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    Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:47pm
I've had to put Thomas in our room and close the door cuz he just wont stop crying. Everythings alright, he's not got a temp, he's fed, dry etc but he's doing that thing where when you dont look at them they are quiet, then when you look they start crying etc. Also when he's crying he's not going red in the face like they do when they're actually upset..
Is this the right thing to do? I know he's only little and cuddles dont hurt, but if I dont get to have dinner soon, i'm gonna starve to death (he's been doing this since 1pm this afternoon and HASNT slept) I've been awake since 3am this morning with him, managed to get him to sleep when I missioned out to get groceries, but that's it. He's so overtired poor little mite.
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Eat your dinner then go and get him, or if your partner is home get him to rock bubs whilst you eat your dinner and have a break from it or perhaps get your partner to take him for a drive might help settle him and will give you a bit of peace in the house for a few minutes.

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Will he settle if you pop him in the buggy and rock him? Worked a treat for Lauren in those early days!!
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Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do! I wouldn't leave him in there for hours on end, but you need a few mins break so fair enough! My gremlins once screamed for 20 hours straight, I ended up completely losing the plot and sitting on the driveway screaming at the top of my lungs, I'm suremy neighbours thought i was a nutcase!

Maybe once you've had a chance to regroup, put him in the buggy and rock him for a while and see if that will get him to sleep. Otherwise, if you've got a front pack or sling that might help.

I'd def recommend calling your m/w too coz she will have some more ideas.
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Snap Peachy!
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Originally posted by Maya Maya wrote:

Snap Peachy!


Whatever works ahy Emma
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man sounds like a long day for you, ya poor thing... i think i'd give the m/w a call too.

have you got anyone around that can give you a hand or some moral support?
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awww hun!! i hope you got to eat your dinner with a little peace
has he settled since? do you have a bouncinette chair thingee with a vibration setting? sometimes that helped getting my 2 sprogs to sleep....also pushing the pram over a bump, like when carpet goes to lino....or maybe just lying in bed with him snuggled up beside you

i'd call the mw too and she what she suggests

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and to answer your question......yes you are doing the right thing! sometimes you just got to do what you got to do before you go completely insane. he's fed, burped with a clean bum so he'll be ok for a little while

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MissAngel, as you've mentioned you know he's clean, dry, fed etc etc, just tired. Crying for a little while won't hurt Thomas at all but time out will give you time to recompose yourself and get something to eat to refuel. I left my eldest for 20mins once (mw was there and trying to teach me about controlled crying etc) whilst I sat outside, had a cup of tea and got myself together again. But yeah, rocking in buggy can work a treat, as well as front packs and slings which give baby similar sensatin as when in tummy giving you freedom to move and carry on with whatever you want.

Lol Maya bout the screaming thing (neighbours part I mean, not the kids crying for 20 hours). I enjoy your posts they keep it real
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I always remember the antenatal teacher saying if you are at the end of your tether, put them in a safe place and walk out to the letterbox and back, then make a cup of tea....then go back and give them cuddles.

 

God I remember those days......still get them now but feel so much better about dealing with it....confidence does come...sometime.

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Sorry for not replying, I ended up putting him in his room, eating dinner, having a cup of tea and then grabbing him. He cried til after 11pm and then just stopped. Hasnt cried since.
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aww hun big hugs
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**hugs** MissAngel, I dont know what thats like jussstt yet, but I agree with nzpiper, our AN Clas teacher also said that if you feel like your at your wits end, place the baby safeley in the cot or bassinett and walk away for a few mins have a cup of tea, take some deep breaths then go back

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If he is crying a lot, you could try a trip to the chiropractor or oestopath?

Also, while he is so little, don't worry about creating "bad habits" - just feed or rock him to sleep - whatever works. You can get him to self settle later on.

Good luck!
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I made it a rule to eat just after Jack had eaten so I would always get food at a time when he was going to be the happiest. Didn't matter if he was crying or anything else, I just did it. That was after my mum had given Jack and I a talking to about his mummy needing food and sleep. You do what you need to do to survive, as long as he is safe it doesn't matter.
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Originally posted by 2bmumof3 2bmumof3 wrote:


Lol Maya bout the screaming thing (neighbours part I mean, not the kids crying for 20 hours). I enjoy your posts they keep it real


Awww, thanks

My mum reckons she spent most of my infancy hanging out in the back garden so she couldn't hear me screaming...
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