I knew my family didn't feel complete 3 sounds like the magic number for us and right now I just feel like everything is right, and yes I can still think of a thousand reasons not to do it but sometimes you just have to trust your instincts :)

this is a very interesting thread!!!

When DH and i first started discussing kids we hummed and harred between 3 or 4 kids but after having a few we seemed to fall into the "3 will do" catagory. After Karma was born i thought "yup this is it, iv got 2 boys and now a girl, im done and happy"........
The other night DH was being a smart arse and in his rambling he mentioned me being his "incubator" (smart arse) again some day....i was shocked and said "nop thats it for me, im a dried arrangement now" and he just stared in silence so??.......

Iv been thinking lately about having #4 (which would absolutely be the last) but it wouldnt be for another 5yrs at least!! (im 26) and like others have said we would have to get a bigger car and build another room on the house!!!. I have just bought a big car that fits the 3 kids nicely.

to answer the main Q lol - i loved going from 2 to 3 and i knew the minute Astin was born that he would not be the last (i even cried when DH joked that 2 was it! )

I love having 3 kids!! i cant pinpoint what it is about it - i just love it!!

oh and the other 3 kid thing - my DH is 1 of 3 and there wasnt 1 kid inparticular that got left out - he is the middle and the fav, the oldest is a girl and only girl and the youngest is their precious baby boy so each get spoilt in different ways

but heres my Q About the cluckiness - DOES IT EVER END!!??? WHERE DO YOU DRAW THE LINE????

I have been feeling clucky lately as well. And DP even brought up the subject the other night. But I want to wait till DS is at least 4 yrs old and we are in a bigger house. I had a terrible time with MS with DS and am scared how I would handle it if next time was the same. So I figured if I wait till he is 4 by then he will be able to look after himself better and will then be off to school by the time bubs is born (if it all works out that way).

I am getting a kitten next week which will hopefully take care of the cluckiness for a while

Both DH & I come from 3 children families and I have also thought I would like to have 3 children (2 girls and 1 boy in an ideal world). I think the idea of having a bigger family when you get older (bigger family gatherings etc).

After having Ella I still thought that, but at the beginning on this pregnancy I said to DH that 2 would have to be it for us as I was never getting pregnant again (not really enjoying being pregnant and looking after a toddler, plus I am still on anti nausea drugs for the M/S). But lately have been thinking that I would still like to have 3rd (would really,really like to have another little girl so that Ella could have a sister- something I missed out on having 2 brothers). Haven't told DH yet, as I think we will just wait and see how #2 goes but if we did decide on a 3rd it would be once Ella started school.  If only I could have a 3rd child, without having to go through all the pregnancy stuff....