Are you finding out?

If you are having a boy or a girl?

Also reasons why you are / aren't finding (or found)out if you are having a boy or girl...

I'll get the ball rolling,

We are going to find out what we are having as we feel preperation for DD will be easier if she knows if she is getting a baby sister or brother... also makes it easier clothes shopping!!

Can you tell I am bored? (And I'm at work too!!) Oops

We found out for a few reasons... although most could be considered 'selfish' I guess.

1. So we could bond better with the baby - I have felt a bit detached from this pregnancy after 2 m/c.

2. To help DD understand better and bond with the baby before it arrives.

3. So I could sort out clothes in advance as they will be the same season (born in the same month), and we have virtually all of DD's old things in storage.

Hi I found out the gender, I was desperate to know in fact. I guess I'm a bit of a control freak and like to be able to prepare myself for everything. It makes name choosing and clothes so much easier.
This will be my first child so the whole concept of a new baby is going to be exciting enough for me without having the extra excitement of finding out the gender on the day!
I think too that knowing the sex helped the pregnancy sink and and for me to feel closer to the baby, that she is a real little person instead of just an 'it'.

As with many things to do with pregnancy, birth and children, its 100% a personal decision and whatever feels right for you is the right decision.

DH and I are definitely going to find out, we are both first time parents, very excited, and want to know as much as we can about the little person coming to live with us!

I totally respect people who don't find out, I think the hardest situation is when one partner wants to know and the other doesn't.

Peoples reactions are so funny- when people know we are going to find out, some people act like we shouldn't, and I can't see how its any of their business!!!!!!

I can't make up my mind - I really love the idea of a suprise but I know it will drive me mad not knowing. ARGGH!

We didn't find out.

I really didn't want to know but DH really did - made it a little tricky!  But there's no way he could find out and me not - if that was the case ALL of our friends would know before me after he'd had a couple of beers...

I figure it's better to have it as a surprise - there aren't many cool surprises like that left in the world, and honestly, I don't care either way what flavour we end up with.

I'm also not one to stick to prescribed gender colours etc either.

 

We have decided to wait and see.

DH wanted to know, for "practical" reasons... naming, buying clothes etc. I feel that its our first and we hope to have more which could be a different flavour anyway, neutral newborn stuff makes more economic sense.

I have not had any problem bonding with baby and to DH's surprise he has enjoyed trying to guess with the old wives tales (FYI, they all lean towards girl, so we will see!).

DH will be the one to tell me if its a boy or girl and I think this is another special way to include him in the birth.

A bit of an old fashioned romantic me...

We found out with Jack, and will with this one too. For us, we don't care about the 'surprise' factor - I mean hello you're either going to get a surprise at 19/20 weeks or you're going to get a surprise at the birth - it won't change the gender.

For us being on a very limited income, we would have had to buy all neutral clothes and seeing as we shopped around and bought everything on special/off TM before DS was born, that would've made it difficult.

I just don't get what the big deal about having a surprise is, my grandma was all angry at me for finding out. As I said to her, it won't change the outcome. Also for us, DH was going to be deployed before the birth so we were going to find out and not tell anyone but he ended up staying home so we got to share the good news

We didn't find out for our first although I suspected very early on in my pregnancy that I was having a girl.

When I do get pregnant with #2 I would like to find out mainly because if we have a boy I will have to sell all my girl's clothes and buy boys clothes.

Well we'll be finding out. Mainly because I am a bit of a control freak and want to have everything ready and organised for bubs arrival. I also want to be able to buy colours and theme our nursery in a more personalised way.

Before I was pg, I always thought I wouldnt want to know, but I agree with Emz, its a surprise either way at 20 weeks or birth