Green eyed monster is taking over..

I don't know why our parents generation are always telling us that we are too young when 30+ years ago it was normal to get married and have children early. My mother was 18 when she got married and 21 when she had me (I'm the eldest). If you and your DH both feel that you are ready for children then go for it. And my mother still reckons she's too young to be a grandmother even though I'm 27 Women just hate becoming grandmothers because it makes them feel old!

As for the fear of not being able to have children - I know just how you feel. My doctor suspected I had endo when I went on the pill because she had to keep giving me stronger and stronger doses because the pain kept coming back but I never did anything about it because I knew it would involve surgery. Now after 18 months of trying I'm starting to regret that decision - and am now scheduled for a lap next month. My biggest fear is that the endo will be so bad that it will have done some major damage. But (and please don't be offended by this - I know I hate it when people say it to me!) you are still young and you have had the surgery so your chances of conceiving should be improved. My surgeon told me that after surgery conception rates double. Did they tell you how bad your endo was? I know you are still having pain issues, but that may not necessarily lead to problems conceiving. I have been reading alot about endo and most of the time the only ones who still have problems after surgery and require IVF are those who have Stage3 or 4 endo.

I was pregnant at 21, I had Daniel at 22 My parents have never told me I was too young.

And yes I know what you mean about wanting to try now in case you have issues later. I know a friend who has extreme endo and she has thoughts along the same lines I hope your gyno has good news for you next check up though.

matandnic My first little boy wasn't planned (I was 16 when I fell pregnant) but we tried for 5 months for this little one, and I'm 19 now. I don't believe age matters so much, if you are in a stable relationship, and are willing to make the lifestyle sacrifices both socially and financially to have kids, and you both want it, then there's no time like the present! For some it would be the end of the world, but others of us are just weird I know I was too young with my first son, and though I always wanted to be a young mum, I would've planned things in my early-mid 20's, but of course things are different now we already have one, and I'd love him to have a sibling at least sort of close in age.

Wow, Alia, I had no idea that you were only 19! This age thing is an interesting topic because I'm 31 and I haven't felt at all interested in having a baby untill now.
I always felt that my 20s was for going to uni, working, partying, travelling, and finding the right person to marry. I am so glad I have had that time to myself to work out who I am, what I want to do with my life, and get settled financially.
I guess I can also see the benefit from having children young in that they leave home while you are still relatively young. But I would be interested to hear from young mums why they planned to have children so early on in their lives?

Im the same. im 22 and DH is 25. We want our family young and that is the way we have always thought since we met eachother in our teens.
My mum keeps telling me to wait to ttc again after miscarriage and to work on my career, to finish my diploma etc but i can do the career thing after. I will be finished diploma by middle of next year and can do more study with babies! And Mum was 21 when she had her first and went back to study etc so why can't I! Haha.
Glad to see there are other younger people in the same boat as me really :)

i want them younger to have a younger family too so that i cant travel later when weve got our own lives in check kids are out etc. Iv also done alot of my study and dont want to start a career only to leave it in a few years and have kids....I doubt id ever get back into the same thing. I plan to do in home childcare with PORSE and do early childhood education onvce im settled and sorted out my first baby lol.....does anyone agree with me/ think this is a good plan
I want all my children before 30 as mum had me at 32 coz she married at 30 and my brother at 33ish i think haha but now shes kinda getting older already you know and i want her to be able to enjoy her grandkids....you never know what might happen to them or you!