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MissCandice
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Topic: Two Kids Posted: 29 December 2009 at 7:47am |
Is it much harder?
I am freaking out! How do i entertain both the toddler and the baby? What do i do with Kylah when i am feeding baby? It means getting ready is going to take longer.
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 8:20am |
Kandice wrote:
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Yep!
But you will soon work it out and get into a groove. At first I thought it was 100 times harder than having just one, but as they get older it definately gets easier! Just take one day at a time .. one hour at a time some days!
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 8:55am |
Oh god.
*Breathe*
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 8:58am |
It's fine, just have snacks and dvd's ready for when you need to feed baby.
Everything works out and as baby gets older it does get a bit easier, until the fighting starts  Now mine spend 1/3 time playing independently, 1/3 playing nicely together and 1/3 tearing lumps out of each other.
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 9:03am |
Congrats!!!
I dont remember it being to bad (could be selective memory of course) I do remember that Addison spent a lot of time in her bassinet and bouncer but she was a cruisy baby so was happy to be watching rather than being held.
You will be sweet though, once you get into your routines etc...
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 9:03am |
yes it is harder, but you'll adjust. i agree with the dvds and snacks when you're feeding, also reading kylah a book while you feed could make her feel less left out. mikey also used to love to "help" burp maia which was very sweet.
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 1:43pm |
I didnt find it that much harder and i actually think 3 is even better! lol......i got into much more of a routine and more organised the more kids i had! lol
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 1:53pm |
Im only having 2. I dont want anymore than that. So its just two i ahve to get used to.
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 2:17pm |
Yep it is much harder, but I think you will be all good Candice  Kylah will be 3? So she can "help" you
Ive found it quite hard cos there is only 14 months between my two! and Isabella has terrible reflux, but I am getting the hang of things now, its all about figuring out a little routine really!
You will be all good hun!
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 2:24pm |
It was hard for me at first, but now sometimes I think its much easier than one.
For the first few weeks I would get so stressed over entertaining Janaya, but once I established a routine it did get easier.
I remember taking Janaya to the pool when Jackson was two weeks old because I felt so guilty that she didn't get to do all that fun stuff anymore - what a mistake that was!
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 2:25pm |
Well, I found going from 2 to 3 a lot harder than 1 to 2, and Kylah will be 3, a good age to help you, and be more independant. It's definitely harder the younger the first child is.
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 2:33pm |
Good then!!
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 3:38pm |
i freaked when i got preg and E was 10 months!!!:( and i freaked again at the 2 year age gap but have just accepted that's the gap i have.. i think 3 will be a great age gap.lucky you!:)
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 6:22pm |
Im worried about this too. My girl is a bit older so will probably be able to help me out a bit more but she has been spoilt rotten as the only grandchild on both sides for so long that its going to be interesting I think!
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 7:46pm |
I'm *touch wood* really enjoying having two! Jamie sleeps a lot and Sam is just over 2 and a half so has slightly calmed down from when he was younger and wants to help a lot.
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 10:54pm |
I haven't found it anywhere near as hard as people kept telling me it would be. Samantha is a really easy going little girl who was pretty much indifferent to Anthony to start with but has just started showing real interest in him in the last few weeks.
I guess the biggest thing is that you are a lot more relaxed with your second - not being a complete neurotic basketcase about what to do and when to do it really helps. Sometimes Anthony has to wait (and have a little cry) while I do things for Sam, and vice versa (without the crying - most of the time). Sam has watched a bit much Dora but I'm sure it hasn't damaged her forever and I try and make sure I have snacks etc ready for her just in case. Worst case is that Anthony has to wait a bit for a feed though.
My advice is not to worry to much about it. You love Kylah so will always have her best interests at heart, but lets face it - it will not damage our kids to make them share or wait occassionally, and the good parts of having a little brother or sister is going to far out way the small inconveniences they might have to face at the beginning
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 10:55pm |
the first few weeks are hard....but more because you have a newborn and you cant sleep when they do because you have another child...who isnt sleeping as much (if at all at 3). Also I found that at the start I tried to share myself around too much and constantly felt that I had mucked up Tom's perfect world...now I just think "harden up kiddo".
Really it is only the first 6 weeks or so and then you find your groove. You are just tired ALL the time...but you get used to it.
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Posted: 30 December 2009 at 12:17pm |
I found it hard but it was Jack who was hard not Caprece, second time round the baby slots in quite nicely its just hard to keep up with the toddler when you have been up all night.
You will be fine you find your feet pretty easily. I actually think three years would be an awesome gap Kylah will be able to understand and 'help'.
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Posted: 30 December 2009 at 12:55pm |
Thank you so much everyone!
I have really been freaking out.
Kylah is a gentle wee sole and i think shes going to make an amazing big sister! I hope No2 is as easy as her!
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