ARGHHH!

Well, for me it was planned, but I didn't really expect to get preg within 6 weeks of coming off the pill (I'd been on it for 9 years), so it was a bit of a shock. I'd kept it very tightly under my hat, so it was a shock to lots of people around me and some of their reactions weren't exactly great! Then I had a threatened miscarriage at 6 weeks which sucked too. I have to admit I wondered a few times in the first few months what on earth I'd done. Its hard to be thrilled about things when you feel sick all the time. But now I'm feeling better, and getting little kicks and have this cute little tummy going, and I'm starting to collect baby things, and somehow its suddenly become really exciting and much less daunting.
I still have days where I wonder what its going to do to my career (I spent nine years at uni to get qualified, and I love my job), and how I'm going to find time for me. But most days, I'm really happy about it. Sometimes I do have to remind myself that its only a few months to go until I'm physically competent again, and thats not so long, you know?
My DH is really in to it, which is awesome too. He's going to make the best dad ever, so even if I turn out to be a hopeless mum, I know bubs will be ok with DH for its dad!

Treen wrote -
My goal is not to become one of those mums who needs a written itinerary 2 weeks in advance of any outings (and then cancels at the last minute – grrr!).

Hehehe just you wait

Treen wrote: I think I will still see myself as independent when bubs finally does come along so I wouldn't worry about that if I were you. I plan on being one of those mums who wears baby in a sling and gets out and does stuff. My goal is not to become one of those mums who needs a written itinerary 2 weeks in advance of any outings (and then cancels at the last minute – grrr!). Maybe you should start thinking of ways you can cart bub along, too. Be it in a sling or on the back of your bike etc.

You can so do it Treen (sorry slight TJ) - I planned to be this type of mamma and I am! As soon as we got home from the birthing unit, we walked down to the mall for coffee and we haven't stopped
My view is that if you have a positive outlook on what your life will be like with bubs then things will run smoothly (and on days when things turn to custard you feel empowered to just get on with it)
The one thing that really annoyed both DH and I was everyone telling us that 'the first 6weeks are horrid'. In fact it was awesome, yes sleep deprived but so special and not at all what I would describe as horrible!
And babywearing is fab - they feel secure and its so nice to be handsfree! Oh and the snuggles are the best

And yogalindy - things definetly don't have to change.. I didn't slow down much during pregnancy (not that I'm a cycle wonderwoman like you ).. And I know of one awesome woman who at 1 week past-partum had her 2yr old in a toddler seat on her bike and her little one wrapped up on her! Good luck with everything!

Hi Love :)

Biggest shock of my life! Hollie was planned - just 5yrs early. I was only 21, and had been married just two years, we were renting a disgusting little flat in town and had no savings. I had enough people on my case about getting married when I was so young, I was dreading what people were going to say about this! I was overseas when I found out, in the Islands, eating shellfish and having cocktails the day before. I didn't feel anything for Hollie until she was 3 weeks old. That is the honest truth.

Now I am a 23yr old domestic godess with an awesome marriage, our own home & most importantly, an amazing daughter whom I love and adore. We are ttcing again already.....things just work out

My youngest brother is only 6, my mother had him at an increbily low point in her own life, because she couldn't handle abortion. She's now qualified with an awesome job, and living with her ex in a huge new home (they have their own space and rooms that way lol), so she has company and they can co-parent under one rooftop. This child saved her life...but in no way was she ready for him.

Things just work out

It's exhaustingly hard work, and an incredible test of character and strength, but hell if everyone else can do it you can too! Of course on the flipside, if you know in your heart of all hearts that a parent is not what you are meant to be, we'll all still be here for you

Well it's been over a week now since I found out and in medical terms I think i am heading into 7 weeks although I have a very good idea when conception happened so 5 weeks.

Got docs today, they just want to ceck my blood pressure.


I am doing ok, still having panic attacks well they are mor e like sweat attack through the night, I think the issue I would like to raise which has become highly significant for me going through this process and I believe it is not talked about by mums or mums to be, but some like myself are going through this grieving process at the same time on hearing I am pregnant. The grieving is all about you loosing the person you once were, past life etc..how you were without a bundle of responsibility, how you were able to go out for an evening and not think about have to plan baby sitters etc, go away for a long weekend with friends or partner, just generall doing stuff on your own daily! etc.. now I have spoken to a couple of mums who do agree with this, just a mourning of the person you once were and how now you have a responsibility to take care of this person you have. My partner understood and was great about it when I talked about it.

Anyway just wanted bring this up really, a great book out there is ' misconceptions' Naomi Wolf'. She talks about the realities for woman when the become pregnant and what happens and what some women go through dealing with it, also misconceptions of how women are treated in the medical profession and by society generally.

For me it is something I am going to have to take day by day, over the weekend I have not felt pregnant - which I suppose is a good thing? maybe its my body saying this is the best way you are going to cope with it and so is protecting me from plumeting? I don't have any symptoms at all, still drinking coffee, and desperately wanting to enjoy a glass of red wine!

We haven't told anyone as I will still need to process this and I feel I will need quite a few months to process it!