Socialising with your DH/DP

Dh and i socialise together, but all our friends are friends, and we are all around the same age.

The only difference being is that we are the only one in our circle of friends to have any kids as we are the only ones able too.

Maybe what you could do is get someone to babysit your kids while you go out with dh and his friends and get to know them a bit more without the kids around...that way you are able to socialise with people with kids and people without...which is what we have ended up doing pretty much.

I have all my mummy friends and kids, and then we have our group with no kids...works well actually as it means i get some "adult time"

DH and I have the same group of friends and are around the same age,so mostly we go out together,though occasionally we do go out seperately,sometimes I go out with my girls and there is no way hes invited,......can hardly talk about him if hes there

no. dh and i have seperate groups of friends. my friends all know dh of course and i know all his friends and i did use to hang out with them but 4kids kind of take up a lot of time.
i get out with my friends whenever i want, and if something comes up for dh to go to with his friends then he does too.

I have lots of mummy-friends that DH has never met or can't remember meeting but we also have couple-friends, mostly girls I met here before I got UTD and their partners/husbands. It's hard though because just because I get along with someone doesn't mean DH (or even me!) will like their husband!! DH also has his mates from work, I've been along to rugby matches at the pub with them all but wouldn't socialise with them if DH wasn't around IYGWIM!

Some of the mum/couple/work friends overlap too.

I think when/if we move home we'd have more separate groups of friends too, DH has never really socialised with my uni mates as there's 4 years between us. Here, we've kind of had to work at making friends together.

Dp and i are still pretty young (im 25, and hes 26) so we both like to socialise a bit ( not nearly as much as i did before dd came along ) hes very good with staying home with DD when i want to go out with my friends , and occasionally he will go out with his ( i tend to go out abit more than him ) . if we can get a babysitter (rare occassion ) then we will go out together . we have different groups of friends but we sometimes all get togther and we do spend alot of time with his siblings (he has a twin brother with a partner and 2 yr old , and a younger brother with a partner and 9month old ) so we are all in the same situation and i get along really well with all the partners and the kids play together .

Sheeza same with my DP and his mates, they're all into getting drunk, clubbing, are single... I don't think they get the whole Parent thing and that he has a family now...
Though my DP goes out with them occasionally, he's not really into drinking or clubbing! Though there was a 2 month period where I think things were getting too much for him - stress in our relationship, stress of studying and being a parents and not being 'young and carefree' and he went out all weekend getting drunk and going clubbing with his mates... His mum and dad talked sense into him!

As DP and I are only 20, a lot of our friends are single, young, and like to go drinking and clubbing regularly!

DP and I have both never been like them at all, we've been dating since we were 16! And living together since 17.

I have my mummy friends now, we occasionally hang out outside coffee group but not a lot imo.
DP never comes to parents things, I think he feels a bit awkward with older people! So he's happier with his friends but tbh I prefer hanging out with people that I share similar interests with.

We sometimes get my mum or MIL to babysit so we can go out together but we've only done that a handful of times in the last 10 months.

I was re thinking, I am friends with some of DPs friends but not really, he isn't friends with mine - always has something to complain about! tbh I think it's nice to keep them separate. When we were in college we had a group of about 8 of us who were really close and when DP and I started dating it was fine and then the others (or maybe us?) just drifted apart and suddenly the others started back chatting about us so I think it's nice to keep friends separate.

DP always gets invited to PIN catch ups with the other halves and lunches etc but he chooses not to come.