Crying it out - 19 month old

Have you patted him to sleep for the last 19 months? If so he is probably confused about the new routine and is letting you know he doesn't like it! CIO doesn't work for all babies and if you think he isn't responding well you could try the verbal reassurance technique, checking in on him after 5mins, 10 mins, 15 mins- go to the sleep store website as they have heaps of info.

Another method is the gradual withdrawl method- moving slowly out of his room over a week or so to make him feel safe and secure but not needing you to fall asleep.

Good luck

I agree, you should probably take a different approach, perhaps controlled crying would be a bit better... - Settled - fed, changed, etc, leave for 3 mins and if still crying at 3 mins, go in and resettled then do for 5, same thing do for 7 and I read/heard the max you should leave them is 7 mins.

Also re the puking during the night, that's a fine example of why it shouldn't be done in a very young baby - because they can choke on their vomit but *luckily* being older, the risk of that is less.

Anyway, I would try a different approach like CC.

Thats quite a while to see no improvement. I always go by what my Plunket nurse told me many years ago with my first - 3 days to make a habit, 3 days to break a habit. If you dont see any improvement in a few days then Id definitely be trying something else.

Have you tried creating a regular bedtime routine? I find if I do bath, dinner bed it doesnt work for mine they get an energy rush after dinner so I do dinner, playtime then bath, story bed. Its worked way better.

Good luck :)

Thank you all for your replies
Hi Jano1 - I have assisted in some way until now. It was feeding to sleep then rocking (i stopped doing this when he was getting heavier) and then patting him. But now he is 19months old, i thought he needs to be able to sleep on his own and have started doing this..
I have tried CC before and it didnt work as he is worse when he sees me. Has taken over an hour and half for him to sleep with controlled crying. I have also tried just standing there next to the cot without patting but he stands up, puts his arms out and keeps crying (full on cry) until i pick him up.
Linzy - My son is like kind of like yours i guess coz its all or nothing with him too. I know gradual withdrawal or CC hasnt worked on him. I do have Elizabeth Pantly book for babies. But I guess i now need the toddler one for my son.
Yeah when i started, i thought it will get better in 3 days.
IsaacsMum - I used to send my DH when my DS woke up crying in the middle of the night too coz he could settle him easier (Sometimes without picking) but if i go in , i used to make it worse by picking him up and it used to take longer to settle him.
Last night, he fell asleep after 10 minutes of grizzling on and off and slept till 7 this morning.
It makes it harder on me coz somedays it takes longer than 10minutes and i'm not strong when it comes to hearing him cry for so long :(

no advice... just wanted to say.. i know your pain.. its hard to make huge changes.

Hang in there mama... and HUGS !

(turn up the tv so you cant hear him :) )