How would you REALLY feel?

I wouldn't have minded at all, you choose your bridemaids because they are your best friends not because you want your wedding photos to look like they're from vogue or something. I'd probably been a little annoyed if I'd already brought the dress and stuff but still would have had her and been thrilled.

We know of someone who didn't have her best friend of 25 years in her wedding party because she is short (like 5 nothing) and overweight, and she didn't think she'd look good in the dress she'd chosen

Totally agree with your last comment, Hopes!

I think far too many people are too concerned with the actual wedding day and not with the marriage ahead.

My friend did jokingly tell me not to get preg before the wedding because it would be a pain to alter the dress, but she did say it with a smile and I knew she wasn't serious. As it turns out, I got preg 2 months later

Yeah she isn't normally the type to care about those things, but she has been pretty stressed lately. The groom's stepmum is due the day after the wedding, and there's family dramas-ish on both sides. He insists on getting married in his airforce uniform, which she isn't thrilled about, so I didn't wanna be the 'last straw' lol. But I'm sure it will be fine  Plus my aunty is amazing at sewing (she made my dress, oh and the bridesmaid's and flowergirl !!) so I'm sure she wouldn't mind altering my dress

my SIL was going to be around 35 weeks preggy at my wedding, at first i was like OH NO!! when she told me, but then i was like, meh, will be cool! never eventuated though because she m/c

i saw a photo of a girl from my school's wedding and one of her BM's was preggy, they all had different styles of dresses for each of the BM's and they just got her one that suited her bump, looked pretty cool actually.

eta: and YAY!! for setting a date

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Thanks Heaf! Yeah I'm real excited  Will most likely change though depending on finances, but I'm hoping for the best. And it's definitely great having DH on the same page

BessieBear wrote: My big sis is getting married maybe next april and I'm planning on being UTD and she wants me to be a BM.  She said as long as I'm there she doens't mind if I'm huge or have to pee a hundred times during.

Thats right - my only concern was that if you are too pregnant you might not be able to travel. I suppose until Boy makes up his mind, I can't give you an ETA on when I will need you...so do as planned, and I'll just work around you, favie...

My bridesmaid - and I had only one - got preg in the lead up to the wedding and TBH I was a bit annoyed. Mainly cos since there was only her and I have no family here I was kinda relying on her to help me quite a bit. I did say to her if she didn't want to still do it, I would be fine with it, but she did and she managed beautifully and looked amazing. The way she looked was never going to be my issue however the fact I was relying on her alot was. Didn't end up being a big deal tho.
The dress we chose meant that she actually didn't even look pregnant (and she was 6 mo along) in fact, I looked fatter tahn she did.

I did have a preggy bridesmaid