Controlled Crying...support please

Sorry no actual experience of this, but hugs anyway its must be very hard.

I have read about a pick up put down method, which is you go in pick them up, until they stop crying and the second they do, you just lie them down, apparently it can take whole naps doing this but eventually they get the point. I think if he is standing you could try just going in patting and lieing him down over and over again.

 

It is supposed to get better, Sorry wish I could be more helpful.

Control crying is heart breaking and I have to admit I could never bring myself to do it. It didn't suit my son either who just won't stop crying, he will cry all night literally. So instead of control crying we slowly weaned him off us as his sleep association. We introduced a teddy and a dummy and put in place a very structured bed and nap time routine.
Bottle
Bath
Brush teeth
Drink water
Stories
In bed with Bear.
When it came time to put him in his cot we lay him on his side facing away from us, gave him his bear and dummy, tucked him in and left the room with out any eye contact or talking. If he grizzled we wouldn't go back in but if he was crying we would enter his room, lay him back down with bear and dummy and place a hand on his shoulder and a hand on his hip. That way he knew he wasn't alone but it definately wasn't playtime and he wasn't getting up. Once calm we would leave the room again. It is a long process but it worked and he now has a good two hour nap every day. We still use the same routine but we don't have to go in and out he just accepts its bedtime. It was hard work and time consuming but so much gentler on everybody emotionally.
Best of luck

You poor thing - it's hard hearing them cry. My understanding is that it DOES work and it works really well but you need to do it for a couple of days at least, and be consistent. Remember it's a huge change for him, from being rocked to not having mum and dad around. My sister's MW advised that she have a glass of wine with the TV up loud during those first few days .   

Yes there are other techniques like the others have talked about, but if you've decided this is the way you want to do it, then give it a few days. Be kind to yourself - can you and DH take it in turns to do the check-ins, so that you can go for a walk during one 'cycle' and get some headspace for yourself?

I did my version of cc (minimal crying and very very very short times! lol) with my first son at about that age, he just needed a few days to sort himself out and it worked superbly, luckily he didn't cry the house down for weeks or anything or I would have buckled straight away!!

When I found I couldn't handle it and just wanted to run in and grab him I read a letter/list that I wrote. Something like this . . . ."He still loves me! He isn't in pain, he is just having trouble getting used to being alone. He will be better off in a few days when he can drift off nicely . . . ." Things like that, maybe that might help?

I think if anything like cc is right for your little one you will know after a few days . . . I was really surprised how fast it worked really. (and with a good 8 or so years of fantastic sleeps afterwards!!)

Good luck, let us know how you go