Surnames for your baby

Was never a second thought for me either.

I do have an ex-colleague whose children had his wife's last name - but she's Spanish and apparently that's quite common (or so he said - girls get the mum's last name, boys get the dad's?)

It does get confusing when addressing parents at school, but is the norm for kids to have different last names to one of the parents (over half my kids have different names to their mothers anyway)

I think people just need to do what is right for them really.

Totally forgot about this - but i have a german friend who got all viking and gave their son his first name as a last name + son. (clemensson) in the style of ivarson, svenson etc. I thought that was totally cool but no doubt not for everyone!!

we werent married when we had our 1st but we were together and i didnt want my kids to have my last night so they all have Dh's surname. only our last baby we we married when he was born. i was looking forward to having Baby of L******* on his hospital bracelet but hospital stuffed that up. so maybe our next baby will.
it does make alot of things easier to have the same surname like school and playcentre things.

DD has DP's surname, was never really discussed between us but we both wanted that. My surname is an English sounding name with a French spelling. Ironically (or stupidly??) we gave DD an English sounding first name with a French spelling

I'm hyphenated, my choice. Didn't take DH's surname as I didn't want my oldest to lose his identity to me.
My oldest son has my maiden name
My daughter has a hyphenated name mine then DH's
My youngers has DH's.


Oldest didn't want to take DH's name when we got married.
Daughter has hyphenated because we weren't married when I had her... when she's older if she wants to drop my name she can.
Youngest was always going to have DH's surname.

My eldest has hyphenated names with myself and her father. I only agreed to that since she was a girl and i figured she would change it when she gets married. If she was a boy, I would have given her my name only. I actually wish she only had my name since I makes me cringe when I see her father take credit at her success now when he hasn't done anything to help her get there. Might be petty, but thats just how I feel    She can use whatever name she wants. If she wanted to drop my maiden name and use my married that would be fine, but she doesnt want to do that. She is old enough for it to make a big difference changing her name now.

My two younger ones both have DH's name since we were married before they were conceived and I have his name also.

My brother had 3 kids with his wife before they were married. she gave them all her name and when they got married, she had them all changed to the new married name. Quite a good way of going about it really.

Just my opionion and I dont mean to offend anyone, but I think the father shouldnt get naming rights until he does decent by the mother by marrying her (unless of course she doesnt believe in marriage).
I don't know of any guys who have consistantly been a good dad to their children who live with their mother.

Just my opinion

We chose mine. It was weird - we just happily settled on mine without much discussion and everyone in all the families seemed content with that. None of the hyphenated names sounded right and my boyfriends parents are divorced and we were knew we'd upset whichever side we didn't use if we chose one of his. Plus his 2 options were not highly desirable surnames.

Interesting! DD has DPs surname, if we ever got married I would take his name and as the father I felt he had 'earned the right'.

As a child my parents weren't married and I took my father's name. My parents split when I was about 1 years and I went on holiday with my mum and grandparents and they got questioned at the airport due to me having a different name, etc and actually missed their flight! I had my name changed when I was 5 to my mums last name (my current last name) as I hadn't seen my dad since I was about 1 and just made things 'less complicated'.

If DP and I ever split I probably would look at changing DDs name - although that is quite a hassle and even now I always have to state that I have had a name change on everything!

all of my boys have DHs surname, DS10 was nearly 2 when we got married I couldnt have hyphenated the surnames even if I wanted to because they rhyme lol!!