https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 08 May 2026 01:59:16 +0000 Tue, 03 Jul 2007 16:02:07 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=8736 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=172024&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#172024 Author: .Mel
Subject: 8736
Posted: 03 July 2007 at 4:02pm

I'd finish up work too, don't forget that you are entitled (depending on spouses income) to go on to a sickness benefit from 27 weeks pregnant, all you need is a doctors certficate. So that may be a solution to any money woes that you may have. Sorry I don't know how much you get.

My work haven't found a replacement for me yet either and I finish up on the 17th August, my views on that is it's their problem not mine, the way I've been treated lately at that place, it's almost like Karma that they haven't found anyone.

Your family is definitely number one priority, and you would be making the right choice by putting them first and not your work place.

]]> Tue, 03 Jul 2007 16:02:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=172024&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#172024 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171576&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171576 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 8736
Posted: 02 July 2007 at 10:42pm

Definitely go, be with your Grandmother and support your family. It's not like you haven't given your work notice to get someone else in. My employer still hasn't replaced me and I've been on leave for over nine months! I feel sorry for the others in my office who have to take up the slack, but it's not my fault, just as it's not your fault if your office is caught short for a little while. You sound very conscientious and the kind of person some employers will take advantage of - even if it is inconvenient for them, it's not the end of the world and they will continue on with business. Family is much more important.]]> Mon, 02 Jul 2007 22:42:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171576&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171576 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171552&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171552 Author: Kels
Subject: 8736
Posted: 02 July 2007 at 10:28pm

I def say get the letter and leave work early. Family is much more important and sometimes the employer needs a push to finally get someone in. I told my employers when I was 12wks pg that I was taking mat leave and even gave them the date I had decided to finish in November and you know they still hadnt hired anyone to cover me but the date and emailed me to see if I would go in for an extra week (this was on my last day) At 38wks pg I turned it down (I wonder why)]]> Mon, 02 Jul 2007 22:28:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171552&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171552 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171466&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171466 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 8736
Posted: 02 July 2007 at 9:19pm

The same situation happened to me in december, I was due to finish just before xmas eve, but at the beginning of december we found out my dad wouldn't make xmas. I went in asap and told work, who also hadn't organised a replacement for me (not my problem) so I did part days for three of the days in the following week to get someone up to speed in my job enought to cover till they could get someone in to do it and finished, floating out on annual days I hadn't taken and leiu days I had up my sleeve. At the end of the day, while I would say don't burn your bridges, no one ever dies thinking damn, I wish I spent less time with my family and more at work. Also, out it this way, if your work dosen't have the compassion to let you leave early, are they a company you really want to work for, considering when you return to work as a mum, you will be taking waaaaay more (sick) time off!]]> Mon, 02 Jul 2007 21:19:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171466&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171466 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171443&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171443 Author: Mookey
Subject: 8736
Posted: 02 July 2007 at 8:54pm

Thanks. Pretty much the conclusion I had drawn too. My Grandmother is 99 (due to turn 100 in November), and she seems to improve a little when she has someone there with her and talking to her. I feel like I'd be doing her and my family a disservice if I went back to work, and didn't do my bit to help get Grandma back from where she is now.]]> Mon, 02 Jul 2007 20:54:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171443&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171443 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171419&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171419 Author: Chovynz
Subject: 8736
Posted: 02 July 2007 at 8:38pm

From a guys POV. I'd say leave work. Nicely. Don't burn your bridges, but ultimatly it's works responsibility to get a replacement for you. Not yours. You needn't feel guilty about "leaving them in the lurch" either. ]]> Mon, 02 Jul 2007 20:38:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171419&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171419 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171390&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171390 Author: lizzle
Subject: 8736
Posted: 02 July 2007 at 8:19pm

will you regret it if something does happen to your grandmother and you're not there? if so, go. My grandfather died at the beginning of the year and while he was very sick i was having to make the decision whether or not to go over - and cost us alot. Hate to say it but if it had been my nana, would've been gone, no question.

I think you want to go, so go. work will be fine.]]> Mon, 02 Jul 2007 20:19:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171390&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171390 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171387&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171387 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 8736
Posted: 02 July 2007 at 8:19pm

Hard choice but if the only thing that is keeping you at work is your worry about leaving them in the lurch then I would finish up early. Family is important and if you can financially cope, why not do it. ]]> Mon, 02 Jul 2007 20:19:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171387&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171387 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171385&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171385 Author: busymum
Subject: 8736
Posted: 02 July 2007 at 8:18pm

Hi Mookey, when I was pg with my DD1, I was one of two secretaries in a small office and the only full time secretary. I told my boss as soon as I knew I was pregnant, and although I was due at Christmas, he did nothing. Asked him in August what he was going to do to replace me and he didn't know. September didn't know. October didn't know. November still didn't know but thought he might have someone in mind. By this time the other secretary was pressuring me a lot to stay until my due date (the office would have closed for Christmas about a week before my due date) but I didn't want to do 9m pg body plus full-time work. I was exhausted. In the end my boss finally got a replacement but because he dawdled so long, she couldn't start til January and a temp had to be got in for December.

Well after all that ramble, I just wanted to say that if I were you I'd get the letter and take the time off. Family is always more important than work and if you didn't take the time off you may regret it later - sometimes there are no second chances. Tell your boss tomorrow that you'll be leaving asap, commit to the end of the week, or 1/2 your hours until the end of next week or something like that if you want to - but it would be a courtesy. And whatever they say about getting a replacement for you, it's a shame they hadn't got organised by now but it's not your responsibility.

I hope your grandmother gets better soon too.]]> Mon, 02 Jul 2007 20:18:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171385&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171385 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171378&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171378 Author: Mookey
Subject: 8736
Posted: 02 July 2007 at 8:11pm

I'm 30 weeks preggers, and due to finish work in 5 weeks. I will then have 2 weeks paid annual leave and my paid maternity leave will start when I'm 37 weeks. At the end of last week my Grandmother had a fall, and we spent the weekend at the hospital. She has been up and down in a semi-comatose state, so we're still unsure of what the future holds. We only have a small family and we are really close, so this has come as a huge shock. My Mum, sister and I are taking turns by her bedside. I emailed my boss to explain the situation and that I won't be at work for a while, and he told me we would treat this time off as annual leave (unpaid).
Work still haven't organised a replacement for me, and the situation with my Grandmother is highly stressful. My specialist would give me a cert to finish work now if I wanted to, and we can (just) afford for me to go without pay until my maternity pay kicks in. I feel kinda guilty for leaving work in the lurch, but kinda think that it's not my responsibility that they've not organised a replacement for me yet, and at a time like this family and looking after myself is more important. I've discussed it with Mum, and she said it would definitely take some of the pressure off her. What would you do in this situation? Cheers.]]> Mon, 02 Jul 2007 20:11:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8736&PID=171378&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#171378