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Ok so how does this scenario fall into it

I would like one more......DH is dead set NO....he knows Im not on the pill and we have condoms which rarely get used. He knows the risk and we have even had a scare, yet he doesnt hound me to go on the pill and even when I tell him we better use protection this time cos I think Im OVing it still doesnt happen and Im totally surprised its not happened yet.......but Im not calculated about it I am very open......and I really dont get how adamant he is about not having anymore, yet when I asked if he would expect me to have an abortion if we did get pregnant, he said that we would just have to cross that bridge if we got to it.....

I dont get it....how can someone so adamant about no more be so complacent about contraception? And am I in the wrong for not being on the pill cos hes said NO MORE?
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Lou as the saying goes if you play with fire you are gonna get burned.

and the difference your DH knows you are not on the pill..it would be different story if you told him you were on the pill but didnt actually take it.

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Chickielou, it's totally not my place to comment but it sounds to me like you need to sit your DH down and tell him exactly what you've just said, that you hear what he's saying but his actions are confusing you. He knows you want another and aren't doing anything to prevent it, so if he DOES want to prevent it then he needs to make this clear and maybe take some responsibility!
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Originally posted by Chickielou Chickielou wrote:

Ok so how does this scenario fall into it

I would like one more......DH is dead set NO....he knows Im not on the pill and we have condoms which rarely get used. He knows the risk and we have even had a scare, yet he doesnt hound me to go on the pill and even when I tell him we better use protection this time cos I think Im OVing it still doesnt happen and Im totally surprised its not happened yet.......but Im not calculated about it I am very open......and I really dont get how adamant he is about not having anymore, yet when I asked if he would expect me to have an abortion if we did get pregnant, he said that we would just have to cross that bridge if we got to it.....

I dont get it....how can someone so adamant about no more be so complacent about contraception? And am I in the wrong for not being on the pill cos hes said NO MORE?


I think the real issue is you want another & he doesn't...either he gives in or you do. He has the right to say he does not want any more. I guess it is up to you as a couple to come to an agreement.

Contraception should not be down to just you & if he feels so strongly about no more children then he should get a vasectomy.
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Yeah tricky situation Lou, one that I would be very careful with as it could all end very badly. I think sometimes guys just really dont think of the reality of the situation and maybe in your case DP maybe just hasn't thought properly about the possibility of it happening. I mean if you did fall pg then he could very well be happy with it but at the same time he might resent you for it and that would make your relationship really difficult.

I agree with Jelly I think that you really need to have a proper conversation with your DP and make sure he knows how you really feel and what is going on.
Proud mummy to two beautiful little girls and a precious little boy <3
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Agree with the others, sit your man down and tell him how you feel about having another and if he REALLY doesn't want another then you guys need to sort out what you are going to do.
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