What would you do in this situation?

Hi Mookey, when I was pg with my DD1, I was one of two secretaries in a small office and the only full time secretary. I told my boss as soon as I knew I was pregnant, and although I was due at Christmas, he did nothing. Asked him in August what he was going to do to replace me and he didn't know. September didn't know. October didn't know. November still didn't know but thought he might have someone in mind. By this time the other secretary was pressuring me a lot to stay until my due date (the office would have closed for Christmas about a week before my due date) but I didn't want to do 9m pg body plus full-time work. I was exhausted. In the end my boss finally got a replacement but because he dawdled so long, she couldn't start til January and a temp had to be got in for December.

Well after all that ramble, I just wanted to say that if I were you I'd get the letter and take the time off. Family is always more important than work and if you didn't take the time off you may regret it later - sometimes there are no second chances. Tell your boss tomorrow that you'll be leaving asap, commit to the end of the week, or 1/2 your hours until the end of next week or something like that if you want to - but it would be a courtesy. And whatever they say about getting a replacement for you, it's a shame they hadn't got organised by now but it's not your responsibility.

I hope your grandmother gets better soon too.

will you regret it if something does happen to your grandmother and you're not there? if so, go. My grandfather died at the beginning of the year and while he was very sick i was having to make the decision whether or not to go over - and cost us alot. Hate to say it but if it had been my nana, would've been gone, no question.

I think you want to go, so go. work will be fine.

Thanks. Pretty much the conclusion I had drawn too. My Grandmother is 99 (due to turn 100 in November), and she seems to improve a little when she has someone there with her and talking to her. I feel like I'd be doing her and my family a disservice if I went back to work, and didn't do my bit to help get Grandma back from where she is now.

I def say get the letter and leave work early. Family is much more important and sometimes the employer needs a push to finally get someone in. I told my employers when I was 12wks pg that I was taking mat leave and even gave them the date I had decided to finish in November and you know they still hadnt hired anyone to cover me but the date and emailed me to see if I would go in for an extra week (this was on my last day) At 38wks pg I turned it down (I wonder why)

I'd finish up work too, don't forget that you are entitled (depending on spouses income) to go on to a sickness benefit from 27 weeks pregnant, all you need is a doctors certficate. So that may be a solution to any money woes that you may have. Sorry I don't know how much you get.

My work haven't found a replacement for me yet either and I finish up on the 17th August, my views on that is it's their problem not mine, the way I've been treated lately at that place, it's almost like Karma that they haven't found anyone.

Your family is definitely number one priority, and you would be making the right choice by putting them first and not your work place.