Need a little advice ladies

Sheza, I think older people just like to say that. We are 23 and 26 with a 3.3 year old and we've still done lots of things incl travelling overseas with her so we're def not missing out!!

i was only wroking for two months before i found out i was preggy and to make it wrose i got knocked up its not easy but you will have to telll her at some point i agree with the ladys tell her after you bloods are done i hope she takes it well oh and congrats

WOW its amazing how many peole got married so soon after meeting, and have 'big' age gaps... I thought I was the only one!!

I met DH in Nov 04, got preg Feb 05, got married June 07. There is 8 years between us (he is 33 and Im 25) and Im sure some poeple thought he was too old, or I was too young, and we were rushing things (Alex was planned), but when you know its right whats the point in waiting!!

Sheza - I would personally hold off telling her until you get to 12 weeks (or, a wee bit earlier) because really is it that important that your boss knows?

If you don't want to tell her because you feel bad that you've just started there (and they may be a bit annoyed even though it's not in any way your fault - like you said you didn't know you were pg when you had your interview), then just say that you aren't supposed to lift anything heavy. I've had bad back problems for years and every job I've been in that's been a condition and the bosses asked no further questions. Kind of skirts around the pg issue at least for a while.

The age thing is really funny. We get comments all the time and we just laugh them off.

I was 16, DH was 27 when we first got together - 6 years later, still together and happily married for 2 years (I'm now 22, he's 33).

When people joke to DH and say he's a cradle snatcher he simply shrugs and says 'you're only as old as the girl you feel' LOL

Hope all goes well when you finally tell your manager Sheza

If it helps, I agree with everyone else - age gaps SO don't matter! I'm 25 and DH is 32, and sometimes I reckon you wouldn't know there *was* a difference LOL Anyway, at my last job I found out I was pregnant only one week into training My then manager didn't take it so well, her first comment was "Well you didn't mention anything about this at the interview!" ... stupid woman, I didn't KNOW at the interview and even if I had I wouldn't have necessarily told her. Fortunately she was replaced not long after and her replacement was wonderful and understanding.

Totally up to you and what you feel comfortable with in regards to when you tell your boss, I just got it over with and told them straight away just so that it was out in the open (I'm terrible at keeping good news to myself!).

My DH is 2 years younger than me, I was 22 and he was 20 at the start of the year when we got married. People always commented on how young we were getting married... but we were engaged for a year and a half first, so that gave time for people to get used to it. It didn't feel like we were too young, we have known each other for about 8 years as we went to high school together (didn't start dating til just after high school though).

Now people think that we are starting a family when we are too young, but who cares what they think?! Our family and friends are stoked for us and we wanted to start trying straight away because of infertility fears. Besides, reproductively speaking, we are in our prime and it's the best time for us to try Also, DH has a father who is almost 80 - and he hated growing up with an old dad, because they couldn't relate at all. I think being a young mum has a million advantages... it's not like I am still in high school, and I am happily married with a wonderful supportive family.

Maybe your boss was just making a big deal about you having heaps of time in the future to get preggers, because she was trying to make you feel better (since she doesn't know you are pregnant yet)?

If it were me, I would tell her sooner rather than later... she can't be angry at you for not telling her at the interview since you didn't know then. And it would probably be useful for her to know in case you get morning sickness or complications early on... or just nauseous and tired.

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