SAHM’s, how does your DH/P help..........

around the house?

My husband has a bad back and is on the surgery waiting list for surgery within the next two months.
I am finding I am wearing my self out with tidying up after two kids and general cleaning of the house, and then there's cooking...

What is too much when he works full time (40hrs)?

Right now my DF does heaps around here cos I've got terrible MS and he's a dairy farmer and they have dried off until calving next month (well timed!!)... but in season he really doesn't do an awful lot TBH... he mows the lawns, does the rubbish, plays with DD2 and helps with bedtime... but I do almost everything around the house - he works 70+ hours a week though. I think if he worked a 40 hour week job I'd be hoping for a bit more help with household chores as I hate them

DP does the dishes at our house some nights, thats about it. I sometimes ask him to help with more stuff in the weekend. He works longer hours now so i wont be asking him to do much at all.

He also does all outside stuff, And man jobs lol lawns, rubbish etc

DH is pretty good. I cook and normally I wash and he dries the dishes but lately he has been doing both as I have been busy, does help that now we have a dishwasher so it is only the pots, chopping board etc
He will sometimes hang out the washing or fold it in the evenings but sometimes has to be asked i.e doesn't always see that it needs to be done.

He doesn't do much else but then we are extending our house so weekends he is busy building when we aren't doing things with the kids

ETA: he will do things like pick up the kids toys

Edited by Linzy

My DP *thinks* he does more than he actually does, but he's not really that bad.

He cooks most nights, which is good!   On the weekend he will vacuum, do some washing, dishes etc, but during the week I do most of the day to day stuff.    He also does all the rubbish and recycling.

If I ask him to do something he might grumble a bit but he'll do it.

We have a cleaning fairy too So DH's job is Callum when he's home and I do other things or rest (doctor's instructions!).

In your situation, I don't think I'd be expecting much over the next couple of months if he's waiting on back surgery. He must be in a bit of pain? Just like, I expect my DH to lay off me a LOT (hence the cleaning fairy) now that I'm heading into the third trimester because we've had one prem baby and don't want another. It's his turn to step up to the plate and do what needs to be done. Yep, he works 70+ hour weeks but it's not forever

We had a cleaning fairy when I was flatting, (saved arguments about cleaning) and she'd clean the bathroom, toilet and hand basin, vaccum the rest of the house and dust.
It was lovely on the day she'd been I'd come home to a clean house. Best $40 we ever spent. She'd come once a fortnight - there was only 3 adults living there at the time.

I would love a cleaning fairy! I'd ask her to do things I HATE doing - mopping the floors, bathrooms, dusting and ironing

DH is pretty good really - he works full time and is away sometimes, but he gives H a bath most nights and plays with him so I can get stuff done; I do most of the cooking but he does all the washing up, he irons all his shirts, takes out the rubbish and does general 'man' things around the house.

Are you having trouble coz you're pregnant?? I didn't do anything when I was preg - I alternated between chucking up everywhere if I moved and not being able to put weight on my pelvic area when I wasn't feeling sick (Side note - can't believe I'm willing to put myself through that again!!!!) so DP did everything.
Normally he'll help keep on top of the washing mainly helping me fold it coz we have heaps atm. He generally unloads the dishwasher before work and will reload in the evening if I haven't got to it and he can be bothered. Uhm he does bath duty with the boys, puts his clothes in the washing basket, vacuums on the weekends... Kinda just what he feels like when he feels like it He also mows and weedeats the yard, weeds the gardens and keeps on top of the rubbish. If he comes home and I'm 'frazzled' he'll offer to cook dinner which means he'll go into town for something instant from the supermarket or buy takeaways hes a good bloke

Aw Emz that must be tough hun the leaving so suddenly and for those periods of time - not the not doing stuff.