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cuppatea 
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 Posted: 13 January 2011 at 10:02pm |
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3rdtimelucky I'm not sure why you are bringing this all up in a thread where it obviously doesn't want to be discussed, if you want a discussion about YOUR topic then start another thread and have it with people that want to have that discussion. Nearly every comment by an IVF mum or women waiting for IVF or those who have been TTC for a long time has been that they would just love a baby, some even saying they gladly would have taken the twins, meaning they don't even care if the baby they have is genetically theirs let alone a certain sex.
I think your comments are just causing more hurt and you really aren't being helpful to women who have been deeply upset that someone else would do something so callous.
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Posted: 13 January 2011 at 10:03pm |
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I see you have removed some of your previous post, I think that was wise and I hope i was the only one that read it.
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Posted: 13 January 2011 at 10:40pm |
3rdtimelucky, from your comments you are obviously just out to provoke a response and have no interests in the feelings of others. I would suggest going back to your science fiction novel 
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Posted: 13 January 2011 at 10:46pm |
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*sigh*
May I suggest that the title of this thread is edited to make reference to the fact that it encompasses the topic of abortion.
That way, those who will be upset by it, can avoid it.
I edited my response prior to readying your reply cuppatea, but I do hope that someone else read it, if only so that someone knows it was not directed at any individual. It was yet another attempt to have a discussion on a topic.
I do not intend to make any further comment on the issue.
For those who have been hurt by my comments, I apologise. I have deliberately kept my responses unemotional to avoid such a consequence.
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cuppatea
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Posted: 13 January 2011 at 11:31pm |
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I didn't suggest your comments were aimed at one person just that it was wise you had removed them and I do hope i was the only person that read them as I've never had issue TTC or had to go through IVF so I'm not personally upset by them but I know some of the other posters would have been.
And the issue is no one wanted a discussion on it, if you were able to use some empathy you would have realised that, pushed the new topic button and had your discussion in another thread with people that want to talk about the wider social issues around PGD instead of bringing it into one where from the title and comments it was obvious people were emotional and upset about this one story.
Being non emotional and trying to get other people to have a non emotional discussion when they are obviously upset is unproductive as well as hurtful, that might be a good thing to remember when you want to discuss topics in the future.
I have no issue with the title either, it was obvious from the tone and wording that the OP was upset and angry before even entering the thread, and it's normally emotive topics that cause that.
I have no issue with you wanting to discuss the topic, I will happily discuss it with you as I'm sure others will, but this is not the right place for it.
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astral_monkey
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Posted: 14 January 2011 at 10:08am |
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3rdtimelucky, as the original poster of this topic, I would just like to add my 2 cents before we let the thread shuffle to the back pages.
I understand what you were trying to do. But what you chose to discuss was the greater issue surrounding the article, ignoring my intentions for posting the article in the first place. Although you did touch on this, implying it was a for the trivial reason of illiciting the same response from my peers as I had when reading the article. Ding ding ding! You got it in one!!!
I can have long and thorough discussions about the 'big issues'. I can argue for hours about the ramifications of this that and the other thing. But sometimes I read or hear about something and am so floored I just have to share my feelings. That is what I did, and that is all I was doing.
If you chose to start a thread on IVF and gender selection (or any other kind of selection), I will undoubtly contribute my 'pro-choice, but a line has to be drawn' opinion.
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mummyofprinces
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Posted: 14 January 2011 at 5:43pm |
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Im really not sure why there is so much focus on persons opinions... if you dont like them ignore them... this thread has turned into a pick on 3rdtimelucky thread...
Back to the OP, I still think its very, very sad. I am sure there are many people out there who would have gladly taken those boys into their hearts, but I dont believe this is "normal" behaviour by mentally healthy individuals and as such I just feel empathy and compassion for them. Im sorry, I am a monster I know but I just can not understand how messed up their daughters death has left them to willingly abort to healthy baby boys.... so, so sad for everyone involved.
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Seriously?... no I mean, SERIOUSLY?
