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skylar
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Posted: 17 July 2010 at 3:10pm |
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I am a planner too...for years I put it off and made sure I did everything that I wanted to before taking the plunge...and then finally I was ready, like the rest of my life that was planned out and executed the way I wanted I thought TTC would be exactly the same it wouldn't take long looking back if I could slap myself I would because man was I naive!!! I thought it wouldn't take long to get the BFP but here I am 20mths later still trying and now I wish I had tried earlier!!!
Don't make the same mistake as me...time waits for no one, whenever you get pregnant just think yourself lucky...don't fret the small stuff!
Good luck :)
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SpecialK
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Posted: 19 July 2010 at 2:50pm |
No planning here  Apart from deciding that as a couple we were ready to have a baby and wanted them close together, and have them old enough for kindy/daycare by the time I am 30 and can focus on my career. So far we have been very lucky in that we got pregnant very quickly. It did and does mean that I have been/will be pregnant or with a new baby and a toddler at significant family events but meh... you can make them work.
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RachFizz
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Posted: 22 July 2010 at 2:04pm |
I usually try and plan things way in advance as it sets my mind at ease, but since i've been married to a serious non-planner, NONE of my plans ever work out the way i want! lol. But i'm kinda coming to terms with it.
In regards to TTC though, I think I'm the opposite- I have a heart for it and i just want to take things as they come. i just know that it will work out wonderfully. Problem is that DH is the opposite here aswell- he wants to be very sensible and ultra prepared and have all the boxes checked: career, travel, own house. My friends are all the same. I can understand why ofcourse, but I don't think that there is a preparedness-line and once you've crossed it you know you're ready sorta thing. Society has worked out an acceptable formula, but i don't wanna conform to it! Lol sorry it sounds like i just want to be rebllious! haha i'm not like that i just don't see things in a sensible way atm... Let's just say faith makes you blind. I've already moved my whole life around TTC in the hopes that DH would change his mind  Maybe that's dumb but I'm not passionate about anything else anymore....
But yeah, you really never know what's going to happen. There may be more reasons not to TTC in the future, it may be more inconvenient.. I'm gonna be cliche and say follow your heart hahaha 
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CrazyCass
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Posted: 20 September 2010 at 11:21am |
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We kept putting it of, we need to pay this off, or we want to paint the house. Then it was we want to go to Quebec to visit family.... Then the uncle that is in Quebec said come over while you are pregnant! That was the light bulb going off in my head! DF and I just looked at each other and knew. Of course we then needed to plan when to go. We put the trip off by 5 months, but in saying that i booked & Paid for the holiday last week. (eek!)
Seeing as we're having a baby we have decided to take the plunge & get married while we are there, its taking all my sef control as we are not telling any family here until we get back, AND i have to leave 100% of the wedding plans to DF Uncle! but time flys, in a few weeks we'll be 'trying' and by the time Xmas is over with we'll be flying out (bring on the 28th Jan!)
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BabyRixon
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Posted: 20 September 2010 at 12:16pm |
We started trying in Sep 09 as soon as we decided we wanted a baby! It took eight months and then a missed MC.
I'm SOO glad we started trying immediately. I was in no rush but then noticed my partner was getting pretty clucky! I guess it set something off in me seeing him be so darling with the babies among our friends and fam... 
So long story short... It's not really easy to get pregnant like they bet into me at school to scare the crap out of me! It's actually not at all easy it seems. So when I have my baby in my arms I'll know I've been blessed
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chrissysmith
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Posted: 20 September 2010 at 3:06pm |
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Yes definately. DH wanted to start a family long before i did and when i finally agreed i planned what month i thought would be a good month taking into consideration weather, birthdays etc. I honestly thought that it would only take a couple of months max... 8 months later we still haven't been successful and now when i look back i crack up at my ignorance about it all.
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babycrazy
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Posted: 20 September 2010 at 4:21pm |
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I am a planner at heart but not with TTC. I grabbed the bull by the horns the minute DH agreed to letting me stop the pill otherwise it never would've happened. I've been more putting things off because I thought I'd be pregnant (eg travel etc) but now am just living life seeing as it seems to be taking so long.
The only planning I do is being home when I'm going to ovulate!
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JAFAjaffa
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Posted: 21 September 2010 at 3:09pm |
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I'm a planner. Big time. Love my lists etc. Having said that I expected it to take longer than it did to get pregnant and really the only reason I went off the pill when I did was 'in case' it took a long time. We were very lucky and it only took 2 months of trying.
Now, having had one Summer baby, I'd love another but maybe a little earlier than Dec! I was so hot and uncomfy by the end. We're going to start trying again soonish so maybe we could have a Sept/Oct baby. That'd be lovely!
I'm completely expecting that my body won't be quite so compliant this time around!
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CrazyCass
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Posted: 21 September 2010 at 5:30pm |
Sept/Oct sounds good! My neice was born in May & my sister had a really hard time over the summer keeping cool, i was happy to put what we had originally wanted an April baby to an (at the earliest) Aug Baby.
How do you find a birthday in Dec? I've told DF that i dont want a Dec/Jan baby cause xmas is so expensive & all the Dec babies i know pretty much get missed out with xmas & birthday rolled into one 
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Are you a planner?
Lil_Nic9 wrote:
but hoping we can change that to 2015 lol however if it happens, it happens, imo there is no right or wrong time to have a baby. Just because you plan one for here because you won't be busy etc doesn't mean that when bubs is born something unexpectedly pops up iygwim?
