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AngieBabe 
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 Posted: 03 July 2008 at 10:34am |
Karen, my Dh and I have registered for that FA seminar and will be there, so if you want to come along there'll be a friendly face (well, as much as an online person has a face... ugh, you know what I mean!   )
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Emmecat
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Posted: 03 July 2008 at 10:37am |
Ange I think I will register. It will be nice to meet you in person too....seeing as we have been on this same journey for quite a while now! Hopefully DP can finish his new job early to come along. Hope he doesn't make any inappropriate sperm jokes haha (he's kinda loud) 
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ginger
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Posted: 03 July 2008 at 10:51am |
It's a really worthwhile seminar guys but it fills up quick Emmecat so get onto it! 
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Emily281
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Posted: 03 July 2008 at 3:15pm |
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Hi Karen
I know how you feel. My worst fear was that I wouldn't be able to get pg - but when I first started this journey (in Jan 07) I was really excited and hopeful every month. My tww I would always have 'symptoms' and then be absolutely gutted when AF arrived. After about 8 or 9 months I couldn't do it any more ... I gave up hoping each month and just accepted that I wasn't going to get pg naturally. I was just BDing to say that we had, but really I was killing time until I hit that magic 12 month mark and could see a fertility specialist. So you can imagine my reaction when my doctor told me that we had to wait another 12 months because the outpatients department had issued a new directive that they didn't want to see people unless they had been trying for 2 years! And apparently there was nothing to worry about because its normal for people to take up to 2 years to conceive. Anyway it was only when I went back to him twice in a week about AF pain that he gave me a referral to both the fertility people and a private gyno.
There have been many times I felt like giving up, and like you got sooooo #$@%^%^$ off that deadbeats and child killers could have as many kids as they wanted while kind, loving people have to struggle through months and years of infertility. But what's gotten me through it all these months is seeing other people on message boards (like Ginger) who have finally gotten pg and the sheer joy and appreciation they have for what they have finally been given.
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TTC#1: Jan 07
Aug 08: Lap found and excised Stage 3 Endo
Nov 08: 2nd lap clear - given OK to TTC after next AF
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Lulu
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Posted: 03 July 2008 at 5:26pm |
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I am quite surprised that your Dr has such a relaxed attitude towards your TTC. It seems to be there would be no harm in doing blood tests to determine whether you are ovulating and sperm analyis to determine quality, number and mobility of sperm. Neither of these things can be 'known' by assuming that regular cycles and healthy people mean that everything is in order. I hope this doesn't sound harsh, but after 2.5 years of TTC, making many of the same assumptions, I wondered why I had wasted so much time when I finally find out from further analysis that we would probably never conceive with out medical intervention. In our case, it was a male fertility issue. I think it is worth doing the tests as then these things can either be crossed off the list... or not. And from there you can make decisions based on facts at hand. The fact that you have had two pregnancies is a great sign that you can get pregnant, but these tests will still potentially be helpful to determine why it is taking time to conceive.
Good luck, I hope that your dreams come true.
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Lulu
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Posted: 03 July 2008 at 5:28pm |
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If you go privately to a fertility specialist for the initial appointment, there is no need to wait even for 12 months. You can still go down the publicly funded route from there if you meet the criteria, but it does speed up the entire process if you go to the initial consultation privately.
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trouble101
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Posted: 03 July 2008 at 9:26pm |
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Hi there Emmecat - I sort of know how you feel.
I have been following the forums and really thought you would geta BFP this month!
I am sort of in the same boat, we have seriously been trying the past 6 months or so with no luck although saying that I havent been on BCP for about 18 months or so and werent that careful! I did see my dr about it 4 months or so ago, He gave me forms for day 21 bloods and test for DH to get SA done - I havent dont either yet if nothing happens in the next couple of months will look at getting that done. Sometimes I do feel will it happen to us. My periods seem pretty regular and am sure that I ovulate - or at least my fertility monitor tells me that I do.
At the moment still have PSN with blue veins across with them and they feel so so sore ... I dont want to read too much into the symptoms at the moment.
I have also had 1 successful pregnancy about 8 years ago so am confused as to why it is taking too long (long story but basically adopted my child out in very open adoption to infertile friends of mine as I was very young at the time).
I am also thinking about saving up some $$$ just in case we need to get specialist treatment and not sure what the rules are into secondary fertility? when you have successfully been pregnant before?
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ezza
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Posted: 04 July 2008 at 1:40pm |
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Hey Emmecat!
Long time, no talk. Just wanted to let you know, i'm thinking of you and logged on hoping to see you had a BFP.
I hope your time comes really really really soon.
xxx e
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JadeC
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Posted: 05 July 2008 at 10:03pm |
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Wow, hugs and courage to everyone in this thread.
I know I am starting to feel the same way, and it's only been 6 months for us. I think half of it is having online friends who get pg just by thinking of sex, and also this burning desire to prove that my weight isn't going to be a problem as everyone told me it would for concieving.
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When is it time to call it quits? (RANT)
