Two Kids
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Topic: Two Kids
Posted By: MissCandice
Subject: Two Kids
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 7:47am
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Is it much harder?
I am freaking out! How do i entertain both the toddler and the baby? What do i do with Kylah when i am feeding baby? It means getting ready is going to take longer. ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 8:20am
Yep! 
But you will soon work it out and get into a groove. At first I thought it was 100 times harder than having just one, but as they get older it definately gets easier! Just take one day at a time .. one hour at a time some days!  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Kandice wrote:Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 8:51am
Agreed! I vividly remember times when all 3 of us were on the couch crying!
However I also agree that as the kids get older and everyone adjusts to the situation it does get easier. I love how well my kids get on with each other now ... well most of the time  ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 8:55am
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Oh god.
*Breathe* ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 8:58am
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It's fine, just have snacks and dvd's ready for when you need to feed baby.
Everything works out and as baby gets older it does get a bit easier, until the fighting starts  Now mine spend 1/3 time playing independently, 1/3 playing nicely together and 1/3 tearing lumps out of each other.
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 9:03am
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Congrats!!!
I dont remember it being to bad (could be selective memory of course) I do remember that Addison spent a lot of time in her bassinet and bouncer but she was a cruisy baby so was happy to be watching rather than being held. You will be sweet though, once you get into your routines etc... |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 9:03am
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yes it is harder, but you'll adjust. i agree with the dvds and snacks when you're feeding, also reading kylah a book while you feed could make her feel less left out. mikey also used to love to "help" burp maia which was very sweet. ------------- |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 1:43pm
| I didnt find it that much harder and i actually think 3 is even better! lol......i got into much more of a routine and more organised the more kids i had! lol |
Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 1:53pm
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Im only having 2. I dont want anymore than that. So its just two i ahve to get used to. ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 2:17pm
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Yep it is much harder, but I think you will be all good Candice Kylah will be 3? So she can "help" you
Ive found it quite hard cos there is only 14 months between my two! and Isabella has terrible reflux, but I am getting the hang of things now, its all about figuring out a little routine really! You will be all good hun! 
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 2:24pm
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It was hard for me at first, but now sometimes I think its much easier than one.
For the first few weeks I would get so stressed over entertaining Janaya, but once I established a routine it did get easier. I remember taking Janaya to the pool when Jackson was two weeks old because I felt so guilty that she didn't get to do all that fun stuff anymore - what a mistake that was!
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 2:25pm
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Well, I found going from 2 to 3 a lot harder than 1 to 2, and Kylah will be 3, a good age to help you, and be more independant. It's definitely harder the younger the first child is. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 2:33pm
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Good then!!
I can't make up my mind as to whether I'm nervous or excited about it. A bit of both me thinks -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 3:38pm
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i freaked when i got preg and E was 10 months!!!:( and i freaked again at the 2 year age gap but have just accepted that's the gap i have.. i think 3 will be a great age gap.lucky you!:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: gossamer
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 6:22pm
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Im worried about this too. My girl is a bit older so will probably be able to help me out a bit more but she has been spoilt rotten as the only grandchild on both sides for so long that its going to be interesting I think! ------------- T (6) A (2) Our angel baby Sep 2011 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 7:46pm
| I'm *touch wood* really enjoying having two! Jamie sleeps a lot and Sam is just over 2 and a half so has slightly calmed down from when he was younger and wants to help a lot. |
Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 10:54pm
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I haven't found it anywhere near as hard as people kept telling me it would be. Samantha is a really easy going little girl who was pretty much indifferent to Anthony to start with but has just started showing real interest in him in the last few weeks.
I guess the biggest thing is that you are a lot more relaxed with your second - not being a complete neurotic basketcase about what to do and when to do it really helps. Sometimes Anthony has to wait (and have a little cry) while I do things for Sam, and vice versa (without the crying - most of the time). Sam has watched a bit much Dora but I'm sure it hasn't damaged her forever and I try and make sure I have snacks etc ready for her just in case. Worst case is that Anthony has to wait a bit for a feed though. My advice is not to worry to much about it. You love Kylah so will always have her best interests at heart, but lets face it - it will not damage our kids to make them share or wait occassionally, and the good parts of having a little brother or sister is going to far out way the small inconveniences they might have to face at the beginning 
Oh and by the way - Congratulations ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 29 December 2009 at 10:55pm
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the first few weeks are hard....but more because you have a newborn and you cant sleep when they do because you have another child...who isnt sleeping as much (if at all at 3). Also I found that at the start I tried to share myself around too much and constantly felt that I had mucked up Tom's perfect world...now I just think "harden up kiddo".
Really it is only the first 6 weeks or so and then you find your groove. You are just tired ALL the time...but you get used to it. |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 30 December 2009 at 12:17pm
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I found it hard but it was Jack who was hard not Caprece, second time round the baby slots in quite nicely its just hard to keep up with the toddler when you have been up all night.
You will be fine you find your feet pretty easily. I actually think three years would be an awesome gap Kylah will be able to understand and 'help'. |
Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 30 December 2009 at 12:55pm
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Thank you so much everyone!
I have really been freaking out. Kylah is a gentle wee sole and i think shes going to make an amazing big sister! I hope No2 is as easy as her! ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: Nikki
Date Posted: 30 December 2009 at 3:24pm
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Yep, its definitely way harder ... but it was no where near as hard as I thought it would be. Morgan is really cruisy and just goes with the flow (and has no real "routine" as such still cos shes so random/flexible) ... and Jake turned two a few days before she was born and thought he was the centre of the universe, but actually was amazingly good about her arrival. He adores her and always asked if she was coming with us etc! and the feeding was fine - he usually played by himself and waited til I'd finished (learnt pretty fast I wasn't moving, and at 3 I'm sure she will understand that pretty quickly) - kinda got less clingy. I made sure I gave him plenty of one on one play time when she slept (she was always asleep for the first 8 weeks!!). We gave him a pressie from her at the hospital too, and made sure I wasn't holding her when they first met, so I could cuddle him first.
The thing I found hardest was trying to get her to sleep with him under my feet at times. Disney channel and food are your friends!!!! Like everyone said - it doesn't take that long til you're in the swing of it. the worst thing is the tiredness, cos you can't just lie down when the baby sleeps, and even though he still has a huge nap (and you probably don't with her now?), its really hard to time it to get them both sleeping at the same time (they did at first, then she did 30mins naps for ages, and now I get a little overlap but at least shes not up in the night now). Get as much help as you can in the first 6 weeks ... if someone else is there to hold the baby for a while so you can do something with the toddler, or entertain the toddler while you put baby in bed it helps HEAPS. ------------- DS (5yrs) and DD (3yrs) |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 30 December 2009 at 11:00pm
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You might get lucky with Kylah, Jack still has a huge sleep and hes almost four, I managed to get them napping at the same time quite early on and they still do its fantastic Otherwise when baby sleeps is a good time for either one on one with Kylah or let her have quiet time so you can have a wee nap.
Having two kids taught me how little sleep I can actually survive on
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 01 January 2010 at 5:21pm
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my husband goes back to work on tuesday and while I know I will manage I am still freaking out.
be kind of glad when schools go back cause at least things like mainly music will be back. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ?Lolly?
Date Posted: 01 January 2010 at 6:07pm
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It won't be any where near as hard as you imagine =oD ------------- Captain Chaos (5) & the Trouble Monsters (2!) 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 01 January 2010 at 9:45pm
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It is hard, harder than one, but you very quickly adapt and soon learn not to be so picky and pedantic about all sorts of stuff, including behaviour etc. You "ease up" a bit, I think cos you know the world isn't gonna end if someone screams for 5 minutes while you are busy doing something else or whatever. You also trust your gut a bit more and don't second guess yourself so much, so that part is easier, i guess.
The hard bit is re adjusting to baby mode - ie the lack of sleep, the night wakings etc. And not just being able to head out the door with a spare nappy in your bag just in case at any old time. My biggest tip (and life saver) was to phase out morning sleeps earlyish on and make sure hey both sleep during the early afternoon for a good stretch. In the beginning if you can get them both down for a nap in the arvo, it rock,s but when baby goes down to 2 or three sleeps a day, make the late morning early arvo one a big one. Do all your stuff in the morning and rest inthe arvo. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 02 January 2010 at 7:38am
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Yep. Its hard. Some days, while I love my kids to death, I think to myself I should have stuck with just the one!
I have found that DD tends to take abit of a back seat unfortunately while we are still getting into our routine. And DH has pretty much taken over the role of both parents at times when I am feeding or simply too tired from dealing with DS. On saying that though, she is 3.5 and has been a big help with things like bathing, changing, entertaining him etc. And I am lucky that she adores her brother. So its cuddles all round. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: boys.boys.boys.boys
Date Posted: 02 January 2010 at 11:52am
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Definately harder!! infact, often I look back to when I only had one, and wonder what on earth I did all day!!! But it is all SO worth it...
I think some of the hardest times I have found are... - Going to the supermarket, with both of them grabbing anything within a 10m radius and stashing it between them or in the trolley, and then people look at me rudely for parking my trolley in the centre of the isle!!! - Going anywhere infact, with twice the amount of stuff needed! - Dinner time or just before, I so would reccomend getting a vibrating bouncer.... I cant think of anything else too much now, but it really isnt too bad, and it is SO cool now, watching them play together (the 1/3 of the time!!!) etc. ------------- 4 boys!! 7 years, 5 years, 2 years and 8 weeks... |