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solitairediamond 
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 4:26am |
Well I've been awake for 2 hours now and all I can think about is the fact that I'm due in just over 5 weeks and I'm terrified about the birth!!  Aaargh!! Is anyone else freaking out? This is not the first night that I've been awake freaking out. Is this going to happen every night for the next 5 weeks? Why can't I just put it out of my mind and be excited!? Anyways sorry for the rant! Hoping to get some sleep so I can get some exam study done!!
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 7:09am |
Can I suggest you try looking for The Pink Kit at your library? I haven't seen it yet but my midwife suggested it and says it's great! It's all about preparing yourself mentally for the birth and ways of coping during. It's a series of DVD's and books (I think). It will give you something to do when you wake at 4.30am!
I'm actually quite excited about the labour/birth, mind you it's still a long way off for me!
Good luck hope it all goes well for you! Think postively - your body was designed for this 
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 7:18am |
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i was EXACTLY the same...and tehn 2 weeks oerdue so actually hanging out for the eviction!
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 8:30am |
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I was feeling exactly the same as that - right from when I found out I was pregnant. I was so freaked out, I had no idea what I was going to do.
Then I heard about hypno birthing - I've started the course, and it really has settled me quite a lot. I still get a bit queasy watching birth videos (they show you some at every session) but at least I don't go pale and faint, leave the room and hug the toilet now!!!
I've heard that pink kit is pretty useful too. See if you can get hold of one, it won't be any good for you going into the process with that level of fear in your mind. xx
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 9:19am |
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I've been starting to get a bit freaked too but we have longer to go than you. I kind of figure it's normal to be anxious as it's a pretty big thing and your mind has to prepare for it. I'm trying not to freak out too much as I can't change it. I hear breathing exercises are very helpful.
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 9:26am |
I know it is hard to believe but when the time comes you won't even be worrying about it. You will just want that baby out! 
I was so terrified at the prospect of birth that I never even read that part of my pregnancy books until I was about 7 months along. I just wanted to wake up one morning with a nice clean wrapped baby asleep beside me
When I did go into labour I rung a really good friend who really helped me realise that it was actually a time to be excited about! She reminded me that in a short time I would get to meet the baby I had waited so long for.
Oh, and I actually found the labour/birth not too bad. Certainly it was no where near as bad as my imagination though it would be. It was a really empowering experience though and I will happily do it again 
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 9:32am |
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I was excited but scared with Caitlyn .
I am going to be honest with you , it WILL be like nothing you ever experienced, it probably WILL like most woman's be painful ,and it will be different to everyone elses, cos everyones is
HOWEVER, your'e body is an amazing tool and you'll be amazed at what it can do , and what you will do to get your baby out safetly .
And at the end of it , you get to meet your baby , and like every other first time mum, as soon as you do , you'll most likely vow to do it all over again , just to have that first meeting again and again .
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 9:34am |
 Mum2Sam wrote:
I know it is hard to believe but when the time comes you won't even be worrying about it. You will just want that baby out!
Oh, and I actually found the labour/birth not too bad. Certainly it was no where near as bad as my imagination though it would be. |
Totally agree! And you forget what has happened so quickly.
Even DH who has a bad medical phobia didn't faint throughout the labour/birth which i was quite amazed with because whenever he sees anything medical he starts sweating and feeling very faint lol.
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 10:37am |
Thank you so much for all the replies! I will definitely look into the pink kit etc, thanks. I finally got to sleep after 3 hours of worrying!
Yeah its strange because when there was still ages to go, I was willing it to hurry up and wasn't worried about the birth at all, and now I'm completely the opposite! lol. But I would like to have my body back to myself (well mainly lol) so thats something to focus on I suppose!
I keep trying to think that my body is designed for it but its hard when everyone I know in my family has had c-sections, so it kind of makes me think that we aren't lol. And I also have this memory from a documentary ages ago which said that humans are not really designed very well to give birth anymore- we were designed to give birth as quadrapeds, when our pelvis was wider etc. He said something about there being more pain and problems with us having evolved to being bipedal... And that it really is very touch and go being able to squeeze through a pelvis which has since evolved to be for a biped. As I said tho this doco I saw when I was quite young so I may not have remembered all my facts correctly!
I have this irrational fear that if something goes wrong, a doctor may not be around as they might be in surgery already or something.. I'm going to be at Chch womens... This isn't likely to happen there is it?
Sorry for being a pain, thanks for your comments
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 11:18am |
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Well first of all, my mum had 3 csections, but I had a normal vbac :-)
There will be plenty of doctors available if anything were to go wrong (and im sure it wont )
,Personally I found it the most painful thing id ever gone through, and I remembered the pain for ages afterwards, BUT , even so ,i would happily do it all over again (tho thats not to say im looking forward to doing it again , but I know its worth it in the end )
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 11:37am |
Ditto solitairediamond - half of me just wants the epi straight away - I think why do I have to be in pain. The other half of me wants to grin and bear it for as long as I possibly can. I just don't want to feel out of control or traumatised. Think I will play it on the day as it pans out - having no previous experience of childbirth.
I too have heard hypnobirthing is great for relaxing the mind. Also I am starting prenatal yoga soon, and apparently they spend time there relaxing you and preparing you and getting the joints more supple.
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 12:07pm |
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for some reason the idea hasnt worried me at all. im only 13 weeks though so im really sure ill regret saying that by the time i get to where you guys are. i used to cover shifts at the maternity ward in the hospital ill be giving birth at so i suppose its not so scary and taboo to me. i really dont want a c section after having a really badly done lap surgery so c section is probably my biggest fear. i also want to come strait home as long as im feeding ok. ill probably freak closer to the time. i did heaps of study as part of my degree about how our lifestyle has screwed our bodies. pooing on toilets, sitting on seats all day instead of the floor, no manual labour in the fields etc... but as long as you do the exercises your advised to do and have done regular exercsie right through im pretty sure your body will cope fine :) learn as much as you can and stay active and i agree with the others, your be so glad to finally meet the baby you have been growing it will be distant memories and so worth it.
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 12:58pm |
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I was a bit freaked out too until I got the pink kit. It really makes you look forward to labour and gives you lots of ways to deal with it.
I only got a chance to go through half of it (it was borrowed from AN classes) but even that was enough for me to completly and utterly get over my fears!
Now to tackle the fear of having a real live baby to look after..... lol
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 1:23pm |
I was scared about it in the early days but now I try not to think about, as I know that whatever may or may not go wrong has happened before and the docs and midwifes know exactly what they are doing. But the other day for some reaso I decided to look at the Waikato hospital website and started getting nervous, as I have never had any need to go to the hospital except to visit people, and was starting to think about a home birth. But also i know that at the time all I will be worried about will be getting bubs out anyway they can and won't have the time to be worried about anything else. Good luck and I am sure that everything will be great.
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 4:54pm |
solitaire, You'll be fine. I know it's pretty daunting coz it's the unknown to you and even tho this is gonna be my 7th the thought of going into labour is still daunting to me coz I know what the pain is like...You need to try and keep an open mind about the whole thing (I know easier said than done) but once your labour starts you have alot of options RE: Pain Relief and such...And just keep in mind that your labour is not gonna be forever and your gonna be holding your beautiful baby soon...
Take Care of yourself and do try to get some sleep & rest....
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Posted: 25 October 2008 at 8:16pm |
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I always remember saying to DH knock me out with a bat & wake me when it's over... Then I got informed & decided that I'd go with the flow & didn't worry about anything either way. Even when Bubs appeared early I got excited & couldn't wait to meet her.
I think that might be the key to it, instead of focusing fully on the labour bit, I counted each contraction as one step closer to meeting my bub in person & boy is it worth it.
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Posted: 26 October 2008 at 10:05am |
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I have been a bit worried too, and have started thinking about pain relief. I don't want an epidural, but I'm interested in what kind of pain relief is effective from first hand accounts i.e. you experienced ladies!
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Posted: 26 October 2008 at 10:34am |
Hi again, For me personally I've tried gas & I've had Pethadine however these painreliefs did not take the pain away totally. The gas just made me dizzy & abit woozie & I felt like I was kind of losing control of the whole situation. I found the pethadine was ok & kind of made me feel rested and at ease but didnt take the pain away completely plus I started to push not long after the pethadine was given so I dont really know if and how it would have helped me out.
I've never requested a Epi but I think my emotional state that I get into makes me want to ask for one coz some of the pains are pretty intense but at the same time I take on the same attitude as Aliasmum that every contraction is one step closer to holding my baby...
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Posted: 26 October 2008 at 12:15pm |
I had no pain relief so cant speak from personal experience, A friend of mine had pethidine and Gas ...she said the gas was "fun "
my friend had an epi and I could hear her laughing when the mw was telling her to push (i was outside the door) and she was very relaxed, she says the next time she has a baby she is going in 3 weeks early and will get them to top her up every day ...righhhhht... 
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Posted: 26 October 2008 at 7:43pm |
Re pain relief - I had a drug free, natural birth but found that gentle massage, heat packs on my lower back, then labouring in a birthing pool helped deal with the pain immensely. I wasnt' keen on trying gas, as I'd eaten dinner at 5pm and vomited it back up again a few hours later when in transition (gas can make you feel nauseous). I was actually quite annoyed at the hospital midwife who only attended from when I started pushing, as she tried to force me to have gas before the surgeon started stitching my tear afterwards. Hello - after pushing a baby out with no pain relief, why would I want gas before a couple of injections of anaesthetic down there? By that point a couple of quick jabs feel like nothing!!
Back to the original question ....I highly recommend reading "Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth", which is about natural birth. Half of the book helps you to mentally prepare for labour, with excellent tips on dealing with pain, and the other half is devoted to birth stories (very inspirational). I'm usually a bit of a control freak, but reading this book helped me to realise that during labour your body takes over from your mind and does its job - it knows what to do. Trust that and go with the flow. It is really important to try and relax as much as possible - the tenser your are the more painful it feels. The book explains everything much more eloquently than I can  .
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