Babies sleeping in your room

Hi,

We are planning to have bubba sleep in a bassinet with us in our room for a few months.

I got to thinking last night, how do DH's cope with it when baby wakes up and he then has to go to work. I guess I was thinking for me having baby in room makes it easy for feeding and so on but is it actually harder for them?

Just curious about any stories or experiences anyone can share on this one really?

Hi, I think it would all come down to trial. Im sure DH would be just as excited as you will be when bubs is here, & if your DH is going to be one of those hands on men then thats even better, but it isnt easy for anyone in the first few weeks, My now xdp would still wake with every feed but he'd ask if things are ok and after I say yes he'd roll over and be snoring his head of again within minutes...Everyone is different and your not gonna know how things will be until the little one is here...

 

Best of luck

MY DF doesnt wake up when caden crys, where as I have my mummy radar on all the time, so I kind of wake up before he crys.
DF doesnt hear a thing, and I dont expect him to get up to Caden as he has to go to work at 7. If Im not feeling well or something I will wake him up and he will get up to Caden, but thats ardly ever happens.

We had both boys in our room from day one. Andrew was a noisy sleeper so kept DH up a bit so he moved out at 2 months. Josh on the other hand was a quiet sleeper and didn't disturb Dh at all so was in our room for a while.

We had Leah in with us for 2 weeks, she was just too noisy and didn't sleep well in the bassinet we were lent so she went into her own room.

With Joel, we don't hear himexcept when he wakes for a feed, and then its more a whimper rather than a full on cry.

Jon slept the first month in the spare room, partly it was ashock to his system and he kept moaning about the light or the noise or whatever else he could think of lol, then he got sick so I kicked him out for a while. Now he just rolls over and goes straight back to sleep, and its only once a night now anyway.

Every baby is different so just play it by ear and see how you go.

Well in our experience, as all our babies have slept in our room from day one til about 4-6 weeks old, it would interrupt Dh, and he would end up sleeping in another room.  But Dh is a bad sleeper.  If he's woken in the night he can't go back to sleep for a couple of hours.  As soon as I would hear baby stirring & waking up I'd get him/her & feed them straight away, and so to try & not wake Dh up.  But if baby had wind & was I getting up to change nappies or if baby spilled, then it would wake Dh up as well.

 

I hated that Dh would end up in another room to sleep, as sometimes that would be the only time of the day that I'd feel close to him, being that he'd work all day, then at night we'd be busy with the baby etc.  But that was only in the early days when I was all hormonal anyway.  Now I'm used to it when he sleeps in a seperate room to get a good sleep.  I actually love having the bed to myself!

Fiona, we have Jackson in our room, but DH is a relatively deep sleeper.

He has offered to always help if I am desperate but I try my best not to have to wake him during the night - it's important to me that he is good for his job.

Even though he is a deep sleeper, he must have a bit of daddy radar.... he often stirs and asks if I am ok. That's nice.

I originally thought we'd put J in his own room, but now I can't imagine doing that!! Luckily he is pretty settled.

Good luck!! Not long now,,,, hope we can catch up before you pop!!

Gah! - Edited for spelling...

Edited by kiwilaurie

Hi, haven't read the other posts, too lazy.

We had Spencer in our room for 4 months, would have been longer but he out grew his bassinet. The first night DH woke to every sniffle, snuffle and wimper (I had been in hospital for 6 nights so already knew what was normal sleepy noises and what was feed me noises). But after that DH learnt to sleep through it, I could get up feed baby, change him and settle him back to sleep and in the morning DH would ask when Spencer woke up!!! Funny thing is that I learnt how to sleep through DH's alarm, his mobile going off when he is called out, and him leaving for work and sometimes returning again if it was a call out.

I still wake up now if Spencer makes a noise in the night and I have the door to his room shut and our bedroom door shut, and yet I still sleep through Dh getting up.

Plan to have this baby in the room with us as well for as long as poss.

sounds like a good plan Fiona, and if you decide it's not working, you can always change things around

Cooper has been in with us from day 1. When he was born it was the start of the rugby world cup so when I was up during the night feeding I'd turn the tv on and watch that, and DH slept thru the whole thing!!

He's still with his now, only because there is no where else for him to go, I'd love to have my room back one day....