Argh what to do? Number two?!

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   Hi TTC friends 
Just wondering what your thoughts are about TTC number 2...ie when is the time 'right' (or as right as it'll ever be!)?
My situation (bit long sorry but I really want some advice):
We have a 7 month old gorgeous baby daughter born last May. She's awesome and a busy, bright albeit sometimes slightly short tempered bubba (damn those genes of daddys...ahem ). We also have a 7 year old foster son who we plan to adopt this year.
I'm 36 in March and it took nearly a year to get pg with Clodagh through charting..although we did get pg after 5 months we m/c that bubba.  
I am going back to uni part time this year after missing the last 2 semesters. My lecturers are awesome and whilst heavily pg with Clodagh, they made sure I had easy access to lectures and carparks etc. So they would be very accomodating although obviously I would still have to do the work lol. I'm 'only' planning on doing one paper per term but it's still alot of work when combined with a bubba. Of course I can drop a paper if needed, no drama.
I'm also still BF, which I love and don't want to give up. My AF returned about oh 30 days ago lol and am now waiting for it to return again.  We are currently not using BC except near abstinence poor DF  lol
I guess I have lots of little projects on this year and Clodagh is turning out to be quite the busy baby, not shy or quiet at all like I thought she would be! Am definitely not complaining, just I'm concerned how I'd cope with another when she is already a handful at times. On the other hand, I'm getting old and crusty so I can't leave it too long. 
So when is the 'right' time? I ask because when AF finally rears her head again then I have a 3 month supply of the mini pill which I could take to delay getting pg...but I HATE taking anything, esp when BF so that's a concern and also I have days when I think oh we should get pg again...and then the nights come when Clodagh is being a wee trick and not sleeping and I think argh I'm not doing this again, it's too hard...not to mention having bad MS again and having to give birth of course...and the after match results from that  (my least favourite part lol).  
My body is still healing TBH although I've never been thinner lol (BF is great for that!).    Also with BF, it was SO jolly painful and hard for me that the thought of starting afresh with a newborn 2 years from now makes me want to weep. I was kind of hoping I could BF Clodgha through much of my 2nd pg and then go straight on to number 2 to avoid all the problems I had first time around. 
So, what do you think? Start TTC or not?