I’m feeling very sorry for myself

Aww Hun. No Advice just big hugs and I hope it gets better for you Vent as often as you like, were good at listening

So frustrating!! You poor thing. I especially hate it if DH makes plans to go away or something around ovulation. Terrible that life has to be planned around that, but I guess that's how it goes... here's hoping that because the end of 2008 isn't going so well that you get a nice little surprise in the new year (in the form of a BFP).   I've been having a bit of a crap time recently with work too and think a BFP for xmas would only be fair

What a pain that his Dad didn't extend the invite to you and DD - does that mean he's gone over xmas and new years?

Oh hun, I am so sorry that this is all going on for you! Please dont apologise to us, this is what we are all her for, and you sure have supported many of us through difficult times.

xx

hugs guys...times can be really trying...hang in there and hopefully things will get better... I too hope the 2009 will be very different from this year

Hugs

Milliemoo

Thanks ladies. I'm feeling a bit better now.

I think the invitation was always there for myself and DD to go, we just had to pay for it ourselves. However I work in retail and December/January is our busiest time. So the boss doesn't allow leave in either month.

Two of our methadone customers got together a few months ago. They both smoke, drink and joke about smoking pot. I found out yesterday that they're having a baby. Life is sooooooo unfair sometimes.

I feel angry now.

DF's latest thing is not coming to bed until between 12-3 in the morning then sleeping in till who knows when. When I try to persuade him to come to bed with me he gets really hostile and accuses me of telling him what to do. I wouldn't have to tell him what to do if he used a bit of common sense. Of course he usually wakes me up when he comes to bed.

Hes also obsessed with the computer. Thats what he spends the majority of his day doing. He plays one of those stupid shooting online games and hangs out with his online gaming club. When I ask him to get off I get the same hostility again.

He has some lovely pet names for me too. Ones like b!tch, wh@re and c#nt. They come with the hostility. I find them insulting and degrading and have asked him to stop. Which hes just laughed at. If he thinks I'm all those things he shouldn't be here.

I would think if someone is financially supporting you for 3 months so you can take an overseas holiday you'd be doing everything in your power to make their live easier. I have to write him a list of things to do around the house. Sometimes he does them, sometimes he doesn't. I've explained to him that he should be doing them AND looking for extra things that he can do to help out.

I feel like I'm living with a belligerent 16 year old school boy on school holidays. I can't go on like this. Its wearing me down, plus the disturbed sleep isn't helping. If things don't improve I think he'll need to get his Dad to cancel his return flight.

He shouldn't be calling you any names, maybe the time away will give you guys time to think.
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Have to say, if I was in you're shoes, I wouldn't be putting up with any of that cr*p and he's be out the door swiftly followed by his belongings in a bin bag!

If that's not an option for you, I'd cancel you're internet connection (or change it to pay as you go dial up) cause you're the one paying for it. Failing that, I'd lock all the computer/gaming stuff in a cupboard and explain that when he's prepared to pay for the electricity/internet bill, he can have them back.

He's not showing you any respect or love....take some positive action!

Milliemoo

Aww Hun that sucks
You are very patient to put up with that. I wouldnt be putting up with it and I'd be kicking him out!!!
I hope it gets better soon hun