What would you do? Warning - LONG!

Despite the title...in some ways I think I'm putting this up so I can hopefully get a bit of perspective on things!

I had a d&c just over 3 weeks ago. We have decided that we want to continue ttc'ing. I have had 3 m/c in a row and also one about 8 years ago, and each time it has taken me about 3 months to get preg again. (only had 1 d&c)

I have just started back at the gym last week as I'd like to lose some weight....well alot really, 20kg!

I was going to wait to lose the weight, but thought that I'm not getting any younger (34 next month..eeek) and would hopefully lose a bit before actually falling preg anyway. So that decision was made lol.

Then I decided..(i'm an impulsive person) that I wanted to pick some training that I had left 4 years ago. As it turns out, it is fully time via correspondence..even thou the institute is in same town as me. I made this decision and within a week I had signed up and have received my course material! Officially start on monday.

Then.....I get a call from (of all places) the baby factory asking me to come in for a job interview! I had contacted them in feb, but didn't go to the interview. And they contacted e back yesterday asking if I'd like to come in for an interview today! So I went along. This position is for 2 weekdays and a saturday and oncall another day. The lady is keen for me, but the decision isn't hers. She'll get back to me on tuesday either way.

Soooo.....I am really confused what I should do. I'd really like to ttc and realise I am getting older and dont really want to wait. But who knows how long it would take.
If I take the job, I'd feel guilty if I got preg soon and would have to tell them. She said another girl got preg after not being there long and had to leave. She didn't sound upset but said that happens a lot. I'm not surprised, a lot prob get clucky working there lol.

And if I do take the job, then how on earth will I study full time! Technically I can withdraw and not lose any money because you do get 8 days to do so. It was a $5000 course (student loan!), but I don't want to waste it.

I know that I could also get preg while studying, but seeming its at home, im sure i can deal with that.

Hmmmm have i left anything out? Oh, I already have 3 kids.....8, 14 and nearly 16. My partner and I don't have kids together though, and he doesn't have any at all...except taking on my lot lol.

So probably not really asking what you would do, as everyone would have a different view.
But I'm so confused! I don't have the job yet, but trying to work all this out incase I do!

If you have got this far, thanks for reading :)
Yes, any input would be appreciated :)

Sometimes I wish I had a crystal ball for these types of situations. It's not easy trying to make decisions like this and my heart goes out to you.

I suppose if it was me, firstly I would go with what my gut told me. I have learnt this from experience as a few times I have ignored it and made the wrong decision.

Then I would divide all of this up into 2 decisions and make them independantly i.e. don't make your decision based on the other decision (does that make sense??).
The first decision I would make is do I want another baby and if so then keep TTC.
The other would be do I want the job, business or to study. Don't make this decision based on the TTC decision as TTC could take 1 mth or several (sorry!!). So I wouldn't turn down the job for instance just because you may be pg soon, as you said it happens often so they must get used to it. One thing to consider is that having the nail business may mean you can work from home after baby is born (my SIL hopes to do this with her nail/beauty therapy once they decide to have kids) and maybe spend more time with your children.

I don't know if I have helped at all. Good luck with whatever you decide to do

ETA: saw your additional post after posting mine

Edited by Linzy

Hi Nef,  How bad would you feel if you got pregnany really quickly and"let your employer down"?  Not very....you would be so damn happy it wouldnt matter.  I say live your life and let what happens happen.  Falling pregnant in the middle of your plans would not be the worst thing in your case....possibly the best.  Good luck!

Think what is really important to you. You do want a baby so that isnt a question. But that in the back of your mind now. As soon as I did that and actually concentrated on the other parts of my life I fell pregnant (had a few mc's myself)

So then do you want to study or work? You can perhaps do both. Study parttime (if you can) and work.

The thing with TTC and age is that you do have the clock ticking so although I could understand why you would want to wait a bit...maybe that would only be for a couple of months. Even if you got pregnant in a couple of months you would still end up being there for approx a year which is still quite a good length of time

Nerefiti- you and I have very similar sounding lives in lots of ways!

I would second what NZPiper said...ie keep living your life and if that means losing some weight and starting to train or study then so be it. It's impossible to know when or if you are going to fall pg again....so you may as well be happy doing things you enjoy!  Only you know whether studying fulltime or working is the best option.

Me, I'm studying part time at uni and working part time..as well as looking after our (soon to be) adopted 5 year old. Life is fairly busy!  BUT I enjoy it. As for TTC, the clock *is* ticking (I'm 34) but not too loudly and after ttc for 9 months or so am now completely off the idea for the interim and am focusing instead on losing some weight...only 10 kilos or so but still, it gives me a focus over and above charting etc (which I was getting a little too obsessed with lol). I think I would actually be annoyed if I got pg now as I have life all perfectly lined up (although of course I wouldn't be...but you know what I mean...)....

At the end of the day you have a life to live and I don't think any of us can afford to live them in a state of 'what if'.....cos 'what if' may never happen. Every problem is solvable so if one arises or life suddenly turns down a different path then you *know* you would cope.....you just do.

Good luck!