Babies sleeping in your room
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Topic: Babies sleeping in your room
Posted By: FionaO
Subject: Babies sleeping in your room
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 10:20am
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Hi, We are planning to have bubba sleep in a bassinet with us in our room for a few months. I got to thinking last night, how do DH's cope with it when baby wakes up and he then has to go to work. I guess I was thinking for me having baby in room makes it easy for feeding and so on but is it actually harder for them? Just curious about any stories or experiences anyone can share on this one really? ------------- 
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Posted By: VannesaD
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 10:27am
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We had DD #1 in our room right from the start - for the first 3 months (she outgrew her bassinet). DH is a really heavy sleeper at the best of times - so although he woke a few times to help me out (drinks, snacks etc) he slept pretty well through the duration.
We're doing the same for #2 - and he hasn't said anything untoward. I have friends that had DH sleep in the spare room because he was a light sleeper and needed to work each day. It will probably depend on how well your DH sleeps - if he's a light sleeper it may not work. Sorry I'm not much help.  -------------  
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Posted By: xox6Girls1Boyxox
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 11:08am
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Hi, I think it would all come down to trial. Im sure DH would be just as excited as you will be when bubs is here, & if your DH is going to be one of those hands on men then thats even better, but it isnt easy for anyone in the first few weeks, My now xdp would still wake with every feed but he'd ask if things are ok and after I say yes he'd roll over and be snoring his head of again within minutes...Everyone is different and your not gonna know how things will be until the little one is here...
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Posted By: FionaO
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 11:36am
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thanks ladies - that's good to know. I know DH wants to help as much as he can, but he has also taken on a new job which is going to be pretty hard so just want to make sure he gets some rest to. I guess its all trial and error. -------------
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 11:37am
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MY DF doesnt wake up when caden crys, where as I have my mummy radar on all the time, so I kind of wake up before he crys.
DF doesnt hear a thing, and I dont expect him to get up to Caden as he has to go to work at 7. If Im not feeling well or something I will wake him up and he will get up to Caden, but thats ardly ever happens. ------------- |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 11:49am
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yeah i had mummy radar too..weird as I never believed in it till I had him..we had him in his own room from day one and I still woke.. but even if he was in our room Dh wouldnt have woken or would have left it to me.. neither of us are great in the night but one of us had to get over that:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 12:01pm
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We had both boys in our room from day one. Andrew was a noisy sleeper so kept DH up a bit so he moved out at 2 months. Josh on the other hand was a quiet sleeper and didn't disturb Dh at all so was in our room for a while. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 2:36pm
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we had V in our room for the first 7mths. DH used to be a light sleeper but would often ask me in the morning if V had slept thru. We got a coloured bulb for my night light which meant it was enough for me to see to change nappies, but not bright enough to wake V totally nor would it wake DH. Initially he might roll over as he stirred ever so slightly, but generally it didn't worry him. If V was really upset, or later when i had to have him upright for 15mins after each side, i went to the couch, pushed the bassinet out & more often than not would fall asleep with him on my shoulder then wake & put him back in bassinet then go back to bed with him. So, for DH who used to wake at all sorts of noises, he suddenly turned into a deep sleeper. now doesnt hear V AT ALL even with the monitor, nor does he stir when i come to bed if i have started the night off in the lounge.
Hope that helps Fi, -------------   
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Posted By: LeahandJoel
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 7:42pm
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We had Leah in with us for 2 weeks, she was just too noisy and didn't sleep well in the bassinet we were lent so she went into her own room. With Joel, we don't hear himexcept when he wakes for a feed, and then its more a whimper rather than a full on cry. Jon slept the first month in the spare room, partly it was ashock to his system and he kept moaning about the light or the noise or whatever else he could think of lol, then he got sick so I kicked him out for a while. Now he just rolls over and goes straight back to sleep, and its only once a night now anyway. Every baby is different so just play it by ear and see how you go. -------------  
 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 7:48pm
We did that too. Definitely worth a try. In our experience, daddies just learn how to be deaf when sleeping  -------------  |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 8:49pm
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Well in our experience, as all our babies have slept in our room from day one til about 4-6 weeks old, it would interrupt Dh, and he would end up sleeping in another room. But Dh is a bad sleeper. If he's woken in the night he can't go back to sleep for a couple of hours. As soon as I would hear baby stirring & waking up I'd get him/her & feed them straight away, and so to try & not wake Dh up. But if baby had wind & was I getting up to change nappies or if baby spilled, then it would wake Dh up as well.
I hated that Dh would end up in another room to sleep, as sometimes that would be the only time of the day that I'd feel close to him, being that he'd work all day, then at night we'd be busy with the baby etc. But that was only in the early days when I was all hormonal anyway. Now I'm used to it when he sleeps in a seperate room to get a good sleep. I actually love having the bed to myself! ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 9:53pm
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the times DH would get sick when V was lil i would go into the spare room as i slept better in the spare bed anyways. lol. or if i had a cough i would go into the spare room as it was a single & i could raise it. but otherwise as busymum said, DH's learn to be deaf sleepers. lol -------------
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 02 October 2008 at 11:58pm
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Fiona, we have Jackson in our room, but DH is a relatively deep sleeper.
He has offered to always help if I am desperate but I try my best not to have to wake him during the night - it's important to me that he is good for his job. Even though he is a deep sleeper, he must have a bit of daddy radar.... he often stirs and asks if I am ok. That's nice. I originally thought we'd put J in his own room, but now I can't imagine doing that!! Luckily he is pretty settled. Good luck!! Not long now,,,, hope we can catch up before you pop!! Gah! - Edited for spelling... |
Posted By: maysie
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 10:47am
we had Lily in our room for the first week. dh would wake at each feed to get me th tings i needed etc. once he went back to work we moved her into her own room. luckily the night feeds only lasted a few weeks and she sleeping through now which makes it much easier for me. if we didnt have a monitor with the movement sensor pad we would have kept her with us longer (dh is a heavy sleeper) because i would have been up checking her every 15 mins!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 12:24pm
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Hi, haven't read the other posts, too lazy.
We had Spencer in our room for 4 months, would have been longer but he out grew his bassinet. The first night DH woke to every sniffle, snuffle and wimper (I had been in hospital for 6 nights so already knew what was normal sleepy noises and what was feed me noises). But after that DH learnt to sleep through it, I could get up feed baby, change him and settle him back to sleep and in the morning DH would ask when Spencer woke up!!! Funny thing is that I learnt how to sleep through DH's alarm, his mobile going off when he is called out, and him leaving for work and sometimes returning again if it was a call out. I still wake up now if Spencer makes a noise in the night and I have the door to his room shut and our bedroom door shut, and yet I still sleep through Dh getting up. Plan to have this baby in the room with us as well for as long as poss. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: FionaO
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 2:46pm
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Thanks for all the comments ladies - sounds like these men are built with some extra ability to help them sleep. I guess we will see how it goes - the bassinet we have is quite small so after he outgrows that he will be in his own room anyway. -------------
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 3:02pm
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sounds like a good plan Fiona, and if you decide it's not working, you can always change things around -------------
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 3:07pm
as far as the DH comment I just think they get used to it because they can..:) we have to get up and so we get used to that.. but i guess they don't have Mummy radar! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
fifi101 wrote:Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 5:30pm
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Cooper has been in with us from day 1. When he was born it was the start of the rugby world cup so when I was up during the night feeding I'd turn the tv on and watch that, and DH slept thru the whole thing!!
He's still with his now, only because there is no where else for him to go, I'd love to have my room back one day.... ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 5:41pm
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i know that feeling, lol, V had been in his own room for ages & then a hole appeared in his room & there was dust etc coming out so we moved him into our room. Meant DH slept in the lounge but yea, V was in our room for 3mth or so once he was older, was weird having him back. lol. -------------
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