Children’s age gaps!

Hi everyone
just interested to see what kind of age gaps you have in your family?

We are potentially going to end up with 4 years plus age gap, wondered if any one else had a similar one? or pros and cons for smaller/bigger ones!

Thanks!

My first son is 20years old next month.....and we have just had my second son on Jan 31st this year!
Yep - an almost 20 year age gap :)

I have 21 months between 1 & 2 and at the start I found it a bit hard as Ollie was still quite dependent on me. Thankfully, he wasn't jealous of his sister or anything so we soon figured out how to (mostly) keep everyone happy. They are now really close and when number 3 came along they would keep each other entertained which was/is great! There is 27 months between 2 & 3.

I think there are pros and cons to big and small gaps, and I think you make it work for you which ever way it ends up. Good luck with your decision making!

I have 4y4m between my 2. So far I have found it great! DD is at morning kindy 5 days a week so I get all morning with the baby and to catch up on the housework etc while he is sleeping. DD LOVES her brother and is a great help with putting his dummy in, getting things for me, playing with him etc and can watch him while I have a quick shower. It is also good that she is at a nice independant age and can do 99% of things for herself so I rarely need to stop feeding DS or whatever to help her out. We have noticed that she has started acting "babyish", pretending she is a baby (I think to get a bit of attention as we have had a bit of a rough time with DS's health) and she has also regressed with night time TT and as of last week we have had to put her back in pullups. Not sure how well the age gap will work in say 4 years time when they'll be 8 and 4, moreso because of the different genders but hopefully DS won't be tooo annoying to his big sister lol    I did ideally want around a 3 year age gap but mother nature had other ideas

There's 15 months between DD and DS. Great age gap although have been on my toes for 3 years now. It's (can I say this without jinxing it?) startiung to get a bit easier and they are really great buddies.

I would love a number three or four but will wait until DS is 5 & DD 6

I'm going for 2 years 2 months, this is what I wanted because of older and didn't want babies in my 40s, and I wanted a relatively short phase of raising very young children.

From my own experiance...

My brother and me have a very similiar age gap and it was great as we liked doing similiar things and we got on well. Oddly though we don't have much in common now, but that's more about personality than anything else.

My Mum is 7 years older than her sister and she feels it was too bigger gap and they were almost like two families of only children. By the time my aunty was old enough to play, Mum was in high school and not interested. They aren't super close, but they do get on well.

DH is 5 years older than his brother and says they had nothing in commom as kids, only one year at the same school. However, they are now very close so in the end it made no difference.

Dad and his brother are 18 months apart and they are like twins and have basically spent their whole lives together. They shared a room as kids, worked together and lived next door to each other until their mid 50s. They are very different people and they argue all the time but the bond's quite strong.

I have 2 years 4 days between mine..both mine due on same day lol.. anyway my son was never jealous but did find it hard from being doted on to not being the only one.. i found it hard cause for 5 months Liam only slept 45 mins at a time and still doesnt sleep through at night.. i think i would have chosen a little bit bigger age gap but now it's so awesome to see them laughing together or playing nicely:) can't wait till Liam a bit bigger to play properly with Ethan though:)

my children are 2 years and 6 days are apart which is close enough for me..if we were to have a 3rd Id want at least 3 years between #2 and #3 at least that one my oldest would be at school and the 2nd at kindy most afternoons.

I do believe though that you make it work with whatever age gap you have I am sure if I had say an 18 month age gap I would cope

We have a 7 year gap,and a 20 month gap.
7 year gap is mostly wonderful,she is helpful,understands that the babies need a lot of our attention and can do her own thing a lot without needing constant supervision,which means I can tend to the other children's needs.
The only bad thing is that you forget a lot after 7 years,it was like having my first all over again when I had my second.

The 20month gap is much harder imo,he doesn't yet understand that baby needs us too and we have had quite a bit of jealousy already,concepts such as "gentle" have to be reinforced a lot because he is still a baby in lots of ways himself and doesn't get it.
Im hoping as they both get older though they will get a long better

We have a one minute age gap lol. We have been trying for number 3 for about a year now. We were hoping for three years between the twins and the next bubs but it doesn't seem to be going to plan. However if we end up with a four year age gap I would be quite happy. It would be nice to have the girls more involved with the baby and they can be if they are that little bit older.