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LuckyRed
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Topic: Leaving your baby overnight Posted: 22 February 2012 at 4:55pm |
When was the first time that your baby/child stayed at a relative or friend's place overnight while you went out?
My BIL and SIL have a four week old baby and they left him at her brother's place overnight on the weekend to go to a party. She is formula feeding so obviously it's easier to do this but my DH and I were both saying that we wouldn't want our baby staying with someone else probably for the first year. 4 weeks seems crazy to me!
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 5:17pm |
My son was 2years 1 day but I'm a wuss!! (DP and I went to Melbourne for two nights) We are leaving him for the 2nd time on Friday night and hes almost three
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 5:21pm |
#1 was about a year old for overnight, but I'd left him during the day with the in laws a number of times all day.
#2 still hasn't but will in a couple of weeks and he'll be 18 months
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 6:08pm |
DD had her 1st sleepover at the grandparents when she was around 2 1/4 and DS (22mths) still hasn't.
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 6:09pm |
sarahm- I dont think thats wussy! We still would not go overseas and leave our 5 yr ols, let alone the 2yr old, lol! I have stayed a night away from them in Auck but they were at home with their Dad! DD has been staying the night at gradparents since about 2 yrs but not more than 15min drive from us!
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 6:14pm |
sounds reasonable to me! Not as if she left him with a stranger. It was her brother!
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 6:34pm |
I haven't left DS overnight and he is 2 years and 2 months. Apart from the fact that I don't want to, I haven't had any reason to. We had to go away overnight for a wedding a couple of weeks ago and I just took him with us and got a babysitter at our motel rather than leave him behind with grandparents. I guess I have trust issues leaving him for extended periods!!
Each to their own I suppose.
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 6:49pm |
i left mine (and plenty of expressed milk) when he was about a month old with his nanny and koro so i could go out on new years eve, although i ended up running to their house when we got home at about 2am because i missed him... he's stayed there and with a friend of mine three times and he's almost four months. i wouldn't leave him with a babysitter or anything though, it's hard enough leaving him with family, but it's ok because i know he's safe.
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 7:43pm |
We left DS for the first time with my mum at 13 months old. I found it quite hard and had to keep reminding myself that my mum adores him and she managed to raise me just fine!!
I must admit though that I had a brilliant sleep for the first time in 18 months that night.
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 8:04pm |
DS1 was 3 months i think his first night with his nana.
DS2 - really can't remember - much older as he was very attached to me and would not take a bottle. Maybe 6 months.
They are family so i had no concerns about how they would be cared for.
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 8:33pm |
I must be the most overprotective biggest wuss ever. My DS has turned two and still hasn't been left overnight anywhere. He will have his aunty stay with him alone overnight for the first time in a month and I am already petrified!
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 8:36pm |
we only waited 2 months, I had to express lots of milk to make it happen though! DS loves staying with his grandparents, he probably stays overnight with one of them once every couple of months. I have only left him for 2 nights once, when he was about 10 months old and missed him too much
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 8:55pm |
I haven't - the first time I will leave my baby overnight is this weekend, but she will be with DH! To be honest, I wouldn't have wanted to.
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 9:02pm |
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 9:42pm |
I think its lovely that babies extended family wants to care for her and lovely for mum & dad to get out.
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 9:46pm |
I didn't leave my DS overnight till he was 1 and haven't since, I think I'll only do it very rarely. But I think if the Mum and Dad are ok with it, then that's all that matters really, it's a very personal choice and what's right for one isn't for another etc in some ways it's easier to leave them when they are that little than when they get really used to you being the one who puts them to bed, gets them up etc and separation anxiety kicks in
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Posted: 22 February 2012 at 10:27pm |
umm before 1? She has stayed over night with friends and DP's sister. Oh wait no she may have been just over 1 and it was because all my usual babysitters were out or away. I don't normally need to because we live with my parents so if mum or dad is home then I can do what I like and come home and she is home too and doesnt know any better. When I haven't had her home its been because the whole family is out at the same event normally lol.
If we weren't at my parents it would have been before 1, I went out when she was 3weeks old, and then again at NYE when she was 5mths old.
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Posted: 23 February 2012 at 7:38am |
DD is 16 months old and we went out last night for 6 hours that's the longest we've both been away from her.
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Posted: 23 February 2012 at 10:36am |
Girls Rock wrote:
I think its lovely that babies extended family wants to care for her and lovely for mum & dad to get out. |
Agreed! I think that family is so important and that it really strengthens the bond between everyone involved if baby stays with other family members once in a while.
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Posted: 23 February 2012 at 10:47am |
For us, it was when DD was born, so DS was 16 months. I didn't have any reason to earlier, and up until a year he was breastfed anyway so it wasn't an option.
But I have no issue - none at all - with their choice. It might not be what you or I would do / did do, but it's not going to do any damage or anything.
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