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TeacherLady 
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 Posted: 20 December 2012 at 4:37pm |
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Good points Anna!
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TheKelly
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Posted: 22 December 2012 at 1:05am |
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my view is,whats a perfect sized family for one person,will be different to someone else.
For me,having only one child was out of the question,I wanted 3 or 4,and im pregnant with my 4th so I guess 4 it is (and that is IT!)
But for others one just works perfectly for them.
I manage to divide my time between the three,and none of them go without,they all certainly get enough of my time and attention,but I do remember how much easier it was to focus on just one child as opposed to three (my eldest was an only child until she was 7) and in all honesty sometimes the thought of having to divide myself between four AND a husband is daunting.
Ignore what anyone else says though,its nobodie's business but your own
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TeacherLady
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Posted: 22 December 2012 at 9:44am |
Awesome that things are working out for you TheKelly- congrats on baby #4  Definitely right about things being nobody's business- I find it is often the older family or people that feel that we should reproduce a whole lot more!
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Sarah_D
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Posted: 24 December 2012 at 10:08am |
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Yes, my husband and I are both mid 30's and considered only having one for a few reasons, mainly $$ and our sanity :)
It wasnt meant to be however, we are now 17 weeks pregnant with twins. So now we are talking about my husband getting the snip.
I agree with what others say, people feel they have the right to comment on everything to do with your family.. from the number you have to the how you parent. Ive found with being pregnant, the personal things people feel they have the right to ask you, like its no big deal!
Go luck with your small, perfect family!
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snugglebug
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Posted: 24 December 2012 at 8:36pm |
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TeacherLady, Im doing much better with the PND now but still have my moments where I slip back so that's part of the reason why Im not ready for another baby and don't know if I will be. The fear of going through that again is quite strong.
As our little man gets older and does more and more we just enjoy him so much I just want to focus on him. Im not saying people who have more children can't focus on all of them equally- just that I would struggle to myself and it would be hard.
I think if we do have another, it will be when he is heading off to school. Like you were are quite young though, Im 26 so I have over 10 years to have another one, I probably wouldn't wait more than a few years just in case but Im lucky enough to have the time.
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snugglebug
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Posted: 24 December 2012 at 8:37pm |
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PS Im a teacher too and that is also a big factor- I love my job and am 2 terms off finishing my registration which got put on hold when I had my son
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Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7
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Séraphine
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Posted: 25 December 2012 at 3:24pm |
Hi TeacherLady, Just reading an article on the December issue of NEXT called "One & Done", it's worth a read
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TeacherLady
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Posted: 25 December 2012 at 9:28pm |
Oh thanks Toger_lily- I will have a look Snugglebug- know what you mean about the focusing on one child thing. Glad that you are doing better with PND. Good luck on getting your teaching reg completed soon- it is a good thing to tick off.  Are you secondary or primary?
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snugglebug
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Posted: 26 December 2012 at 10:05pm |
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Im primary :) year 1! So I have 20 babies as well as my 1 most of the time hehehe
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TeacherLady
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Posted: 27 December 2012 at 3:50pm |
Good on you snugglebug I'm secondary- much prefer the 12/13-18/19 year olds!
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Do you only want one child?
